hdbd 7/23

[jennlin]

how old/how far along/how long ttc?

last dr appt, next dr appt?

milestones?

youngest baby and/or under 6 weeks needs 5 pictures minimum.

[dana86]

Just found J is getting in both her bottom front teeth. Had no clue she hasn't been acting any different. I wonder if this means she's going to be an easy teether like M was. *crosses fingers*

[alias]

E is almost one! Less than two weeks to go. He's taken a step here and there, but not quite walking. But, I bet it'll happen soon and then there will be no stopping him. He's had four teeth for a while and he currently has four more all trying to come in at the same time.

He had a fever that kept spiking to 102 or 103 last week, so we went to the Dr., and then it just stopped. Don't know what was wrong. His one year appointment is coming up.

He's been throwing temper tantrum/fits lately. And every morning this week when I drop him off at daycare. Not loving it.

[cdmay]

how old/how far along/how long ttc? 9.5 mo
last dr appt, next dr appt? 9 mo/12mo
milestones? Working on 7th/8th teeth, pulling to stand, starting to climb (!), had tried cruising but prefers crawling), toying with words, recognizes the following words: kitty, (dogs name), daddy, mama, up, eat, and I think a couple others I'm forgetting.

[ilovebed]

I just had Blb's 2 year old check up. She's in the 90th percentile for her body mass index...meaning she's very heavy but just average for her height. Her doctor said he wasn't as concerned b/c she's been growing along the same projectile. She basically gained a ton of weight when she started eating solid foods and has been growing along that same curve since. But he did say to start watching her diet

He said to offer her more vegetables as fillers and less cheese (her favorite). She doesn't really eat a lot of crackers or cereal. She doesn't drink juice. She only drinks milk maybe every other day but sometimes she'll go days without milk. If she doesn't ask for it I don't offer. She's mostly happy with water.

Anyway, I'm just paranoid b/c I was always a heavy kid. Not really fat until I was a teenager, but I was a big kid. I don't think Blb looks that chubby. She's solid. She's really strong. She has little calf and back muscles that show up when she's doing something hard. I think she looks perfectly healthy. But she is bigger than the other kids in her class.

I'm really struggling with toddlerhood. I really am. I feel like I'm always kind of operating at like a 7 b/c my job has been stressful lately and I've been unhappy in some other areas of my personal life so I just don't have the patience to deal with her normal toddler behaviors in a healthy way. She just fights me on almost every activity and she doesn't ever stop moving! I almost feel like I don't even want to go out in public with her anymore. We tried to go out to a family friendly diner tonight for dinner and had to leave three times with her b/c she was fussing and yelling and throwing stuff on the floor. Two weekends ago we got a room in one of the little cottages at the Lake Crescent Lodge and we stayed less than 24 hours b/c she was a nightmare the whole time. I'm actually starting to get nervous about our beach trip in August.

I'll be honest, right now I'm thinking I don't want any more kids. I love all the awesome that comes with all the new stuff that toddlers are learning but I would say, at least on week day evenings, the bad times outweigh the good times. I've been reading some books about how to work through toddler behavior and trying to understand what she is going through developmentally and it does help when I have the sense to remember it.

Anyway, I know this will all pass. Maybe a year from now I'll feel different but at this time I'm thinking one and done! Lol

[ilovebed]

Oh! Here is a picture
Her hair is finally long enough for a pony!
Also, this was her this morning. She did not want to wake up!! I opened her window and turned the lights on and she just buried her head. Gosh, I can't imagine where she got that from.

[alias]

Hugs ilovebed. E is only almost a year and he is a generally happy, easy kid, but he's having some separation anxiety and a lot of frustration of not getting what he wants or not being able to communicate it and then all the stuff going on in our house and I just don't have the patience for it at all. Week nights are effing torture. I love how happy he is when I get him up in the morning and pick him up from daycare, but the throwing a fit when I drop him off at daycare kills me and the time from when we get home until he goes to bed on week nights makes me want to scream, or get drunk and put in ear plugs, or just get in the car and drive far, far away. JK, sort of.

