Post by irishbride2 on Jul 28, 2014 20:24:34 GMT -5
I did not. Logistically it was not feasible. He was abroad and moving in with him before marriage would have been a visa nightmare.
But I'm not opposed. I personally would not do it pre engagement though. To me, moving in together is a huge commitment and I don't want to go through all of that if we are not engaged.
Yes. It is also frowned upon in my family (Catholics---we lived in sin), but we were adults, were committed, etc. We did not get engaged until about 2 years later. We were young, though, 24 and 26, so it worked for us. We did keep all $$ separate, though.
Post by starburst604 on Jul 28, 2014 20:29:39 GMT -5
Yes, I moved in with H knowing that we would get engaged soon. I also shacked up with 2 exes, one of whom I got engaged to after moving in. We never got married though.
Yes. We were not engaged. Five months after we started dating, there was a series of shootings and violent crimes in my neighborhood. I had just started law school, and the hour long public transportation commute from school to my crime-ridden apartment at 10 at night was not so appealing. Plus H had a Tivo and could cook.
Post by thejackpot on Jul 28, 2014 20:31:09 GMT -5
Yes. I did and we were not engaged either. It was all very backwards and we did not do a lot of talking about what exactly we were doing. Luckily it worked out but there was a lot of frowning by my folks.
Post by stephm0188 on Jul 28, 2014 20:31:21 GMT -5
We weren't engaged yet when I moved in. I was at the end of my lease and had to make a decision whether or not to renew it or move. I was going to renew the lease, he wanted me to move in. I banked whatever I would have put toward rent just in case things didn't work out, and it wound up being a tidy sum for our wedding later that year. Not a big deal to me.
Post by ChillyMcFreeze on Jul 28, 2014 20:34:43 GMT -5
No, but I was fresh out of college, and he lived in a different town from my grad school. I'm not opposed, but I think it's prudent to be engaged or at least really close to it.
No. I owned my place and H rented his, so it only would've made sense if he moved in with me. But that would create a gnarly commute for him, which he wanted to put off as long as possible. I wasn't offended; I liked having my own space.
Post by hopecounts on Jul 28, 2014 20:41:10 GMT -5
No. Both our families would have been upset if we did. I lived with my folks for a few months and finished planning the wedding and we commuted back and forth.
I think we were engaged when we got a place together (can't remember the timeline precisely now). I know we were together for three years and engaged for two before we got married; not because we were hesitant to get married, but because we couldn't be bothered to plan a wedding.
We lived together for 5 months after we were engaged, then I moved to a different state and we lived separately again for two months before the wedding.
Post by orangeblossom on Jul 28, 2014 20:48:02 GMT -5
Briefly. I was doing a rotation for a training program, and was rotating in the city, to hopefully be able to transfer to an office there. I could have opted to stay at a corporate apt or residence inn type place, but opted not to for multiple reasons though.
We did buy a house together, whole we were engaged. I wouldn't do that again though.