Identifying As Sex Positive

[ttt]

I guess I am sex negative then because I am really not interested in other people's kinks or sex lives. Don't want to hear about that, thanks. Don't care what you do, sorry.

Eta: I also feel like out of all the problems facing this world (hello climate change and antibiotic resistant bacteria and the reemergence of polio!) the problem of "breaking free of sequel binaries" is seriously not on my list of priorities. No one is going to care about sex positivity when we are all fighting over the last arable square mile in the world!

[Wrath0fKuus]

Hrm. A lot of what is said here sounds good, and healthy, but in practice, I've found the "sex-positive" movement to be a smokescreen for propping up the status quo - a lot of recommendation to just accept sexual norms and ideas as-is regardless of how they are influenced by the larger society, and a lot of backlash and criticism toward people who don't treat sexuality as though it exists spherically on a frictionless surface.

[ttt]

May 7, 2014 15:59:09 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

May 7, 2014 15:55:09 GMT -5 ttt said:

No one is going to care about sex positivity when we are all fighting over the last arable square mile in the world!

true. no one is going to care what our makeup looks like either but 180+ pages later..........

That is true! But then no one in the makeup thread seems to be taking it nearly as seriously as this author is about sex positivity. She seems to think this is a hugely major pressing issue and I guess I just....dont.

[heyjude]

I'm a feminist and makeup positive.

[pixy0stix]

Although if we're all going to bite the big one in the climate apocalypse, might as well bite as many people as we can along the way.

[ESF]

[heyjude]

May 7, 2014 16:07:40 GMT -5 ESF said:

Co sign.

[heyjude]

I wonder if being sex negative is some sort of kink?

[IIOY]

I see the words "sex positive," ergo I refuse to read this.

[Deleted]

It's almost a unity horse.

[lasagnasshole]

May 7, 2014 16:43:35 GMT -5 @helenabonhamcarter said:

It's almost a unity horse.

I think we may have to change the phrase to unity duck after ESF's contribution to this thread.

[tef]

I can say I am sex positive as long as it doesn't include prostitution/sex work. In all honesty, I think that is where some lose people in explaining sex positive. It is any form of consensual sex. 99.9% of sex workers aren't really in a consensual act, Imo (since I am bringing it back to PCE).

[irishbride2]

I'm sex neutral. I just really don't care what you do.

Sex positive makes it sound like i must actively glorify everything everyone does. And I really just don't care.

[lasagnasshole]

May 7, 2014 17:18:32 GMT -5 tef said:

I can say I am sex positive as long as it doesn't include prostitution/sex work. In all honesty, I think that is where some lose people in explaining sex positive. It is any form of consensual sex. 99.9% of sex workers aren't really in a consensual act, Imo (since I am bringing it back to PCE).

ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!

(Just don't film it, OBVS.)

[tef]

May 7, 2014 17:54:24 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

May 7, 2014 17:18:32 GMT -5 tef said:

I can say I am sex positive as long as it doesn't include prostitution/sex work. In all honesty, I think that is where some lose people in explaining sex positive. It is any form of consensual sex. 99.9% of sex workers aren't really in a consensual act, Imo (since I am bringing it back to PCE).

ABORT! ABORT! ABORT!

(Just don't film it, OBVS.)

Ha, actually, I was thinking less porn and more prostitution.  I do think many in the porn industry do give consent...at least in this country.

[josieposy]

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[aurora]

I like "unity duck. "

[gpw]

May 7, 2014 16:15:01 GMT -5 IIOY said:

I see the words "sex positive," ergo I refuse to read this.

::sits next to IIOY::

[PinkSquirrel]

I think I'm generally sex positive, but this article misses a huge component that I see in many of the people who I know who fully claim to be sex positive. Prostitution is a good example. I can support someones right to consensually have sex for money, but also have a problem with the system in which that happens.

I have a massive problem with the fact that many people end up in prostitution because they feel like they have no other options. That is not ok. The way legal prostitution plays out in Nevada is gross. The only difference is that the pimps are legal.

I don't judge the prostitute and I do feel like they have a right to have sex however they choose to without judgement, but I judge the system hard.

[Velar Fricative]

This unity duck is no fun. Guess this thread won't turn out the way the last sex-positive thread turned out.

[Deleted]

[NitaX]

May 7, 2014 17:47:27 GMT -5 irishbride2 said:

I'm sex neutral. I just really don't care what you do.

Sex positive makes it sound like i must actively glorify everything everyone does. And I really just don't care.

This. 

Also, I'm sorry, but I am visual. When people describe things, I get a visual picture in my mind. I'm sorry, but I'm just not really interested in getting a visual of your freak-nasty Uncle Luke style sexual antics. That doesn't make me sex negative or ashamed of sex. I just really ain't trying to hear all the details of what you're doing on the regular. 

It's one thing if we're sitting around having a conversation that's all light and we share some funny stories. But to me, sometimes sex positive folks come off like a streaker - they run up and shove their dicks in your face a and swing it like I should be happy to see/hear about it. No. Stop that shit.