Threesomes!

[gozf]

If you did it, admit it. If you hate the idea, tell us why.

[roselis]

Aww, I wanted to pick more than one!

I have had a threesome, and while it was fun, it would have to be the right circumstances with the right people and a lot of alcohol for me to do it again. I don't share well 99% of the time.

[turtle1120]

I never have and I don't think I ever could. I would want it to be with someone I trusted and cared for. However, I could never share someone I trusted and cared for with someone else (another woman). And I think the idea of trying to please two men at the same time sounds exhausting.

[doriswe]

Dear GOZF, I love you, it's official!!

I have not had a threesome but have been asked to participate in a few. I didn't because it was always with a good friend, and that is a little weird. I was not opposed to it and have a lot of curiousity about them but would prefer two girls/one guy.

ETA: If I were to do it, it would be with people I liked but not loved. I'm not a good sharer!

[jojoandleo]

Not for me. MMF-too much work. Pleasing two men at once seems daunting and I have trouble focusing doing 69, so, no. MFF-I am WAY too jealous for that shit. I'd be all "Is she prettier than me?" "Is he paying more attention to her?" "Man, why can't I have those boobs?" If you can handle it, go for it. I'm just not that secure, and I am okay with that.

I also think if you are just doing it to please someone else-don't do it! You should do it because YOU want to.

[jojoandleo]

And I voted SS-I have never had one, I don't think they make baby raptor Jesus cry, but they aren't for me.

[blackkitty]

I've only done MMF, and yes, it is a lot of work. It's fun once in a while but not something I'd be interested in on the regular. I'm not into MFF since I don't like to share my toys.

[Bernadine]

I'm not really up for it, for the reasons jojo mentioned.

[gozf]

I'm going to share a little story with you now.

As mentioned in the WTF post, I've not had a threesome. I've had offers, but they weren't ones I cared to explore. And, like Doris, I do not share well, so the thought of having one while in a relationship makes me a little queasy.

Thor has had them. Some were just for funsies, some took place throughout the course of a relationship. This knowledge had me in a quiet state of panic, because I try to be good, giving and game in the bedroom (what's up, Dan Savage), but I knew this was something that would make me want to die.

So, after a few months of dating, we were having a conversation about sex, and things we were doing that we were really into, and things we hadn't done that sounded interesting, etc. And I raised the whole, "I don't think I could ever have a threesome" topic, with a fair amount of anxiety. He looked at me like I had three heads before saying something along the lines of, "Did you think I need that? No. I've done that. Sometimes it's fun, and sometimes it's a disaster. But I'd never ask you for that, and knowing now how uncomfortable that it makes you, if you ever change your mind and decide you want to do it, we're going to have a long conversation about it beforehand. But that's not something I need. You're more than enough to keep me happy."

I can honestly say that there are few times I felt relief so strongly.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 19, 2012 9:23:20 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

I've only done MMF, and yes, it is a lot of work. It's fun once in a while but not something I'd be interested in on the regular. I'm not into MFF since I don't like to share my toys.

Most of my friends are gay and their threesomes are MMM. It just seems like a LOT of penis to me. It would be a lot of work AND jealousy for me, but my friend who is really into them loves it. I think the truth is, I may just be lazy in bed. I like my oral orgasm, then about 5-10 minutes of sex, then bed. I am like the bad guy in a romantic comedy.

[omeomi]

Maybe when I was younger I would have been more likely to try it out, but probably not anymore. I've been 'close enough' to threesomes to know that it's just not for me. I've watched other couples, been watched, was with one person while their SO watched, did kind of a couple's things where both couples were on the same (large) bed but no swapping/interaction mixed in.

I guess I'm just too much of a jealous monogomist now. I couldn't do a 3 way with stangers (ew) just to avoid weird feelings. I wouldn't want to share a man I cared for with another woman, and I don't think I'd want to try to please 2 guys at once. I'm selfish like that.

Voyeurism, though, that's still on the table.

[udscoobychick]

Haven't tried it, but I'd be willing to consider it.

[gozf]

Jul 19, 2012 9:41:22 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I had the chance to when I was in Australia the first time.... I met the two hottest australian guys. They told me they were strippers/dancers and they were in town for a bachelorette party... I didn't believe them but they showed me and made me feel their abs and they were totally out of control...they looked amazing. They showed me some dance moves and they were very talented dancers. I am friends with them on FB and it says they work for a dance company so I think they really might have been strippers...lol

I hung out with them for a few hours and they were very open about how much they wanted to have a threesome, how sexy they thought I was, what they wanted to do etc. I even had my own hotel room and it was a saturday night.. I didn't have to work the next day.

I was super lame and said no... That was last March. After seeing Magic Mike I really regret this missed opportunity.

