Staying cool...

[catscatscats]

I am at 4 weeks maybe 2 days and am pretty nervous that this pregnancy will not stick. I had an appointment today with the counselor at my REs office. She recommended exercise, socializing with "safe" friends who wouldn't talk about babies and making sure my husband and I make time for dates or fun outings. Oh and meditating.

What else helps you deal with pregnancy anxiety after tttc?

[FastHands]

Those are great suggestions. I sort of just embraced it, knowing anxiety is a part of pregnancy even without tttc. Mine was not crippling or keeping me from taking part in my normal life, I think in part because I've never had a loss. So it was general fear and even sort of 3rd-party fear from having watched so many other women go through losses. But like I said, I focused on the fact that it was normal, and if I allowed myself to just feel it and then try to move on, I could be ok for a while.

[bk1]

I just go with it. I think things like "Man I feel like shit which sucks, but I'm pregnant and that's awesome" or "I'm so tired I can barely stay awake, but hey I'm pregnant so I'm gonna go take a nap". Lol. I just try to see the positive in the things. I think that's the best I can do for myself at least. I've had two losses, and the fear of will it happen again doesn't do me any good. I just try to listen to my body and do what it wants me to do. We have done testing and are in the unexplained camp for why we have had our losses, so I figure if it's going to happen, it's going to happen. Worrying about it won't do me any good. The best thing I can do is stay positive.

[azurely]

I wish I had magical suggestions, but I really don't. I pray a lot and try to stay positive, but I still worry before every appt.

I think someone on here said that worrying is forever a part of being a mom. First you worry about the pregnancy sticking, then you worry if baby is healthy, then you worry if baby is eating/pooping enough, and you just keep on worrying their whole life. I don't know why, but it helped me to hear that I'm not completely crazy and the worrying is normal.

[picksthemusic]

Today you are pregnant, and you love your baby. One day at a time.

I'm almost 32 weeks and I still say it.

It will get easier as time moves on, but first tri is a huge mindfuck. PGAL can go eff itself.