s/o not STTN- what would you do? Long

[pierogigirl]

DS2 is 7 months and goes to sleep at 7:30. He goes right down, usually very drowsy, but sometimes he falls asleep nursing first. He sleeps until 10-11 and then is up to nurse. He used to nurse for 10 min and go right back to sleep until his next feeding (he is usually up 3X each night), but not the last 2 nights.

He was up at 10 and nursed, and then cried off and on from 11-12(but mostly on). He was fine if I was holding him, and I gave him Tylenol in case he was having teething pain so I don't think anything was "wrong." Nursed at 12, and then cried and nursed again at 4. 12-4 is kind of a blur - I don't remember him being up, but he might have been. I finally brought him to bed with me at 4 because I was tired and I didn't want him to wake up DS1, who is an early riser.

Other info: DS2 still sleeps in our room because of his night nursing. We sleep trained DS1 who was an absolutely awful sleeper (but he couldn't fall asleep on his own at night and DS2 can) and he is now a decent sleeper. DS2 only naps on me. I have tried everything to get him in a crib or pnp, but he screams and will not nap. I think daycare will fix this; they did for DS1. I am OK with him nursing at night if he goes back down easily. He has started to crawl and has only gained 2 ounces in the last month so I wanted him to have the calories. I return to work in late August and I do want him to sleep better by then - it does not have to be STTN. I'd be fine if he went back to waking to eat then going back to sleep right away.

Questions: Would you move him to his own room right next to DS1? Would you night wean? Would you sleep train? Any other ideas?

[thedash]

Since this was such a sudden change in his sleep habits, and you're not back to work yet I'd probably wait a week or two before changing anything. Just to make sure he's OK and it isn't teething or something else. But I think it's time for sleep training if you are comfortable with it now. He should probably be in his own room soon and it may help with STTN.

We left DS in our room until about that age and looking back I think it was a bit too long, but not a big deal in the long run.

[mmmomof2]

Dd2 went through a similar phase. I think it was a combo of teething, working through a new skill, and a little manipulation (ooh look she comes when I cry!). All phases pass, but I know it sucks. We let her cry a little after nursing, but only for a few minutes. Last night she only woke up once, but I couldn't get her back down so she ended up in our bed. Whomp whomp.

[Shreddingbetty]

At that age DD was waking up twice a night usually but there will always be night that are worse. She would not nap in her crib until she was almost 15 months old. Daycare did not change that. She would sleep in the crib at daycare without a problem just not at home (she napped in her swing). She slept in her crib at night without any problems. DD still gets up once at night to nurse now and I don't have a problem with it so I will continue for now. She's in a room that is attached (she's about 6 ft from my bed) to ours. Personally I wouldn't sleep train or night wean or move him to his own room but that is a personal decision. He is still little

[curbsideprophet]

It has only been two nights, not sure I would change anything at this point.

If you moved him, he would be in the same room as DS1? I would potentially try moving him out of your room. I think it was around 8 months that we moved DD to her room to see how that would impact her sleep. She would sleep in her crib for the first portion of the evening. When she woke up DH would go get her and bring her to me to feed her. Then I would put her in the pack-n-play next to our bed. At some point this switched to me just feeding her in her room and putting her back in her crib if she wakes up in the middle of the night. This worked fairly well for us, but she is the only one in her room. Not sure how having an older child in the room would impact her sleep. Do either child currently sleep with white noise?

I probably would not try to cut out nursing sessions, I would try to let him drop those on this own. I probably would not sleep train.

[pierogigirl]

To answer some questions: DS2 has his own room. It is right next to DS1's room. They both use sound machines.

I'm going to see how he does tonight. I may start putting him in his room to start the night and move him to the pack and play if he's fussy in the middle of the night. My plan was always to sleep train around a year unless he starts sleeping on his own, or gets so bad that I need to do it sooner.