Nope. Well, I try not to, anyways. Sometimes I need to compromise to keep the peace (see: The Diaper Wars).
I will pick bad wife over bad mom any day. My H tends to disagree with me over when I am doing something because it puts her before him vs. puts myself before him, but the line is pretty blurry since I lose my sh*t if she screams for any prolonged amount of time.
Also, as the child of somebody whose mother put men first pretty much always, I know how much that fucking hurts, so the second I ever start to feel guilty because I didn't take H's stuff to the cleaners because my baby was fussy all day and I didn't want to take her out just as soon as she finally fell asleep (or whatever), I remind myself of this. Putting my kid first needs to be a habit I never break.
This seems like you are going in the opposite extreme.
I agree with PPs, it's all about balance.
I was thinking the same thing. It doesn't sound healthy either.
I don't have kids, but I'm in the camp that marriage should be the priority. I'm not saying it in a "I have to do my husband's laundry instead of pay attention to my kid and his/her needs." I just mean that I feel like it's really easy to get completely wrapped up in the kids and lose the relationship with your husband, and some people lose that team approach to parenting. As someone else said, eventually the kids will leave the house and your spouse will be the one left with you.