YOU DONE FUCKED UP!

[dakotadangerdog]

I said it makes baby jesus cry lol mostly because it was funny

I've never had one, and I have ZERO interest. It just does not appeal to me in any way. I don't think they are "bad" but I just don't think I'd ever want to do it.

[baa1981]

Jul 19, 2012 9:42:33 GMT -5 gozf said:

Jul 19, 2012 9:41:22 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

I had the chance to when I was in Australia the first time.... I met the two hottest australian guys. They told me they were strippers/dancers and they were in town for a bachelorette party... I didn't believe them but they showed me and made me feel their abs and they were totally out of control...they looked amazing. They showed me some dance moves and they were very talented dancers. I am friends with them on FB and it says they work for a dance company so I think they really might have been strippers...lol

I hung out with them for a few hours and they were very open about how much they wanted to have a threesome, how sexy they thought I was, what they wanted to do etc. I even had my own hotel room and it was a saturday night.. I didn't have to work the next day.

I was super lame and said no... That was last March. After seeing Magic Mike I really regret this missed opportunity.

YOU DONE FUCKED UP!

Water all over keyboard...

[bowies]

I'm not opposed to them, but I doubt I'd participate in one.

[starburst604]

I've had the chance to do MMF twice and chickened out, probably for the best. As far as MFF I could probably only do it as the "third", but not invite someone into my relationship. Like others have said I'm not good at sharing and even if I could get through it I think there could be ramifications after. There was once instance where a guy I had dated briefly and was hooking up with here and there after mentioned that a girl he knew was into it and was I interested. I said no but looking back it probably would have been the best possible scenario to try it out. No attachments and no regrets. Oh wellz.

[blackkitty]

Jul 19, 2012 9:26:12 GMT -5 inara said:

ETA: The idea of double penetration is not at all appealing to me. So MMF is completely out.

MMF does not need to include DP. I've had 3 and never done DP nor am I interested in that either.

[roselis]

The ones I have been in were MFF and I was not in a relationship at the time.

[stephbfan]

I have nothing against it and I would consider having one but at the end, I know I'm too chicken for that. I would rather have MFF than MMF, as someone said, too much penis!

[gozf]

Black Kitty has the kind of threesome I would have, if I had threesomes.

[doriswe]

I guess the older I've gotten the more paranoid I've become! I want to trust the person (people?) I'm sleeping with and feel comfortable in bed with them. I can't get there without some sort of relationship. I think if I would do a threesome, I'd want them to be people I didn't really know all that well so we wouldn't run into each other parent/teacher conferences, kwim? So it's quite the conundrum!

I was way more open to the idea when I was younger.

[charitylynne79]

I had one when I was 18 or 19 and left my bf at the time for the other guy. I don't think I would do it again. I am too jealous of bringing another person into the mix.

[heavenly]

Curiosity Killed The Cat!
After dancing with the devil for a while and almost getting killed from it and suffering a huge set-back in life, I am staying away from fooling with strangers and risks that could put my son and I in danger or another set-back or anything that can bring me down instead of building me up internally and externally. It was way too hard of a lesson to learn from for me want to experiment again. So obviously a threesome is out.

[redredwine]

I got close. I was 21, living abroad, and drunk. Other chick kinda freaked out and we stopped. I'm past that phase in my life.

[wrathofkuus]

I think, in general, they're a part of the pornification of our culture, of sex being treated as a lackluster substitute for porn rather than the other way around. And don't even get me started on couples asking me to join them as a third party, as if I'm a gaadamn sex toy to spice up their relationship.

[achase123]

I've never had one but the threesome scenes in porn movies are hot. I don't think I could actually have one. I don't share well and I'm pretty competitive.

[blondnearby]

I have done both MMF and FMF. In the MMF the guys were good friends and we are all just young (18) and drunk. FMF I have had 2. The first one involveda BF/GF and I was invited in to the relationship. I was questioning my sexuality at the time so it served its purpose in that area. However, the BF ended up liking me and actually broke up with the GF for me. I wasn't interested in him at all so all his actions did was cause drama. The other FMF involved a good friend of mine and a guy. My friend and I didn't really interact beyond making out (I found out I am not a fan of "roast beef: from the first FMF). I then went on to date the guy for about a year on and off. Never got serious, was just a fun time. As far as my friend and I, we are still friends. Nothing changed between us.
Would I have another threesome? No, I am done with all of that and have been for a long while. All of my playing was done prior to having my DDs, and I don't see my relationship changing anywhere in the near future (not including marriage).

[gozf]

Roast beef.

Jesus.Fucking.Christ.

[pantsparty]

I've had a FMF. It was fun. I have a weird ability to be able to totally detach, I've never once felt jealous or weird about what happened. Too much work, though, to do another.