a few new mom questions...

[mrslefty]

1. When did your nether regions feel better? I mean not 100% normal but when did walking/coughing/sneezing/laughing get less painful?  

2. How often did you bathe your lo? 

[ashleyp728]

1. I think I started really feeling normal around 6 weeks pp. I tore a little, but I used witch hazel religiously. It helped a ton.

2. I feel like a horrible mom saying this, but I think I did a really bath once a week, and in between I did a wipe rub down. He was so tiny/fragile/wobbly and I was TERRIFIED he would slip out of my hand or something.

[picksthemusic]

I had a c/s, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I felt 'better' at around 2 weeks, even better at 4, and way better at 6. It's a process, for sure. Just make sure you're taking care of yourself, and you should be fine. Of course, see your OB if you're concerned about anything (abnormal bleeding, etc).

I bathed M once a week for sure, and every few days for cheese-neck as we called it. Baby wipes go a long way for small messes, but a newborn doesn't need to be bathed that often - it can dry out their skin.

[jennlin]

1. Hahahahahahahaha......

2. We waited about a week, and then did roughly every 5-6 days and gradually increase from there.

[mrslefty]

Jul 1, 2014 18:40:20 GMT -5 jennlin said:

1. Hahahahahahahaha......

2. We waited about a week, and then did roughly every 5-6 days and gradually increase from there.

Lol! I just want to be able to sneeze and not panic as I realize oh shit I'm going to sneeze and it's going to feel like my vag is about to fall the eff apart! Is that so much to ask? Yes? Dammit. 

[mrslefty]

Side note I was watching teen mom (don't judge me it takes hours to feed this kid!) And one of the moms got on a horse like days after giving birth. I cried for her. Wtmf. No no no nope.

[7costanza]

Jul 1, 2014 18:57:00 GMT -5 mrslefty said:

Jul 1, 2014 18:40:20 GMT -5 jennlin said:

1. Hahahahahahahaha......

2. We waited about a week, and then did roughly every 5-6 days and gradually increase from there.

Lol! I just want to be able to sneeze and not panic as I realize oh shit I'm going to sneeze and it's going to feel like my vag is about to fall the eff apart! Is that so much to ask? Yes? Dammit. 

It was months before I could sneeze and not either pee myself or feel like my organs were going to fall out. I still feel uncomfortable after sex sometimes at 11 months pp.

I still only give baths about once a week. He doesn't stink and doesn't get very dirty so I don't really see the point. I'm sure we will give him more when he starts daycare in a few weeks.

[dana86]

1. I had 4th degree tear with M and it was about a week and a half- two weeks before I felt better. With J I had a second degree tear and felt better in the lower region withing he first 4 or 5 days.

2. One bath a week for the first few weeks or so, then I went to about 2 a week.

[ilovebed]

1. I healed really quickly by following all the doctor's orders...warm water spray, lidocaine, and with hazel pads. I don't remember when it stopped hurting but I think it was only like 2 or 3 weeks. Pooping was the most painful part. I had horrible hemorrhoids. Sex hurt for a long time. It still hurts sometimes and it's been 2 years. The scar tissue loses elasticity.

2. I bathed Blb almost every day just b/c she liked it so much. She was really really fussy in the evenings and sometimes taking a warm bath was the only time she wasn't crying. We probably still bath her 5-6 nights a week.

[alias]

1. I had a c/s, so I'm not much help.

2. I didn't bathe him at all at first b/c of the cord and then b/c of his circ. So, the first couple weeks, just an occasional sponge bath. After that, maybe once a week.

[mrslefty]

I don't feel so bad that we've barely bathed him now. My grandma was appalled but his skin is so flakey after a bath! He really likes both baths he's had but hates the whole getting out part

I think I was expecting to be able to laugh, sneeze, cough, and sit (and poop as ilovebed pointed out though that's not painful, just scary lol) with less pain by now because the midwife was all "oh you're lucky that all your stitches are internal and will heal quickly" my version of quickly is different than hers obviously.

[ilovebed]

Jul 2, 2014 1:27:41 GMT -5 mrslefty said:

I don't feel so bad that we've barely bathed him now. My grandma was appalled but his skin is so flakey after a bath! He really likes both baths he's had but hates the whole getting out part

I think I was expecting to be able to laugh, sneeze, cough, and sit (and poop as ilovebed pointed out though that's not painful, just scary lol) with less pain by now because the midwife was all "oh you're lucky that all your stitches are internal and will heal quickly" my version of quickly is different than hers obviously.

Have you had any follow up appointments to check out how things are healing?

[jennlin]

Jul 1, 2014 19:41:29 GMT -5 7costanza said:

Jul 1, 2014 18:57:00 GMT -5 mrslefty said:

Lol! I just want to be able to sneeze and not panic as I realize oh shit I'm going to sneeze and it's going to feel like my vag is about to fall the eff apart! Is that so much to ask? Yes? Dammit. 

It was months before I could sneeze and not either pee myself or feel like my organs were going to fall out. I still feel uncomfortable after sex sometimes at 11 months pp.

I still only give baths about once a week. He doesn't stink and doesn't get very dirty so I don't really see the point. I'm sure we will give him more when he starts daycare in a few weeks.

yeah..with bjl, it was several months..i think we waited 3 or 4 months to do the dirty..and even then on it was once every month or two. one random day somewhere around 11 months, i was like "hey, this doesn't hurt anymore"...and.....then...uh...i got pregnant.

this time around, the healing and feeling better was much quicker, but the sex still aint happenin' here. not with two kids, nope.

[shevacc]

I remember feeling a lot better after 2 weeks, but still sore/weak sometimes. 6 weeks was when I consistently felt "normal".

We bathed G once a week for a long time. She enjoyed baths but it was just one more thing to fit into a busy evening. We have to do baths more often now since she plays in the dirt a lot more and for her eczema, but still it's every 2nd or 3rd night.

[toratoratori]

I should not have opened this thread

[mrslefty]

ilovebed I have an appointment next week. I'm not worried about anything, really just realizing my expectations were way too high.
toratoratori I kind of wish I had read a thread like this. I expected to be sore but not like I was...that made the first week really hard. Three weeks later I really do feel better, I'm just impatient


I don't think we're ever having sex again. I know what happens! It's cute but damn son!

[toratoratori]

I fully expect that my insides are going to fall out after birth. Maybe during birth. Now taking bets.

[shevacc]

mrslefty, on G's BMB, every time anyone has their 6 week post partum checkup and is *not* cleared for sex, the news is generally met with cheers all around. I feel your pain and will be there soon myself. I hope you're doing much better in a few more weeks! And...conveniently all that sleep deprivation eventually allows most of us to forget enough of the details to decide to do it all over again . So there's that.