My sisters have a bunch of brothers.

[FastHands]

I think your feelings are totally normal. It makes them feel like cousins more than sisters, since they have this whole other side that you don't share. I'm sure that's a strange feeling, especially at this age for it to be so new. I mean, you sort of expect to have family trees figured out by this point in life, lol.

If it's any consolation (not the right word..), I'm sure it's probably even more bizarre for your sisters, and I'm sure they'll be glad to have you around!

And kudos to your mom for facilitating all of this!

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. I think as the relationships progress ( or don't ) that you will become more sure of your position within everything and realize your relationship with your sisters in still the same.

I have to ask though.... Is Bob coming to the kids of Bob GTG. Because THAT would be aaaawwwwkkkwwwaarrrddd.

[lime]

One of H's close friends went through something similar.

Long story, short : lots of happiness at the idea of reconnecting, one reunion and then it fizzled from occasional contact to nothing very quickly.

[McGavin]

Those types of situations can feel kinda weird. My sister's first husband (kind of a jerk) left her and my nephews. He went on to father a little girl with some other girl. He doesn't have any relationship with her and neither do my nephews. It is soooo bizarre to my sister that her sons have a sister that she has never met.

That's really cool of your mom to host the gtg.

[lime]

I like what SueSue said - open mind and heart.

GL - I hope this is a new beginning of strength, support and love for all of you.

[bania]

I'm sure they're more than happy to have you there! It's probably a little uncomfortable and awkward for everyone at this stage but you're all connected in one way or another. I hope it goes well!

[Deleted]

Oh god, Bob is probably my dad.


Seriously though, I'm in a similar situation as your sisters and I promise they will always feel like they have a closer bond to you than their other siblings. It may be unfair to their other siblings, but it's true. My half sister who I grew up with is the only sibling I feel like is my "real" sibling.

[berbles]

I can relate a bit. My mom was my dad's 3rd (and 4th) wife. I have one full sibling (younger brother). But I also have two older half siblings, who each have another half sister. I call their half-sisters my whole-not-sisters (a half plus a half equals a whole, right?). They are still part of my family. My youngest whole-not-sister even has my dad's last name, even though she's not his kid.

I think it's REALLY awesome of your mom to help facilitate this non-traditional family. I also understand your uncomfortable feelings surrounding the whole thing. But try to look at these new-found family members as just that: family. Doesn't matter what the blood tie is, as long as you all consider yourselves family. IF that's what you want, obviously.

ETA: We probably have half siblings that we don't know about, too.  My mom has strong suspicions about my dad's parental status between ages 17-20.

[LeggsBenedict]

my family is kind of like this. my dad had a boy and girl, m and m, with j. dad and j divorced, dad marries mom, have k, k (me!) and e. j goes on to have 4 more boys, and she names them all m names. so she had 6 m's.

when j died, one of the boys my sister never met found her on Facebook and was all, "our mom is dead, join me if you'd like to dance on her grave!" j was not a nice lady.