We are going to Seattle Fri-Tuesday. 3 hour time difference (I think...) we will be up later with wedding events, boat cruise, dinners, etc. I have no idea how Layla will handle it. She doesnt love sleeping in other places, but..? Who knows? So we get back Tuesday mid day and my H is back to work Wed. On Wednesday, my friend invited us over to her house 1.5 hour drive away to see a friend from way out of town. Layla doesnt nap for more than 45-60min. She also hates the car when she is alone in the back. Is it really lame for me to declinethe invite or ask for them to meet me halfway so that my drive is more tolerable? Or am I being too weird?
Post by biscoffcookies on Jul 19, 2012 8:06:22 GMT -5
I think that's fine. If they don't want to drive to meet you, they don't have to. But you're the one who would have to potentially listen to your DD cry 1.5 hours each way and/or deal with the fallout at home if she doesn't nap during the visit. I don't think its weird to try to come up with an alternate solution (and/or just forego the gathering altogether) to avoid that.
Post by cricketwife on Jul 19, 2012 8:08:33 GMT -5
I don't have kids but from the friends' point of view, I'd say that you should either politely decline or go. Asking them to meet you halfway is lame. I don't know what your baby is like so I can't help you there, but I wouldn't inconvenience your friends just b/c you have a busy long weekend preceding their get together. Also, if the other friend is from "way out of town" she presumable doesn't want to have to travel more.
I'd probably just say "no" to going at all. Coming back from that trip w/ the time difference- you just don't know what you'll be dealing with and I'd personally want to focus on getting back into our normal routine as quickly as possible.
If it were local, I'd go. But even 1/2 way - I just wouldn't want to commit to it.
I'd probably just say "no" to going at all. Coming back from that trip w/ the time difference- you just don't know what you'll be dealing with and I'd personally want to focus on getting back into our normal routine as quickly as possible.
If it were local, I'd go. But even 1/2 way - I just wouldn't want to commit to it.
All of this.
I know you get a bit of a hard time here for overthinking stuff, but I don't like taking DD anywhere after a big trip. Her schedule is typically thrown off to the point that I can't plan anything the day after.
I wouldn't ask them to meet half way. I'd do it if I wanted to see friend badly enough, but if I was so-so on it, I'd skip.
Friend who lives 1.4 hrs away and I have met halfway before Friend B lives in Florida and is here with her newish baby that I havent met yet. (same age as Layla)
I wouldn't ask them to meet half way. I'd do it if I wanted to see friend badly enough, but if I was so-so on it, I'd skip.
Friend who lives 1.4 hrs away and I have met halfway before Friend B lives in Florida and is here with her newish baby that I havent met yet. (same age as Layla)
Right - but she has a baby too and may not want to drive even 45 minutes. If it weren't for that, then maybe asking to meet 1/2 way might work. But I wouldn't wnat to put her in an awkward spot.
If you REALLY do want to see her, though, all I can suggest is saying "As I'll have just gotten back from a trip to Seattle, I can't commit to driving 1.5 hours each way. I don't know what shape DD will be in and I'm nervous about driving that far.".
There was a time when there's no way I would agree to do it because DS was often a wreck after travel and cried in the car. If that's where you are then say no or say you have to wait and decide that morning.
Halfway sounds weird to me but you seem to think they'll be fine with it so go ahead and suggest it. But what if they agree and then that morning you realize you can't handle even a 45 minute trip?