why i don't do frg events

[amaristella]

Jul 19, 2012 17:37:21 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

When I ask for a reason to hang out with spouses, I'm actually looking for an answer. If you want me to drive an hour, I want a decent reason. It's not a rhetorical question to show disdain.

But, when people ask how to get more attendance, I don't think I'm out of line to ask them to think about how they can compete with the distractions of living in the States.

To the first question I would say that the answer is "because you want to". I can't think of any other logical answer. Either you want to or you don't.

To the second question I would say that in some places it's really not that hard. Although personally I just don't understand looking at it as a competition. That idea in and of itself confuses me.

I get that you're trying to respond to the people who are looking for larger turnouts for their groups. Usually the answer is either that there's some huge turn off keeping people away or that people just plain don't care. The first thing can usually be fixed. The second thing really doesn't need to be fixed but may correct itself over time as new people rotate in.

[snatchinbride]

I'll admit I've got some snark for the FRG as well. I don't dislike military spouses. What I do dislike is laziness, entitlement, and immaturity. I tend to see more of that at the FRG than I do with other organizations I'm involved with. Having said that there are some absolutely lovely spouses out there.

[bigmamma]

Sibil,

Have you ever turned it the other way around? Instead of wondering what they have to offer you - maybe what you have to offer them?

You know the area, you like to do non-military based things. You consider yourself a veteran spouse/mature/able to handle it....

Have you considered suggesting an event other than what they already offer? Being there to answer questions for new spouses or families new to the area?

Sometimes its those that don't need support that play a vital role in an FRG they can be an anchor for the group so they don't set sail into a sea of drama and bullshit.

Just saying, you didn't go, you don't participate what if you've got what their missing?