DS with SPD- setbacks?

[hopecounts]

First summers suck, they suck for most parents and kids but even more so when you have a SN kid.
The change in routine, more relaxed structure, and so on can really send our kids for a loop.
I'm personally very much ready for school to start back (1 month and counting)

the self harm is concerning though. Has he seen a Dev. Pediatrician recently? It may be time to have him revaluated to see if any comorbids are creeping up or if there is more going on that needs to be addressed.
It may also be that he needs his services reinstated and you may need to push for him to receive them.
As expectations ramp up and brain processing increases with age it can be harder for SN kids to keep up and it may be that he managed this past year but has reached a point where he needs those services if he is going to continue to progress and do well.

Also it is not unusual for a SN kid to use up all their control and processing power to keep it together for school and then not have any left for home.
As I heard it put once they buy their good days with our rough nights. So don't feel like it's you, it's just that he understands what he needs to do at school and then by night time he just doesn't have any more bandwith left to keep it together.

[auntie]

Summers are hard.

I agree with hopecounts about kids reserving their worst for the person they know loves them unconditionally.

The self injurous behavior is a real concern. Typically developing kids don't tend to harm themselves- sometimes you'll find a toddler who needs the sensory input, but a rising kindie kid wouldn't do that. This usually hints at a behavioral health or developmental issue. It might be time to revisit the dev pedi or a psychologist. IME, SPD resolves a lot as kids approach 5 and 6, so you could be looking at something in addition that needs a different approach in terms of intervention.

Two things struck me. The "sick all the time"- is this real illness or is it more of a constant barage of reporting vague symptoms like stomach aches, sore muscles and head aches. Some kids have somatic reaction when they're in a bad place emotionally- this was DS M.O. all through elementary- especially in the intermediate grades when he was dealing with considerable depression and anxiety.

The other is you being desserted by your friends. Ouch. That sucks. Has this actually happened or have they just moved on to another direction- like they all have girls and are doing girly stuff or was your son the persona non grata for his behavior who keeps you from being included?

[KB]

Jul 22, 2014 23:09:55 GMT -5 lilmissladybug said:

Jul 21, 2014 13:12:33 GMT -5 auntie said:

Summers are hard.

I agree with hopecounts about kids reserving their worst for the person they know loves them unconditionally.

The self injurous behavior is a real concern. Typically developing kids don't tend to harm themselves- sometimes you'll find a toddler who needs the sensory input, but a rising kindie kid wouldn't do that. This usually hints at a behavioral health or developmental issue. It might be time to revisit the dev pedi or a psychologist. IME, SPD resolves a lot as kids approach 5 and 6, so you could be looking at something in addition that needs a different approach in terms of intervention.

Two things struck me. The "sick all the time"- is this real illness or is it more of a constant barage of reporting vague symptoms like stomach aches, sore muscles and head aches. Some kids have somatic reaction when they're in a bad place emotionally- this was DS M.O. all through elementary- especially in the intermediate grades when he was dealing with considerable depression and anxiety.

The other is you being desserted by your friends. Ouch. That sucks. Has this actually happened or have they just moved on to another direction- like they all have girls and are doing girly stuff or was your son the persona non grata for his behavior who keeps you from being included?

He gets a croupy cough constantly. He does complain of leg and foot pain. He had custom inserts made through physical therapy and when he outgrew them, I took him to a Podiatrist for another pair. The Podiatrist said DS is knock-kneed and will probably outgrow it. He also has very flat feet and will wake up at night in pain. DH has the same foot problems so I don't think it's related to anxiety or anything.

I feel like it was DS' behavior that pushed friends away. Most of my friends have boys around the same age as DS too. Another friend told me she can't stand DS and has continuously asked what is "wrong" with him and she is glad she doesn't have boys because they seem to have more problems. Now I know that is really crappy of her but at the same time she has 2 nephews with significant behavior problems. She always wants to have "girl time" with our daughters but having to leave DS with DH or a sitter constantly isn't fair for him. There's plenty of things we could do that would include DS, I look at it as we include her 3yr old DD with activities that are appropriate for her age and still enjoyable for our older ones. (Does this make sense??) DS has told me many times that people hate him and I have heard kids say it as well.

This is horrible. I'm sorry. 

[niknik]

Summer sucks, it's messing with my spd son too. You should pretty much be able to make a fairly immediate appt. with self destructive behavior though. This is a concern and can't be passed off as a phase.

[anlo]

Ditto others that summers are so taxing. I agree that it's not you. It sounds like he is functioning well at school, and that's a good thing. That doesn't change the fact that it sucks when the rough times all fall to you, I know. I've been there.

I think it would be good to check in with a dev. pedi to have another look at him. There might be something else going on.

Hang in there.