[picksthemusic]

First, I want to say I'm sorry to the moms who are having a tough time right now. I know I get frustrated with M a lot if she's being defiant and not listening, and I feel like I have NO patience whatsoever for toddler nonsense... and then I remember that hey, she's a toddler. She's learning. She's pushing boundaries because she wants to make sure she still has them. And I try to be better as a mom. But knowing that this, too, shall pass... it helps. A little. And being pregnant and hormonal doesn't help either. LOL

M is doing better. She had a little virus that had her spiking 102.8° fevers, being lethargic, not eating, etc. But it lasted just a couple days, and now she's better, so she's headed up to be with M/FIL for a few days so J and I can have some alone time. And then next weekend we're planning on heading to Remlinger Farms for a Big Sister outing.

Baby is doing well, and today I have an NST and u/s, and an OB appointment. I've been having lots of BHs, some more intense than others, but he is still SUPER active and moves around a lot. I'm really starting to think about my VBAC potential, and the fact that I've had to schedule my back-up c/s already, and OMG. And I'm trying to prepare for BFing, and just... it feels like I'm not ready, the house isn't ready for the baby, and I have a bunch to do still. I think once I clean the infant seat lining, we order the co-sleeper, and get more teeny baby clothing (basic onesies and stuff), I'll feel better about going into labor anytime soon.

[jennlin]

hang in there ilovebed. being a toddler mom is seriously one of the toughest jobs out there. i have lashed out at h, saying "you deal with her", and then i feel so incredibly guilty for saying something like that.

also--i disagree with doctors that limit kids food. the answer should be increased activity (IMO). it sounds like she has a lot of energy already, can you get her one of those mini trampolines?

www.amazon.com/Diggin-00135-JumpSmart-Trampoline/dp/B00264GIFO/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1406217513&sr=8-6&keywords=trampoline+for+toddlers

(i don't know if amazon is the best price, so shop around). it'll increase her activity level, burn more calories, she still gets to eat all the food she loves, and hopefully she can burn that energy down and make your days easier.

[ilovebed]

I've actually thought about that! My niece has one and she loves to use it. She's a pretty active kid. She never stops moving it seems. A daycare they spend a lot of time outside on hikes and doing a lot of physical activity. She eats a varied and healthy diet. She just eats a lot. Like her mama. Oh well. I turned out okay

[shevacc]

Sending big hugs, ilovebed! Blb is always full of energy and really happy when I see her so I think you're definitely doing things right. Plus you take care of her from wakeup to bedtime and run your household, AND work full-time -- that's a lot! Not that your H isn't helpful, but he's gone for such a long day. Blb is already starting to get so independent and hopefully soon your life will feel a little easier/more manageable. You don't have to decide right now to have another kid -- lots of families do 3-5 year separation between their kids and it's perfect for them, plus you're still young. And if you do decide your family is complete, that's ok too. Blb is so friendly and social that she'll have tons of friends.

I've always been a big eater too and can still remember the stress of days when school provided lunch and everyone only got one slice of cheese pizza. I spent the entire mealtime trying to figure out if there was any way I could have seconds so I wouldn't be hungry all afternoon. I've always eaten 1.5-2x more than other people my age. I like the idea of encouraging Blb to stay active -- she loves running around so much and would probably do great in team sports once she's a bit older. FWIW, I somewhat limit cheese with G too (not so much portion sizes as only offering it for a few meals/snacks a week). Not for the calorie content, but bc she'd always choose to eat that if offered and never try anything else.

[shevacc]

G is getting so big and has so much to say about everything! It's fun to listen to her chatter and she gives the best hugs. She also drives me crazy by dumping her drink out at nearly every mealtime. And throwing everything within reach when she gets frustrated. It's crazy how toddlers are so volatile one minute giving hugs and snuggles then the next minute screaming in (very temporary) frustration.

This was at the zoo the weekend before last, but I didn't get a chance to post it last week. Not quite as big as a polar bear...

And stealing my backup sunglasses:

I have just over 2 weeks left and about a week and a half until my mom flies in. I hope baby boy stays put until my mom arrives to watch G, then I hope he decides to show up as soon as possible. Yesterday I had no labor signs whatsoever but last night he and my uterus both started slightly responding to her nursing, so maybe there's something just starting to happen.

[ilovebed]

Jul 24, 2014 14:48:56 GMT -5 shevacc said:

It's crazy how toddlers are so volatile one minute giving hugs and snuggles then the next minute screaming in (very temporary) frustration.[/.

Truth!

Thanks for the kind words. It means a lot.