I should intro myself

[freshstart31]

Hi all - I've been lurking for quite a while because well, I don't know why. I come from TN. I think I did an intro over there but I don't remember so I'll do another one!

I'm Melissa. 32, divorce official in April (thank the LORD!). I consider myself divorced the minute that I left though, so 2 years ago. Still in therapy (best.thing.ever!). ExH is a complete douchecanoe and his GF is just as bad (she's been harassing me online but don't get me started on that). No kids but I do have 2 boxers, Taz and Tyson, who are my children. In a relationship (for almost a year, wow!) with a high school crush. He's so different than my ex and it makes me really happy to have reconnected with him.

So there's the cliff notes version - I'm more than happy to answer any questions!

[lookingup]

Hi Melissa, and welcome! I do have some questions.

1.) How long were you married to your H?
2.) What was the main reason you left him, in a nut shell?
3.) What is your favorite wine?
4.) If you could take a dream vacation in which money is no object, where would you go?

[riverpestie]

Hello and Welcome! I bet your dogs are cute!!! Do you have pics?

[freshstart31]

Jul 17, 2012 16:45:34 GMT -5 lookingup said:

Hi Melissa, and welcome! I do have some questions.

1.) How long were you married to your H? We were married a few months over 5 years
2.) What was the main reason you left him, in a nut shell? He told me he wanted a divorce - then I found out that he'd been having an affair off and on the entire duration of my marriage.
3.) What is your favorite wine? I LOVE Santa Margharita Pinot Grigio (I can't drink red wine because I'm allergic)
4.) If you could take a dream vacation in which money is no object, where would you go?

Somewhere warm and tropical - think Bora Bora/Tahiti. Or my standby is Maui.

[blackkitty]

Welcome :drink:

[freshstart31]

Jul 17, 2012 16:45:43 GMT -5 riverpestie said:

Hello and Welcome! I bet your dogs are cute!!! Do you have pics?

I don't have any on my work computer - I'll have to find one though and post it. They are cute little stinkers!

[Deleted]

Why is your X's gf contact you or harrassing you at all? and why can't you block her?

[freshstart31]

Jul 17, 2012 17:48:09 GMT -5 mags said:

Why is your X's gf contact you or harrassing you at all? and why can't you block her?

Well, she's harassing me on Pinterest and if anyone know's anything about that, you know that you can't block people. I've reported her to the Pinterest peeps but they flat out tell you (in their automated answer) that it isn't their top priority to "investigte" things of this nature. But, I'm working with my therapist to learn to let it go and not have it make me so angry. I'm also contemplating working with the authorities and her boss to get her to stop - it's especially bad because she's a cop. That's how she and the DB (short for douchebag, my NN for my ex) got to know eachother because he's a cop too.

[missbetty1]

Welcome...cops are NOT getting a good rap on here...just ask doris...

[bullygirl979]

Jul 17, 2012 17:54:33 GMT -5 @missbetty1 said:

Welcome...cops are NOT getting a good rap on here...just ask doris...

Ooh! And me too! XH was a cop.....and he also cheated. Hmmm....methinks maybe more than just sheer coincidence?!

Oh, and welcome BTW

[Deleted]

Hi and welcome!

[doriswe]

Jul 17, 2012 17:54:33 GMT -5 @missbetty1 said:

Welcome...cops are NOT getting a good rap on here...just ask doris...

*whispers* don't say it outloud....I'm afraid he'll come back!

And welcome!!!

[BlueBayou]

Hi and Welcome! Yay for boxer love! how wonderful that you found a good match so soon after your split (took me a few yrs lol). Im sorry to hear of the GF issue! If I may play devils advocate, are you sure there is nothing you or your friends are doing to incite/encourage anything? would seem odd after two years that all of a sudden she would be doing this? or has it been the whole time?

I would have to caution you on getting work involved on something that is a personal issue. Some people go crazy with that stuff, and it may start a whole new war you may not want...which could involve your work too. Especially if there is any chance you or your friends are doing anything to her as well.....Just wanted to toss out some advice. Have you thought of meeting with her , or emailing her to figure out what the issue is and how to resolve it?? Might work!

[mayflowers22]

Hi and welcome!