2 tiny heartbeats

[persa]

Craziness.

How did you decide when to tell?

We're debating telling our parents/families now. 2 close friends, my acupuncturist and my SIL know I'm pregnant (still feels weird saying that) and you guys and my local TTTC board. SIL doesn't know it's twins.

My mom knows we did IVF but since she doesn't really understand the science of it, we've been faking her out for weeks.

There's a part of me that wants to tell our parents and siblings soon (maybe after next week's u/s) to continue to have good thoughts and support (and plus, holy shit, how am I going to keep this a secret for much longer?!) but there's the part of me that is a little hesitant, in case it doesn't go well.

[MrsAggie]

The only reason why I'm waiting two more weeks to tell my parents is because both H and I are working this weekend so we have to wait to tell them in person.

It's killing me!!

My BFFs already know because otherwise I would implode with this secret

Congrats again on your TWO little munchkins!

[linz]

Yay!!! My parents knew only because they knew we did IVF. My bff knows and a couple friends IRL who also did IF treatment. Other than that no one knows. I have an u/s Thursday so Mother's day we are telling H's parents and his sister, grandparents, and letting them tell rest of the family. I never planned to tell right away. Yes it's hard, but at the same time it's so much fun keeping it a secret. But once I found out it was twins I was terrified of losing one (still am). So wanted to wait as close to 12 weeks as possible.

We don't plan to tell anyone we did treatment though. IVF is still a sensitive subject with me. We will tell H's parents we had help from a Dr but I know they won't assume that's why we got twins - I more just want them to understand if I've seemed crazy/sad the past 2 years. I know we'll get asked if we fertility stuff from people and I will just tell them it was a nice surprise.

[azurely]

The only people who know so far are the people who knew we were doing IVF, so they've known since we found out: my parents, my brother and his fiancee, and two of my best friends.

We have our first tri scan on Friday morning, and I'll be 13w on Sunday, so we are planning to tell H's parents and his sister and BIL this weekend.

We'll tell our grandparents in person next week sometime, then I'll call my aunt, uncle, and cousins I'm really close to and my best friend from college. After that, I don't really care who finds out when.

As for work, I'll tell my boss next week sometime and the co-workers I'm closest to, then just let word spread. I probably won't say anything to my students and just see how long it takes them to figure it out. I'm very anti-AW so I don't want to do any big announcement.

[kershnic]

Congrats! My sister knew most of the play by play of our TTC, including the + beta for this pregnancy and the first u/s that showed 2 gestational sacs, etc. A few online communities I'm part of knew from the beginning too. Everyone else in RL waited until 13+ weeks because I was so terrified of miscarriage. In retrospect I missed a lot of pregnancy fun because I was so anxious - so if you can avoid that embrace your happiness and tell away.

[linz]

Oh and for work my supervisor already knows - it was easier to tell since I had to take a lot of time off/come in late. A coworker I'm close to also knows. I'm telling the rest of the dept at 12 weeks only because we have a dept lunch so it will be easier to announce. Plus my work pants already make me look like I'm getting fat so not sure how much longer I can hide it.

[azurely]

May 6, 2014 14:21:01 GMT -5 linz said:

Plus my work pants already make me look like I'm getting fat so not sure how much longer I can hide it.

Me too. I tried putting on a pair of capris this morning that fit fine a few weeks ago, and they were way too snug. I just look like I've eaten way too many cupcakes though, I'm ready to have a cute bump in a few weeks.

[linz]

May 6, 2014 15:19:43 GMT -5 azurely said:

May 6, 2014 14:21:01 GMT -5 linz said:

Plus my work pants already make me look like I'm getting fat so not sure how much longer I can hide it.

Me too. I tried putting on a pair of capris this morning that fit fine a few weeks ago, and they were way too snug. I just look like I've eaten way too many cupcakes though, I'm ready to have a cute bump in a few weeks.

I'm hoping the weather stays nice and I might just live in maxi skirts all summer. Screw pants

[persa]

I'm of course scared of miscarriage as well, especially with my age, I'm higher risk. And I mentioned in a previous post that my 2 coworkers who had twin IVF pregnancies both only had one living baby. So I'm realistic about that part.

I definitely don't think I'd be good at keeping it a secret for the whole first tri.

I'd love to tell our parents this weekend being Mother's day but I think we'll most likely wait. It would probably be good to get another US or two under our belts before we do.