My best friend just found out her FI is/was/has been cheating on her for awhile now.
She texted me last night at around 1am. I tried to convince her to come up here for a few days, she talked about it.
Then she mentioned that she feels so low, like she just wants to kill herself.
That's the last text I got from her at around 3am.
I've texted her since and got nothing. All day, nothing. All this evening, nothing. I called her phone, no answer. Voicemail wasn't set up so couldn't leave a voicemail. Her number called back, but no one said anything. Then hung up.
Still no texts.
I'm so torn between "this isn't your problem, she's a big girl, she's fine" and "but but but she's my best friend!!"
I keep trying to rationalize that she's at work, but I'm not convinced. Then I'm convinced she's ignoring me. Except her last message to me was about how low she feels. I sent her a final text that said I'm worried, that her last text isn't sitting right with me.
I have no other way to get a hold of her.
And I moved away from her, so I can't just go show up.
Does she have family in the area you could contact and not let them know everything but that you got an odd text from her and are concerned? Maybe they can contact her at work?
This could just be me but if a friend text me at 1am an said that she wanted to harm/kill herself I would do a wellness check ASAP!!
I am a paramedic an we attend many of these either with the police or show up after words an it is no big deal if they are fine of they are not then we are there to help ASAP!
She sent me a text saying she's okay and fine. That'll she'll get back to me about everything.
So, I'm hoping she actually does later.
It's not cool to just drop off the face of the earth like that.
I would have been less worried; had she not left with me with that particular text for hours on end.
I just wish she'd come up here and get away from everything for a bit. Everyone down there is so "how can we plant ourselves right in the middle of this". Instead of "I'll listen and you tell me how you're feeling, what's been going on, etc".
I had a coworker (not even a very close coworker) that did something like this to me a couple of years ago - I never heard a thing from her over the next day or so, I sent her an email through work letting her know if she needed to talk I was available and she responded with "I'm fine, thanks" ...People can definitely be a bit strange.