It's the day before Friday

[cuddlyevil]

What's going on today?

Cute office neighbor passed my office and said hi. Then stopped and came back after I said hi. We talked for a bit (about the weather b/c it's nice out) and he went on his way.

[Deleted]

It's going to be hot as hades. Time to start making iced coffee.

[Muddled]

My legs hurt. Owie.

[cuddlyevil]

May 8, 2014 8:40:02 GMT -5 doglove said:

It's going to be hot as hades. Time to start making iced coffee.

I am considering starting to cold brew my coffee.

[neonpink]

Today has been crazy. It is H's birthday today. My car that is registered in his name didn't pass emissions. I just got it back this morning. I had to drive around to have the computer acknowledge the car. All for the lovely tune of 800 bucks. I also picked up some Birthday decorations to decorate our house over my lunch break and some graduation ones for next week.The car passed the emissions test and I paid for the tag renewal. Now to actual do my job.

[partiallysunny]

I'm tired today and I don't know why.

Today's my second run! It's suppose to be really hot. Yuk.

[margarita]

May 8, 2014 9:21:12 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

I'm tired today and I don't know why.

Today's my second run! It's suppose to be really hot. Yuk.

You can do eeeeeet!

[tiramisu]

I overslept so I have to get ready really quickly. Blah.

I had a date last night. The place we ended up going was loud and it was hard to talk. In addition, there was really just no chemistry. Oh well.

[exploding people]

I had to wait for the bus in the rain today, and it's probably going to be worse going home. I love a good thunderstorm but they're much better when I don't have to leave home.

[gault]

I actually got up, dressed, and through the city in rush hour traffic and rain to make it to my therapy appointment at 8:30. And I'm not even tired! Way to go, bod. It went well. I think it will be a good match.

[starrieskies]

I'm super busy today, but not really motivated. Here are some random thoughts.

I told stbx about the court date. He said he probably won't go if they're not going to take his input into consideration.

Stbx wants to drop DS off at my house Saturday afternoon (around 2:00)instead of me picking him up on Sunday morning for Mother's Day. Now, that's all fine and dandy, but this is his first weekend since being in Vegas to spend with his son and it bothers me that he's so eager to get rid of him. Also, I was supposed to go out with beach guy Saturday night... Is it completely selfish and stupid of me to tell stbx that he needs to keep DS Saturday and I will pick him up Sunday at 9 per our parenting plan?

[partiallysunny]

May 8, 2014 11:59:46 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

I'm super busy today, but not really motivated. Here are some random thoughts.

I told stbx about the court date. He said he probably won't go if they're not going to take his input into consideration.

Stbx wants to drop DS off at my house Saturday afternoon (around 2:00)instead of me picking him up on Sunday morning for Mother's Day. Now, that's all fine and dandy, but this is his first weekend since being in Vegas to spend with his son and it bothers me that he's so eager to get rid of him. Also, I was supposed to go out with beach guy Saturday night... Is it completely selfish and stupid of me to tell stbx that he needs to keep DS Saturday and I will pick him up Sunday at 9 per our parenting plan?

Not selfish at all. You already made plans.

[cuddlyevil]

Not selfish at all starrieskies. You have plans, he can make other arrangements.

[starrieskies]

Well, the plans were not really concrete, but if I'm being honest that's not really the main issue for me. It bothers me that now that the newness of our separation and impending divorce is wearing off, stbx is showing just how important spending time with DS really is. This is the last weekend he will have DS for 2 weeks (I have next weekend and Memorial Day Weekend) AND he just spent a week away from him too. If I were in his shoes, I'd be offering to drop DS off on Sunday morning just so I could spend MORE time with him, not trying to get rid of him earlier. I want DS to be a priority to him and it pisses me off that he's not.

[cuddlyevil]

I agree starrieskies.

I am kind of getting the same way with stbx and his OT at work. I am trying to be flexible about it, but I am not going to stop making plans--it's your weekend with them, figure it out.

[partiallysunny]

[starrieskies]

But then I feel like I'm being a hypocrite by saying that "if it was me, I'd want as much time with DS as I could have" and then saying I want him to stay with his dad so I can have a break... The difference of course is that I have DS most of the time, and have not had much time to myself. The logical part of my brain understands, but the rest of me kind of feels bad.

[cuddlyevil]

I'm sitting next to you on that bench Starries.

[partiallysunny]

That's very understandable starries.

[starrieskies]

I'll probably tak DS a little bit later in the afternoon on Saturday so I can do an early dinner with beach guy. 2:00 is just too early.

[partiallysunny]

starrieskies you know it's important for your son to spend time with his father just as you know it's important for you to get some alone time. Doesn't matter your plans weren't set in stone. You do you, honey. If it was an emergency, sure. You know it's not so don't feel guilty and don't go changing your entire Sunday to accommodate this selfish douchcanoe.

[gault]

Don't feel guilty for wanting to honor pre-set plans, starrieskies. Hugs.

[neonpink]

Starries don't feel guilty you need to tell stbx that the plans have to stay. I feel if you start letting him change plans it will happen more often. You love your son, but you also need some time to yourself.

[Muddled]

Don't overthink this, Starries. The custody agreement exists for a reason.


I saw a girl get hit by a car today. She was ok, but it really shook me.

[cuddlyevil]

Yeesh...I am glad she's okay Muddled.

[partiallysunny]

Wow Muddled. I can see how you would be shaken. Glad she's okay.

[Muddled]

Sorry to have posted and run. She will be ok, but sore for a while. That intersection is a total disaster and it's surprising that this is the first one I've actually seen as it happened. I've seen the aftermath a few times.

[starrieskies]

Oooh wow, Muddled! That would be traumatic!

I told Stbx that I would just pick up DS on Sunday morning. He looked disappointed, but I pretended not to notice.

In other randomness, no nickname guy texted me out of the blue. I haven't heard from him in such a long time it was strange. I ended the conversation pretty quickly.