Talk to me about 2U2!

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Did you get a blood test? I'm so psyched for you. I don't know but I guess you don't have to buy too many new things. :-)

[Ashley&Scott]

My brothers are 15mo apart. They were great playmates growing up & are still very close today.

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Congrats again on your positive pg. test!

My boys are 21 months apart. I really like this age gap. They are great playmates (they are playing catch outside as I am typing this) and keep each other entertained throughout the day. They like to go places together and each asks about the other when they're not around. It's really cute to see them playing together. They do fight occasionally but I think that is to be expected in any sibling relationship.

It was hard in the beginning of course. I think it was more difficult for DS1 to adjust to the transition of a new baby in the house because he was so young and didn't completely understand what was going on. Plus he was going through the terrible twos at the time, which made it even harder. But a lot of that got ironed out by around 3 months.

It helped that DS2 was a MUCH easier baby than DS1, who had been pretty colicky. Hopefully you will get an easygoing baby who is a good sleeper. GL!

[egishere]

whoo hoo! congrats!

[kangaroo11]

Congrats!

[jenn248]

I can't remember if I said "congratulations" in your other post or not - if not, congrats!

My sister and I are 18 months apart. On one hand, we played together well when we were little. On the other, we didn't get along great during the middle to high school years. I think in part that because we were so close in age, my sister wanted to be allowed to do the same things I (as the older child) was doing - and my parents usually let her. It sounds dumb, but I kind of resented the fact that I had to wait until I was 15 to get a second hole pierced in my ears, but she was allowed to get hers at the same time I was, even though she was only 13. Same thing with curfew - our curfews were always the same, even though I was two years older. From her side, I suspect that she probably resented being compared to me, since I was the better student and generally made friends more easily.

Once I went off to college, we started getting along better and hanging out more. I wouldn't say that we're super-close now, but we have a good relationship and see each other at least once a month (we live about 2 hours away from each other).

[brit1017]

Mine are 21 months apart. It was hardest when DD was in the newborn stage- DS didn't really understand why I couldn't spend all my time with him, and I had trouble BFing, so that just increased the time I needed to spend with DD. It has gotten easier- they will now play together and keep each other entertained. The flip side is that they will get in really physical fights b/c neither has the maturity to not react physically to the other one invading their territory/ trying to take a toy/ touching something they want, etc.

ETA- DD was a much easier baby than DS. She came home from the hospital only getting up 2x per night, and was STTN on her own by 6 weeks, so sleep deprivation wasn't nearly the factor that it was with DS.

[lynn07]

My DSs are 13 months apart. The first 6 months were tough - lack of sleep, still having a baby that needed me for everything when I also had a newborn, having to work hard to get out of the house (DS2 was born in winter). But then DS2 started sleeping more, and started sitting and crawling, and that was when things started getting so much easier. Since then, it has been fantastic. They are 1.5 and 2.5 now, and they absolutely adore each other. The first thing they do when they wake up is go into the others room and jump on them ;D They do fight as toddlers can sometimes, but it's obvious how much they love each other. And we love them both to pieces and wouldn't have had it any other way! Congrats and GL!

[thedash]

Congrats! My MIL and her sister are less than two years apart. They fought as kids but once they got older became the best friends I can imagine. It honestly makes me choke up when they talk about how close they are. It's really awesome!

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Congrats and good luck!!

Every kid is different so it's hard to tell what it will be like. My brother and I are 16 mo. apart, and he is one of my best friends now. With that said, we absolutely hated each other growing up. lol.

Again, good luck! :-)

[hannamaren]

My sister and I are 18 mths apart. We are best friends. We always played together. Sometimes, she wanted to do things without her little sister tagging along but eventually, she would relent and bring me and love me.
We each had our own friends at school but we would commute together on the bus/in the car, etc. we had a few common friends.
I want my kids to be max 2.5 yrs apart because of my great relationship with my sister.

[RoryGilmore]

Congrats! Mine are about 20 months apart. I quickly scrolled through the previous posts and saw people saying the 1st 6 months or so were the hardest. For us, those were the easiest months! #2 slept and nursed like a champ. She was the most easy going baby ever and so it was easy to get out and about with 2 kids. Once she became mobile around 9 months, things got a lot more complicated. We started dealing with a lot more "sibling rivalry" issues in that she could crawl over and steal her brother toys. Added to that, we were potty training #1 around that time so there was a real shift in needs. I think things have settled down again for us in the past couple months. Watching the kids play together is amazing. Just today, #1 was "teaching" #2 how to put a puzzle together and he was telling her "Good job! You are doing great. I'm so proud of you." He really takes a lot of pride in being a big brother and she thinks the world of him. I wouldn't trade the age gap for anything.

[wanderlustmom]

Congratulations.

My kids are 23 months apart and really, really close. It's my proudest thing, I really have two kids who are happy to play together all the time. I do still schedule playdates and put them in camps sometimes, but summer is here and they are the happiest playing together.

It helps that DS has a very laid back personality and he's the oldest so that makes the power balance better, DD is younger but very strong willed so she can hang with her brother. She learned to ride a bike the same week as he did and she can give herself her own showers already because DS does and do so she does.

In preschool, he walked her to school holding her hand every day and gave her a kiss when he dropped her off. They hold hands all the time.

Sorry to gush so much, who knows, maybe this all would have happened four years apart, but its particularly nice to have them go through stages together and they don't remember not being together.

The first six months were nuts, DS had trouble adjusting, he regressed on his sleep. DD had colic, but all in all, I would do this exactly how we did it.

We love our small close knit family.