Post by cookiemdough on Jul 29, 2014 15:31:27 GMT -5
Around 8 am this morning I get a text from my cousin on my dad's side of the family asking about my cousin and what happened. I am confused and I go on Facebook and someone had posted a rest in peace note. I call another cousin in a panic because I wasn't sure if it was a mistake. And no it wasn't. But my aunt hadn't even had a chance to digest the information (my cousin is only 43) and start calling us. So it has pretty much taken most of the day to even get over the initial shock that I have lost my cousin who I was supposed to vacation with this weekend. And now I am mad. Why the hell do people start posting death info on Facebook in the first hour or so of someone's death. Do people not have common sense that it takes time to notify people. I am probably just letting out my emotions another way but I am pissed. Pissed that something so unexpected happened but that I had to find out through fucking FB. Rage.
Post by downtoearth on Jul 29, 2014 15:36:26 GMT -5
So very sorry for your cousin's passing! Hugs.
Really, isn't there a FB for dummy's blocker, where if you post a birth, death, wedding, etc. announcement, that you have to go through a checklist before it's posted with the number one question being, "Does all immediate family know this already and have given the ok to put this on the web for other family members?"
I am so sorry. And no, you are not being emotional. That is a horrible way to find out about that. I don't even know what else to say. What a complete shock.
Same thing happened to me when my grandfather died. My father had called the night before saying things weren't looking good and I woke up at my cousin had posted at 6am that he had died. Bitch at least wait until people can make calls.
Some random acquaintance posted about my dad's death on Facebook before his body was barely cold, just to be the first person in our shitty hometown to spread the word. And didn't bother to express any condolences to me or my sister (also a FB friend). I had to quickly unfriend her because I was seconds away from posting that she could go fuck herself.
Some random acquaintance posted about my dad's death on Facebook before his body was barely cold, just to be the first person in our shitty hometown to spread the word. And didn't bother to express any condolences to me or my sister (also a FB friend). I had to quickly unfriend her because I was seconds away from posting that she could go fuck herself.
Do people just not think or just want to be the first? I can't imagine what satisfaction one gets from being the first on FB to post about someone's passing. It's so so insensitive.
Post by Norticprincess on Jul 29, 2014 15:47:39 GMT -5
I'm sorry. It is an awful way to find out.
I'll never comprehend why people share it on Facebook before immediate family and extended family know. If there is a published obituary I think you're safe, before that unless you are making the calls hell no. Death glares at aunt and cousin in law who have pulled this bs.
I'm FB friends with a high school acquaintance that will do this the second she hears that anyone has died. Like there's some kind of race to be the "first" to say they miss somebody on FB.
I've lost track of how many people I've seen people call her out because they found out about a relative or close friend's death (usually people she wasn't even close with) through her dropping an RIP bomb the second she got wind of it. Her usual response is to go on the defensive "I'm just sorry they died! I can't believe you're offended that I said I'm sorry they died!"
It's just so tacky and crass. Manners still matter on FB, people!
Post by cookiemdough on Jul 29, 2014 16:00:51 GMT -5
Thanks. . It was a young cousin on her dad's side that did the post. I am trying to give a pass knowing young people have no filter on FB, but seriously give her mother a chance to tell people. I ended up notifying my mother because my aunt hadn't even had a moment to digest the news and call her sister. I am ragey all over again.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley