Post by karmasabiotch on Jun 2, 2014 12:34:30 GMT -5
Someone posted about their 11 year old son having a girlfriend that he talked with on the phone. This is one of the responses that was posted.
What is the purpose of dating? Dating should have an honorable purpose—to help a young man and woman determine if they want to get married to each other.
Granted, some of your peers might take a casual view of dating. Perhaps they simply enjoy being with a special friend of the opposite sex, without any intention of marriage. Some might even view such a friend as little more than a trophy or an accessory to be seen with in public to boost their own self-esteem.
Often, though, such shallow relationships are short-lived. “Many young ones who date break up with each other a week or two later,” says a girl named Heather. “They come to view relationships as transitory—which in a sense prepares them for divorce rather than for marriage.”
Clearly, when you date someone, you’re affecting that person’s feelings. So be sure your intentions are honorable.—Luke 6:31.
If you date with no intention of marriage, you are acting like a child who plays with a new toy and then discards it
Think: Would you like someone to play with your feelings as if they were some child’s toy—to be picked up for a moment and then quickly abandoned? Then don’t do that to someone else! The Bible says that love “does not behave indecently.”—1 Corinthians 13:4, 5.
A youth named Chelsea says: “Part of me wants to say that dating should be just for fun, but it’s no fun when one person is taking it seriously and the other isn’t.”
Tip: To prepare for dating and marriage, read 2 Peter 1:5-7 and pick one quality you need to work on. In a month’s time, see how much you have learned about—and improved in—that quality.
Am I old enough to date? At what age, do you think, is it appropriate for a youth to start dating? Now ask one of your parents the same question. Chances are, your answer is different from that of your parent. Or maybe not! You might be among the many youths who are wisely putting off dating until they’re old enough to know themselves better.
That’s what Danielle, 17, decided to do. She says: “Thinking back two years ago, what I would have looked for in a potential mate was so different from what I would look for now. Basically, even at this point I don’t trust myself to make such a decision. When I feel that my personality has been stable for a couple of years, then I’ll think about dating.”
There’s another reason why waiting is wise. The Bible uses the phrase “the bloom of youth” to describe the period of life when sexual feelings and romantic emotions first become strong. (1 Corinthians 7:36) To maintain close association with one particular member of the opposite sex while you’re still in this phase can fan the flames of desire and lead to wrong conduct.
True, that might mean little to your peers. Many of them may be all too eager to experiment with sex. But you can—you must—rise above that kind of thinking! (Romans 12:2) After all, the Bible urges you to “flee from sexual immorality.” (1 Corinthians 6:18, New International Version) By waiting until you’re past the bloom of youth, you can “ward off calamity.”—Ecclesiastes 11:10.
Why wait to date? Being pressured to date before you’re ready would be like being forced to take a final exam for a course that you’ve barely started. Obviously, that wouldn’t be fair! You need time to study your subject so that you can become familiar with the kind of problems you’ll face in the test.
It’s similar with dating.
Dating is no trivial matter. So before you’re ready to focus on one particular person, you need to take time to study a very important “subject”—how to build friendships.
Later, when you meet the right person, you’ll be in a better position to build a solid relationship. After all, a good marriage is the union of two good friends.
Waiting to date won’t stifle your freedom. On the contrary, it will give you more freedom to ‘rejoice in your youth.’ (Ecclesiastes 11:9) You will also have time to prepare yourself by developing your personality and, most important, your spirituality.—Lamentations 3:27.
In the meantime, you can enjoy the company of the opposite sex. What’s the best way to do so? Spend time together in properly supervised mixed groups. A girl named Tammy says: “I think it’s more fun that way. It’s better to have a lot of friends.” Monica agrees. “The group idea is a really good idea,” she says, “because you get to associate with people who have different personalities.”
In contrast, if you focus on one person too soon, you set yourself up for heartache. So take your time. Use this period of your life to learn how to cultivate and maintain friendships. Later, if you choose to date, you’ll have a better idea of who you are and what you need in a lifelong partner.
Post by melodramatic26 on Jun 2, 2014 13:42:55 GMT -5
One of my "friends" is a Beach Body Coach. She ALWAYS posting selfies of herself in the gym.
