I've been doubting myself and feeling pretty much awful since yesterday but this afternoon was a big pick me up. We had an eval with the speech therapist this morning and Owl seemed to open up to me a tiny bit, then the mental health clinician came to our home as Owl was eating lunch (yes, she is eating, two good days in a row!) and when I got her down from the table she ran with an excited squeal to play.
After the clinician left, I sat down in the middle of the living room with a horrible headache and a feeling of defeat, I looked up and Owl was smiling at me. Owl doesn't smile just to smile, it has to be provoked but this smile was a knowing and loving smile, a smile she seemed to reserve just for this moment. I asked her for a hug and she popped up, walked over and gave me a big squeeze, she even added a kiss just to make sure I knew she was right there with me.
We finished out the day by playing, actual playing, tickling and laughing, giving Dolly a bottle and brushing her hair, putting Legos together and taking them apart. I was astonished because she has never played normally before. It's like the connection was made and she understood that progress and bonding is necessary right now.
This little girl does love me and is bonded with me and all I can think is F! the ASW if she thinks otherwise.