I'm doing a group project and one of my group members is in his late 40s and has a HUGE chip on his shoulder because he's one of the oldest people in the program (I'm old at 30) and he's freaking out about not getting a job now that he's pushing 50 and knows nothing about the industry. He is constantly telling people how things were when he worked for some telecom company (15 years ago the company is no longer even called by the same name) and bringing up long stories that are completely irrelevant for no reason other than he wants people to think he's smart. He's trying to get into marketing and only created a FB acct to be part of group postings.
I've done all of the marketing work for this project (with a real company) and created a presentation based on a bunch of work I did. It was beautiful, formatted well with graphics, HTML color codes that I got from the company UX designer, etc. It took me HOURS. I sent it to him in .pdf and instead of telling me that it wouldn't work with the crap slide deck he put together, he extracted the content, copied the images, and added it to his Powerpoint presentation channeling 1995. I just lost my shit at him in the nicest possible way but OMG I want to kill him.
At this point he's being so impossible that he won't communicate with me or answer me directly when I ask him a question and is now refusing to even fix the spelling of my name on the presentation because he doesn't "have the time to fix these things, mcc". Why didn't I tell him earlier how to spell my name? RAGE!!!!!
I just emailed the program director to talk at some point about handling conflict. I know it's a weakness of mine and really need to work on it. Thankfully I'm feeling better now but the group member is at this point refusing to be included in the presentation to the company.
He has time to email/respond to you about not fixing stuff but cannot possibly find time to at least spell your name correctly? What an ass. Good idea on emailing the program director. This is why I always hated group projects. I work so much better alone.
I just emailed the program director to talk at some point about handling conflict. I know it's a weakness of mine and really need to work on it. Thankfully I'm feeling better now but the group member is at this point refusing to be included in the presentation to the company.
Like he won't be there helping when you present to the company? If he is as difficult as it sounds, you all will probably be better off without him! Group work can be so frustrating but it sounds like you have handled it well so far.
I just emailed the program director to talk at some point about handling conflict. I know it's a weakness of mine and really need to work on it. Thankfully I'm feeling better now but the group member is at this point refusing to be included in the presentation to the company.
Like he won't be there helping when you present to the company? If he is as difficult as it sounds, you all will probably be better off without him! Group work can be so frustrating but it sounds like you have handled it well so far.
He didn't want his name included on it. We ignored him, added it, and let him stand there silent while we presented. The program director was responsive, knew right away who it was, and hopefully can give me some tips for dealing with conflict at work. I'm normally so easy going but he and I are like oil and water. Just the sight of him stresses me out. We all have those people and he's mine.
This will be a good exercise in self restraint. It took all of my strength not to slap his laptop on his hands when he was shouting, "Do you see anything but a PDF here? Huh?! Look! No, you only sent a PDF!" and shoving his screen across the table.
Like he won't be there helping when you present to the company? If he is as difficult as it sounds, you all will probably be better off without him! Group work can be so frustrating but it sounds like you have handled it well so far.
He didn't want his name included on it. We ignored him, added it, and let him stand there silent while we presented. The program director was responsive, knew right away who it was, and hopefully can give me some tips for dealing with conflict at work. I'm normally so easy going but he and I are like oil and water. Just the sight of him stresses me out. We all have those people and he's mine.
This will be a good exercise in self restraint. It took all of my strength not to slap his laptop on his hands when he was shouting, "Do you see anything but a PDF here? Huh?! Look! No, you only sent a PDF!" and shoving his screen across the table.
I had a guy like this in MBA program. I think I usually handle these situations well but something about him always got under my skin. A few times it took all my strength to not launch myself across the table and strangle him. Luckily with people like this, they tend to have problems with lots of people. It sounds like the director, and probably others in your class, recognize he is a jackass.
He didn't want his name included on it. We ignored him, added it, and let him stand there silent while we presented. The program director was responsive, knew right away who it was, and hopefully can give me some tips for dealing with conflict at work. I'm normally so easy going but he and I are like oil and water. Just the sight of him stresses me out. We all have those people and he's mine.
This will be a good exercise in self restraint. It took all of my strength not to slap his laptop on his hands when he was shouting, "Do you see anything but a PDF here? Huh?! Look! No, you only sent a PDF!" and shoving his screen across the table.
I had a guy like this in MBA program. I think I usually handle these situations well but something about him always got under my skin. A few times it took all my strength to not launch myself across the table and strangle him. Luckily with people like this, they tend to have problems with lots of people. It sounds like the director, and probably others in your class, recognize he is a jackass.
He doesn't have a fan club, that's for sure! How did you handle MBA douche? I really need all the tips I can get. I'm not proud of the mean comment I snapped at him today that I won't even post here
I had a guy like this in MBA program. I think I usually handle these situations well but something about him always got under my skin. A few times it took all my strength to not launch myself across the table and strangle him. Luckily with people like this, they tend to have problems with lots of people. It sounds like the director, and probably others in your class, recognize he is a jackass.
He doesn't have a fan club, that's for sure! How did you handle MBA douche? I really need all the tips I can get. I'm not proud of the mean comment I snapped at him today that I won't even post here
I tried but didn't always handle him super well. When he would say something super infuriating, I would tell myself to think about my response for 10 seconds before speaking. Usually just forcing myself to think about it for a few seconds helped me speak more rationally rather than yelling.
I also tried to hold all of my criticism till I could get it into an email. So if he did something stupid in class, I would not say anything in the moment. Once I got home, I would write an email outlining my concerns and suggestions for change. Half of the time by the time I got to writing the email I decided that the issue wasn't important enough to even engage. The other half of the time, email gave me the opportunity to make sure the tone and content were mature and constructive.
Of course there were the occasional yelling and ranting at him
pandora only 3 more weeks. Yippee! I already ignore him during the week, it's the one time a week I spend 8 hours with him that makes it really difficult