I really need to vent.

[runaways]

My grandpa passed away yesterday afternoon. He's been declining for quite a while, but he wasn't critical. We got a text that he had some kind of intracranial bleed and he passed a few hours later. We're all very sad obviously, but in some ways it's almost a relief just because he's been lingering for so long.

Out of 6 members of my immediate family, my brother is the only one who is even in the country right now. One sister and parents in Europe, other sister and I in South America. It's making it very difficult to communicate about what's going on. It looks like the funeral will be on Saturday. I'm supposed to fly back Saturday night overnight, my sister is supposed to be here for another month, DH is moving us into our new place this week with all the furniture to be moved this weekend, and he starts his new job
Monday.

My parents have offered to pay to fly both my sister and I home if we want to come back(they were already returning Wednesday) but it's going to be on the order of thousands of dollars. Obviously we want to be there but...I don't know. That's a lot of money and I'm just not sure what the best thing is for us to do here. We are finally going to get to talk to them later this evening and sort it out I guess. It's just really stressing me out. And I feel so, so terrible that none of us were there.

[runblondie26]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry that's a decision you have to wrestle with...a lot to think about. Hugs.

[hannahb]

I'm so sorry for your loss. We are dealing with my grandmother at the moment (went into hospice yesterday) and the whole process is exhausting even from only 2 hrs away.

[kams]

Oh man, I am so sorry. Deciding on whether or not the come home early or not is a terrible decision, and I am so sorry you have to make it while grieving. I don't think either choice is wrong, for what it's worth.

You'll be in my heart and my thoughts.

[clseale]

What do you feel like you need to do? I know it's a lot of money, but I would put that aside when making this decision. Do you need the closure of being there? Do you need to be there for the parent that just lost their parent? I'm not talking about what you feel like you SHOULD do, I'm talking about what you feel you need in your grieving process. How will you feel if you're not there?

I'm sorry for your loss, and that you have the extra stress of being out of country. I hope you will feel better about your choice, after speaking to your family. ((hugs))

[enfuego23]

I'm so sorry for your loss:(

[bostonmichelle]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[gt7301b]

(hug) runaways (hug2)  I'm sorry for your loss.

I know this is an obvious question, but can they have the funeral on Sunday rather than Saturday so you can make it?  I wouldn't worry about the money if you feel like you need to be there. 

My step-grandfather passed away this year and I was out of town, had to rebook flights, and find someone to pick me up at the airport but in the end I was glad that I did it.

[karenj]

I am so sorry about your Grandpa

[no0b]

Hugs

[libbygrl109]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'd do what's in your heart.

[emilyinchile]

Hugs, I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you can figure out the best decision in terms of your flights...having been in a similar situation I did choose to take the last minute $$$ flight to be with family, and I never felt that my dad regretted spending the money on that.

[sitnspin]

I am so sorry for you loss

[Raggedeannie]

I'm sorry for your loss. My grandfather passed away when I was on a 10-day trip to visit my then-bf (now H). It's a hard decision to make. For me, since attending his funeral would not get me any more time WITH him, I decided not to cut my trip short.

Hugs to you.

[skwcm80]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with everyone else that you should do what feels right for you. (((Hugs)))

[cinco]

I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[runaways]

Thanks so so much for your thoughts everyone. I think we're going to go ahead and book tickets back once they confirm Saturday for the funeral.

[G22]

I'm sorry for your loss. ((hugs))

[Susie]

You've gotten some good advice from pp's, just wanted to send hugs. It's such a hard thing to deal with.

[emuni04]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[sadlebred]

I am very sorry for your loss.

[Brit]

I'm so sorry, what a tough situation.