Does your spouse do this?

[twotrue]

K just called me from CA with a list of things she needed me to do. The list including calling the car rental company for the car SHE is renting. She needed to extend the reservation a day. Why can't she call? I didn't ask because it's not that big of a deal, but she does this stuff all the time. She asks me to call people/places that really SHE needs to call.

I consider the "chores" my part of paying the mortgage

Does your DH/DW/SO do this?

[ElsaVonM]

Not really - I do most of the shopping and errands because I don't mind running around and it's easier for me since she is a 24/7 breastfeeding machine these days. But for the most we each take care of our own boring crap.

I hate calling people, so I do occasionally ask Jen to call the bank, etc. for me - especially if we need to dispute something. If she doesn't want to do it she does not hesitate to say no

[hensmum]

Yes. I am generally our phone call maker, even if it would be better for her to call (I often pretend to be her - benefits of being gay :-P ). Unless it's something that REALLY has nothing at all to do with me, like C's student loans.

[bluedaisyus]

I am usually the one that makes calls, but that's in large part due to the fact that I can call places while I'm at work and she can't, and I don't make calls that are for her, just things that are family-related (like calling to ask a question about a bill, scheduling things, etc). She doesn't like to call to oder food, either, so if it's somewhere we can't order from online she'll often ask me to do it, and I don't care. She wouldn't do that if we weren't both eating from the same place. There is no way she would call me and me to change her car reservation while she was away.

[twotrue]

Jul 17, 2012 14:38:08 GMT -5 bluedaisyus said:

I There is no way she would call me and me to change her car reservation while she was away.

Because she is normal. My wife is not.

[kershnic]

Yeah, we each definitely take care of our stuff when its just for ourselves. But we split most things pretty evenly - I suspect my mom would call the rental car company for my dad, as K is asking you to do. Just like my mom would go on a business trip and still come home to do my dads laundry and dishes. Dw would never stand for that.

[ct]

my answer is similar to blue's - I'm responsible for pretty much all the household or family calls and general management. But if she called me to make a phone call for her while she was away and I was at home solo parenting? Oh hell no. the shiz would hit the fan.

[2brides]

Jul 17, 2012 18:26:11 GMT -5 ct said:

my answer is similar to blue's - I'm responsible for pretty much all the household or family calls and general management. But if she called me to make a phone call for her while she was away and I was at home solo parenting? Oh hell no. the shiz would hit the fan.

Ditto.

[twotrue]

Jul 17, 2012 18:26:11 GMT -5 ct said:

But if she called me to make a phone call for her while she was away and I was at home solo parenting? Oh hell no. the shiz would hit the fan.

lol! Well in her defense she asked me to do it while I was at work, which is in most way more flexible than when I'm at home with the kiddo. I teased her about it and made her tell me that she is very very luck to have such a wonderful wife

[thiswillbe]

Oh YES, S does this *all the time*. Seriously! With stuff that's TOTALLY HERS.

The times it really gets to me is when she needs to make an appointment or something, and she wants me to call for her. So I end up getting her schedule, calling the place, calling S back to confirm she can take the appt, calling the place back to confirm she can take it... it goes on and on. I mean seriously, pick up the phone, lady! A 2-minute task takes me 30+ to do with all the coordinating.

And that's why she's been needing to go to the dentist for a month and hasn't yet gone. :-P

[twotrue]

Jul 18, 2012 11:20:05 GMT -5 thiswillbe said:

Oh YES, S does this *all the time*. Seriously! With stuff that's TOTALLY HERS.

The times it really gets to me is when she needs to make an appointment or something, and she wants me to call for her. So I end up getting her schedule, calling the place, calling S back to confirm she can take the appt, calling the place back to confirm she can take it... it goes on and on. I mean seriously, pick up the phone, lady! A 2-minute task takes me 30+ to do with all the coordinating.

And that's why she's been needing to go to the dentist for a month and hasn't yet gone. :-P

Can we please live closer to each other? Our families are so alike. And our kids obviously were meant to be playmates with the way they took to each other over dinner at the gtg. I know you just bought a new house and all, but would you mind forgetting that and moving up North?

[hensmum]

Jul 18, 2012 11:20:05 GMT -5 thiswillbe said:

So I end up getting her schedule, calling the place, calling S back to confirm she can take the appt, calling the place back to confirm she can take it...

This sounds all too familiar!!!

[thiswillbe]

Jul 18, 2012 12:20:46 GMT -5 twotrue said:

Jul 18, 2012 11:20:05 GMT -5 thiswillbe said:

Oh YES, S does this *all the time*. Seriously! With stuff that's TOTALLY HERS.

The times it really gets to me is when she needs to make an appointment or something, and she wants me to call for her. So I end up getting her schedule, calling the place, calling S back to confirm she can take the appt, calling the place back to confirm she can take it... it goes on and on. I mean seriously, pick up the phone, lady! A 2-minute task takes me 30+ to do with all the coordinating.

And that's why she's been needing to go to the dentist for a month and hasn't yet gone. :-P

Can we please live closer to each other? Our families are so alike. And our kids obviously were meant to be playmates with the way they took to each other over dinner at the gtg. I know you just bought a new house and all, but would you mind forgetting that and moving up North?

:Y: :Y: We may not be able to move up there, but we do have 2 extra bedrooms...

[clickerish]

I make the majority of the phone calls, yes. But I am okay with it mainly because she gets very frustrated when the dingaling on the other line doesn't understand her accent or treats her like a three year old for having one. I feel this is a fair sacrifice since she has to live in a country where people do that to her, whereas I do not have this problem.

She does, however, manage her own banking and so forth online. It's the phone calls she can't stand.

[hlke]

I registered just to reply to this thread! You are not alone!

I actually make many phone calls willingly for C, as she will procrastinate them endlessly if she has to do them herself. So I totally do the four calls to get schedule/get appointment/confirm/confirm ALL THE TIME. I schedule C's doctor and dentist appointments and a number of misc. other things. She is FINALLY making an attempt to use a calendar that I can view online...but she doesn't really use the calendar correctly - she lists everything as an all day event, sometimes with a time. What? (Yes, I am married to the archetypical absent minded professor)

But to be fair, C works from home a lot and I am totally guilty of calling her all the time with "did I leave my lunch on the counter?" "can you take chicken out of the fridge?" "can you email me this document from our home computer?". So I'd say we have some give and take on this issue.