Keep focused on that bottle of wine girl. And I'd recommend some chocolate to go with it. Good for recovering after a dementor attack or a soul sucking ex.
I missed the part where the new girl moved in??? I knew she showed up for the necklace, but thought that was that. When did you learn that he is maintaining a relationship with this person and that she is keeping her things at the house?
I'm so glad you called someone. No one should have to go through that alone. Your ex is a piece of shit - I can't believe any human being with an ounce of heart would put you in the position you're in. If it wasn't already clear, you are so much better off without him! ((hugs))
HC, here's to you for moving on despite betrayal and loss. I'm glad your friend will be there to help. May the road rise up to meet you and the wind be always at your back. :drink:
Post by thatgirl2478 on May 9, 2014 10:31:53 GMT -5
wow - i can't believe she actually moved in! What a bitch.
I don't 100% know your situation, so I'm not sure if you covered this (you seem smart though, so I'll bet you did), but if you two owned the house together he had better of bought you out of your half if he's keeping it.
I'm so glad you called your friend. Difficult things are easier to bear when your friends have your back.
I can't believe how horribly you're being treated by your stbxh and his gf. Just sniff in the tears and hold your head high, because you're the one who is taking the high road.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Um, wow. I missed the part where she is now living there. The silver lining is that you must be feeling some closure about your decision to file, yes? What an unbelievable ass. And what an idiot she is for being a rebound divorce girl.
I'm glad your friend is coming. I highly encourage you to finish packing and go have a liquid lunch together. Then treat yourself to something pretty This is likely the worst part, sweetie. Get through today and it's all up and forward.
I'm so glad you called your friend. I have been where you are and it sucks. You aren't the first person to go through this, and you won't be the last.... please take comfort knowing that it will get much better from here on out. This is probably the lowest part and by tonight it will be behind you. You have so many bright days ahead!
Post by amberlyrose on May 9, 2014 11:26:43 GMT -5
I'm so sorry your ex is such an asshole. I've helped a friend out in a situation like this and I was so happy to do so if it meant she was going to be happy in the end
I like the idea of taking all the TP. Maybe put some ex lax in the milk or something, too!
I'm so glad you'll have a friend there. As everyone else has said, I would absolutely want to be there to support a friend if they were going through something like that. I hope it goes quickly and that you love your new place.
Post by lexxasaurus on May 9, 2014 11:32:52 GMT -5
I've been that friend for someone, and it was awkward, but I would so rather have been there for them than leave them to deal with it alone. I've also called a friend to be there for me, and it made it 1000x easier.
I hope you can get it done quickly and having someone there makes you feel a little better.
I hope packing is going smoothly and incident-free.
YAY for your own place! You will feel SO much better tomorrow, trust! And each day after that, too.
I've told this anecdote before, but when I went to exH's house to get the last of my stuff (he was out of town), I found a love note on the bed from his teenage fuck buddy and a bunch of condoms in the trash. I almost grabbed a knife to stab the note into the bed, but instead I just took all the condoms out of his nightstand.
When I found out an exBF was cheating and packed my shit to move out, I took everything that I had bought. Every dish, every utensil. The bed linens. Every single towel and washcloth. The drinking glasses. The dining room table and chairs. The end tables. I ran into his friend at a local bar a few weeks later and he was like "Uh, so, I was at your apartment the other weekend, and it looks homeless. Damn."
Post by gullterre15 on May 9, 2014 12:07:57 GMT -5
HC, just think about Sunday morning in your own place! I love the comment about "Leave him looking homeless!!!"
Also, to PPs (back me up HC if I'm right) I didn't think she had officially moved in, she was just staying there a lot of the time and kept a lot of her crap there?
I would totally be there for my friend if she needed me. I'd let her pack, while I'm doing the toothbrush thing and maybe adding some fish in a AC vent..