ehhhhhhhhhhh I tend to be a little lenient when it comes to things like this; she's speaking to modesty in the framework of her religious beliefs, which is a whole different animal to me than "put your boobs away so my husband doesn't spank it to them."
Maybe I just made the connection because it was the same friend who shared the last boob post and this one.
Post by CajunShrimp on Jun 19, 2014 10:39:46 GMT -5
I like this comment - I encourage you to pray, Hannah, and ask the Lord to convict your heart in the area of swimsuit modesty and what He would have you do. It can be such a touchy area. To be on the safe side - just in case some guys would unexpectedly stop by the private pool - you might want to limit yourself to a one piece. As far as your honeymoon, your body is for the viewing of your husband only. What you wear behind closed doors is for him. But on the beach for your honeymoon, there’s a good chance there will be other eyes looking. Our desire to dress modestly is not only to honor the men in our lives, but also to honor God. He truly does care what we wear.
Yep, make sure you wear a one piece in the privacy of your home in case a guy stops by and sees you in your bikini. Because why the fuck should men be able to control themselves?
And don't get me started about God caring what we wear. I think God has bigger issues than a bikini.
Post by DotAndBuzz on Jun 19, 2014 10:50:12 GMT -5
I am ok with people being modest for religious reasons, and writing about it, and pushing for cuter modest suits. Go for it. Wear a full length skirt. I don't care.
What bothered me about her post was this: " I guess guys were supposed to turn into super humans and not be affected by the excess of legs, stomach, and cleavage in the water world."
I'm not going to alter my wardrobe choices in or out of the water to keep guys from turning into douchebags who are "affected by" seeing my body. I'm affected by seeing a hot guy in a swimsuit too. I mean, they're hot. Does that mean I no longer have control of myself and am somehow am unable to control my words and actions around him? Um, no. Ditto for any guy who isn't a jackass. The whole "men are sooooo affected by women, so we must control ourselves to help them" is complete and utter bullshit.
Post by RoxMonster on Jun 19, 2014 10:51:53 GMT -5
But even if she bought an extra extra large surf shirt, once it got wet, wouldn't it cling to her body and show the outline of things like, you know, her boobs? Because that's what happens when materials get wet. Unless she just goes to the pool/beach but doesn't actually get in the water.
But even if she bought an extra extra large surf shirt, once it got wet, wouldn't it cling to her body and show the outline of things like, you know, her boobs? Because that's what happens when materials get wet. Unless she just goes to the pool/beach but doesn't actually get in the water.
I mean why doesn't she just buy the truly modest swim wear that they market for this purpose and be done with it.
I am ok with people being modest for religious reasons, and writing about it, and pushing for cuter modest suits. Go for it. Wear a full length skirt. I don't care.
What bothered me about her post was this: " I guess guys were supposed to turn into super humans and not be affected by the excess of legs, stomach, and cleavage in the water world."
I'm not going to alter my wardrobe choices in or out of the water to keep guys from turning into douchebags who are "affected by" seeing my body. I'm affected by seeing a hot guy in a swimsuit too. I mean, they're hot. Does that mean I no longer have control of myself and am somehow am unable to control my words and actions around him? Um, no. Ditto for any guy who isn't a jackass. The whole "men are sooooo affected by women, so we must control ourselves to help them" is complete and utter bullshit.
Yes. This is ridiculous, and what I hate about the modesty argument. You want to be modest because it says in 1 Timothy you should? Fine. But the extension of this to a lack of self control in men is alarming.
True. I mean I guess if you kept going with this logic a real modest woman would never leave the house as it would be too much for Men to deal with a * gasp* LADY in PUBLIC.
But even if she bought an extra extra large surf shirt, once it got wet, wouldn't it cling to her body and show the outline of things like, you know, her boobs? Because that's what happens when materials get wet. Unless she just goes to the pool/beach but doesn't actually get in the water.
I think it's interesting that some women (many citing religious reasons) think that men have no moral control. I'm not particularly religious and don't have an issue with modesty or others not being modest enough, but why does it always seem that these arguments are about how all skin showing promotes sexual desire/behavior.
Since I got into working out and doing triathlons, modesty is just not the norm. We're in our bras in transition, athletes are wearing what look like bathing suit bottoms to complete the entire race (and not just the swim). The average person is thinking wow! look at her go! And it's not really sexual at all. The focus is on what your body is capable of and not what pleasure it can bring to someone else.
There's a dangerous force in the "wet world" that threatens women's bodies. A woman is particularly at risk if she wears a bikini daily. We all should take precautions to protect ourselves. The full cover outfit she describes could be perfect for protecting our bodies and also protecting the men we love from unnecessary pain.
She and I just disagree on the source of that threat. She thinks it's satan causing temptation through the male gaze. I think it's melanoma.
But even if she bought an extra extra large surf shirt, once it got wet, wouldn't it cling to her body and show the outline of things like, you know, her boobs? Because that's what happens when materials get wet. Unless she just goes to the pool/beach but doesn't actually get in the water.
I am mesmerized by this and can't scroll down. Must. Stop. Staring.
I wonder what it is like to feel so powerfully attractive that one must worry about tempting all men in your vicinity who catch a glimpse of your bared midriff and décolletage. Tjat is pretty much the opposite of what I worry about come swimsuit season.
I am disappointed that I only saw one pair of boobs sunbathing in Ibiza Spain.
Random Story that proves I am an insane person.
You know what really really grossed me out. In Barcelona ( where there used to be no public nudity laws and seeing a naked man on a bike wasn't a big deal) I saw a lady topless on an urban beach. The issue was she WASN'T WEARING A TWO PIECE. She just flopped the top of her one piece bathing suit down, and you could see all the weird swimsuit bra netting just flopping around on the beach. I hate that stuff with the power of a thousand suns. It's like seeing the top of panty hose. I have a like sensory reaction and get all dizzy. It was also odd as she was the only other person on the beach. LOL!
So the moral of the story is, I will look at your boobs and bits, but don't show me the insides of your supportive undergarments. Just don't.
I wonder what it is like to feel so powerfully attractive that one must worry about tempting all men in your vicinity who catch a glimpse of your bared midriff and décolletage.
Post by Wrath0fKuus on Jun 19, 2014 14:24:13 GMT -5
She's a fucking idiot, and it sounds like whatever god is advising her isn't very smart either. Swimwear covers less than dry-land attire because it's better (more streamlined, WAY less heavy) for swimming.
She's a fucking idiot, and it sounds like whatever god is advising her isn't very smart either. Swimwear covers less than dry-land attire because it's better (more streamlined, WAY less heavy) for swimming.
Now who's being obtuse? Women and ladies have no need to be doing things like athletic swimming, much less be worried about wearing something streamlined (and revealing!) in order to do so. If an athletic activity would require revealing clothing, perhaps they should consider a different form of exercise (picking up toys, or more aggressive vacuuming, perhaps). I mean, gyms and lap pools are just crawling with men all hopped up on testosterone, so that just sounds like a disaster waiting to happen, frankly.
Post by Wrath0fKuus on Jun 19, 2014 15:10:27 GMT -5
Lol. Out of everything stupid there, it just annoyed me the most that she's acting like she came up with some impressive logical feat, when it all rests on the assumption that there is no such thing as situationally appropriate attire. It's like that internet meme that went around about a decade ago, where people thought they proved in a super trippy way that 1 and 0 were the same number, when really they were just dividing by zero.