Her focus area is on her ass. EVERY SINGLE DAY she will post a selfie of her stomach and her ass. Sometimes her ass in underwear. Like, bending over and all you see is her ass in the picture.
But the local news articles do not have all of these facts in it, and the comments on the story are making me twitchy with rage. They are talking about how bad the parents are, the kids need to be taken away, etc etc.... There are a few dissenting voices saying the cops went overboard, but the rest are fine with saying it's the parents fault that the cops threw a flash grenade in the babies pack and play.
DHs cousin posted a meme with a picture of an American flag and it says "Isn't it strange how our flag offends so many, but our welfare system doesn't?"
I have a FB acquaintance that is a serious vaguebooker that I need to either delete or quit rolling my eyes at. Today her status is "I am so hurt, so mad, so stressed... i have so much hate in my heart right now. I don't understand how this could happen. I am just so angry. I'm not posting exact details. I just needed a place to "vent".
Post by wildfloweragain on Jun 2, 2014 18:46:38 GMT -5
Games people are playing. I don't care.
Junk people are selling. (Advocare, currently.)
The daily pics of my friend's dog. Might be flameworthy. But Every day, for at least 5 yrs. Reminds me of all the pics I took (but didn't post on fb!) of my first child. Here is the 2 month old in front of a plant. Here she is in front of a tree. Here she is next to the dog. On the couch. They all looked the same. She had no hair, and just a few expressions. The dog looks the same in every one of them except the running ones. Your dog lays down. Daily. I get it.
One of my "friends" is a Beach Body Coach. She ALWAYS posting selfies of herself in the gym.
Her focus area is on her ass. EVERY SINGLE DAY she will post a selfie of her stomach and her ass. Sometimes her ass in underwear. Like, bending over and all you see is her ass in the picture.
She has two young boys. I'm embarrassed for them.
one of my college friends is seriously into Roller Derby. So 90% of her posts are about trying out for Roller Derby & her RD prep workouts which then leads to her weight loss progress (this girl didn't need to lose any weight - after college she was skin and bones). Of course it's not enough for her to post about her RD practice, she has to post about her regular workouts too. Thank God there are no ass pictures or I would need to block her.
Another 'friend' has 4 greyhounds. Normally, greyhound people are pretty neat & tidy, but this lady is a straight up mess. Every picture of her dogs shows nasty carpet, stained couches, baseboard with a 1/2 inch of dirt, chewed/clawed doors etc. I don't get posting that crap on FB.
An acquaintance of mine posted an article about the Isla Vista shootings, shortly after it happened. There are now 490 comments, almost exclusively between him and one other guy, whom I have blocked. So it's hilarious seeing only the OP's arguing with himself.
For the record, the OP is defending gun rights and the jackass I have blocked is (from what I've heard) making some good arguments. Meanwhile, the OP's comments are, literally: "why are the 10,000 lives of people killed by guns more important than 10000 people killed by cars?" "its ok, nature will make sure you are dealt with accordingly and that your genes never survive." "wahhhhmbulance" "wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh"
"We are upon financial hard time with 5 children and another on the way! My youngest daughter's first birthday is this weekend, so if anyone wants to donate decorations or food for the party or especially if you want to donate presents, since we can't afford any, let me know! We also need diapers and wipes, free is preferred! God bless!"
This person is SUCH a bitch in real life, and gift grabby to boot! Who asks for people to donate presents! If you can't afford a party, don't have one!
Post by chickenlittle on Jun 2, 2014 19:25:15 GMT -5
Today's gem: "I'm back to my prepregnancy weight and L is only two weeks old! See, not being lazy and eating right pays off. It's not that hard people! "
Today's gem: "I'm back to my prepregnancy weight and L is only two weeks old! See, not being lazy and eating right pays off. It's not that hard people! "
My friend (the one who goes nuts with ridiculous hashtags) also posts a lot of memes and quotes about how hard her life is but how strong she is for overcoming it and how she's nothing but positive, and she wishes everyone could be like her and not judge. She recently posted a meme about how the fear of falling apart causes you to not see what you could rebuild yourself into. And she posted a paragraph about how she has been so afraid to fall apart but she's seeing that she's rebuilding herself into a stronger more compassionate person by sharing everything she's learned and educating the rest of us. I'm about ready to block.