Really, telling your boss you think you aren't worth your salary is a good idea? Telling him you would work cheaper is good in your mind? Your DH is a grown man he shouldn't have his helicopter wife going to ask anyone for a job for him.
It's not something people turn in resumes for. But, maybe by doing one, it'll look good. I don't know.
You literally usually just get picked for the job. The only requirement is that you've been a good Union member. They go from working in the trade to more of an "office" type job. It's 100% on the job training, but sure, you have to know the industry, which he does.
Not a knock on you or your DH, but this is some bullshit. These types of inefficiencies are one of the reasons why unions get a bad rep.
Yes thank you! I'm reading this all what the fuck? Dh is in a union, and I was thinking I must be naive or clueless because no. But maybe it's just different areas do things differently?
It's not the way things are at the section of the union my d is a member of. I believe the union itself is international but the local is all (I believe) employed by the same co, so maybe I'm mixing up what's the union and what's the company.
But no way would a union member of his ever lift his head again around anyone if they went in talking about pay cuts for spouse jobs.
Ah, DH works for a national one. But yeah, the hiring process is weird. The last job they opened for all of 4 hours and it was tailored specific to like one person. They also have a LOT of spouse/family working there. It would also be a place where he would have a conversation to his boss about hiring me if I wanted to work there. So I get that.
Thank you. I still plan on talking with my boss myself first, but I'm going to be more professional about it, like people here have advised. He won't know what hit him!
My work BFF just got hired by our national and I'm so incredibly jealous. While we're based in DC, she gets to work from home. She said even they are WAY more professional than we are. Hell, we didn't even have an HR until a few months ago and even so, it's not like she does anything. You think she has ANYTHING to do with this whole hiring process? Nope. It's 100% my boss.
Oh honey. Just stop. HR does much more than just hiring. And managers should be responsible for hiring the people they...you know, manage.
I really hope you think about this and talk to your H tonight. You got a ton of good advice but my teeth clench just thinking about this.
Trust me, she doesn't do anything. She's my good friend. She just started in the role a few months ago and we've never had an HR before. She does payroll for the hourly employees and instituted some internet policy last week. WE are not in the Union, we just work here. It's not like the members go to her. They'd go to their Steward or Rep.
Your boss has already said no to this idea in the past. Maybe he doesn't think your husband is as amazing as you do.
Your husband isn't going through the normal protocol. Seriously, I'd hire the guy whose wife went looking to get him a job after I hired the kids whose mom did. If he's interested in the position, he could send in a resume and cover letter.
The pay cut is the stupidest shit I've read today.
Trying the undercut the structuring of the hierarchy the boss has in place is presumptuous.
I only read through page 3, but have you thought about what would happen if you give up all YOUR money and responsibilities for you H and he dumps your ass in a year?
SERIOUSLY. I know, I know- he'd NEVER! Please trust that I have a good friend who said the same thing about 3 months before he left her for a younger woman (who'd just scored a nice inheritance). I often attempt to make people less self-absorbed. You, my friend, need to become More self-absorbed. Don't you dare put his career before your's.
Your boss has already said no to this idea in the past. Maybe he doesn't think your husband is as amazing as you do.
Your husband isn't going through the normal protocol. Seriously, I'd hire the guy whose wife went looking to get him a job after I hired the kids whose mom did. If he's interested in the position, he could send in a resume and cover letter.
The pay cut is the stupidest shit I've read today.
Trying the undercut the structuring of the hierarchy the boss has in place is presumptuous.
Post by juliagoulia on Jul 31, 2014 17:31:21 GMT -5
I really cannot ever imagine offering to cut my own pay to get my H hired.
Hell, I'd go for the higher paying job, myself, and tell boss H would be a great replacement for me before that happened. Then I'd still play it off like I was awesome for landing him my old gig. Suckerrrrrr!
And let's go back a step here, actually. They are INTERVIEWING people. INTERVIEWING. They haven't gotten to the actual hiring stage. That's why it's even more ridiculous that you want to go in and say "hire my DH! I'll take a paycut!".
They have other people they are considering. You need to first get them to even CONSIDER your DH.
While the paycut part is still idiotic, it's actually putting the cart before the horse.
I honestly don't see where you all think I'm still going to do that. I said in a few posts that I was planning on helping DH get his resume together and then talk to my boss with it in hand tomorrow.
FTR, he didn't say no to my DH b/c of anything to do with my DH, it was b/c I'm his assistant. His exact words were "I can make a lot of things happen, that's probably not one of them". He's afraid of the backlash if it looks like he's playing "favorites". He doesn't even know the two that are coming in to interview. They were recommended by one of the one's retiring. After this post and talking with a former co-worker, we're actually going to have DH call the retiring guy tomorrow about getting his name on the interview list and why they should give him a chance. I'll be 100% out of it. I appreciate the "constructive" criticism.
I honestly don't see where you all think I'm still going to do that. I said in a few posts that I was planning on helping DH get his resume together and then talk to my boss with it in hand tomorrow.
FTR, he didn't say no to my DH b/c of anything to do with my DH, it was b/c I'm his assistant. His exact words were "I can make a lot of things happen, that's probably not one of them". He's afraid of the backlash if it looks like he's playing "favorites". He doesn't even know the two that are coming in to interview. They were recommended by one of the one's retiring. After this post and talking with a former co-worker, we're actually going to have DH call the retiring guy tomorrow about getting his name on the interview list and why they should give him a chance. I'll be 100% out of it. I appreciate the "constructive" criticism.
Why would it be different now?
It may not be. That's why I got the "hairbrained" idea of giving that part of my job to someone else. When this was all said, they weren't hiring anyone new. The guy just announced his retirement. It was about 3 months ago. Now that it's happening, I want to try one more time because I would hate myself if I didn't at least try. But now, *I'm* not going to be the one to try, DH is, so he'll give it his best shot and whatever will be, will be.
I honestly don't see where you all think I'm still going to do that. I said in a few posts that I was planning on helping DH get his resume together and then talk to my boss with it in hand tomorrow.
FTR, he didn't say no to my DH b/c of anything to do with my DH, it was b/c I'm his assistant. His exact words were "I can make a lot of things happen, that's probably not one of them". He's afraid of the backlash if it looks like he's playing "favorites". He doesn't even know the two that are coming in to interview. They were recommended by one of the one's retiring. After this post and talking with a former co-worker, we're actually going to have DH call the retiring guy tomorrow about getting his name on the interview list and why they should give him a chance. I'll be 100% out of it. I appreciate the "constructive" criticism.
Why would it be different now?
This is where I am at as well. If you say you're not planning to offer yourself as tribute anymore, what makes you think he will magically decide now is the time to go back on his previous decision to not consider your husband?
It may not be. That's why I got the "hairbrained" idea of giving that part of my job to someone else. When this was all said, they weren't hiring anyone new. The guy just announced his retirement. It was about 3 months ago. Now that it's happening, I want to try one more time because I would hate myself if I didn't at least try. But now, *I'm* not going to be the one to try, DH is, so he'll give it his best shot and whatever will be, will be.
Did you answer if this is what your H wants?
I don't know if I did, but he absolutely wants this job. We talked earlier today and he brought up that I shouldn't be offering up my position or money b/c what if he doesn't get the job but I still lose out, much like many said here. So, see, he's not as dumb as me
It may not be. That's why I got the "hairbrained" idea of giving that part of my job to someone else. When this was all said, they weren't hiring anyone new. The guy just announced his retirement. It was about 3 months ago. Now that it's happening, I want to try one more time because I would hate myself if I didn't at least try. But now, *I'm* not going to be the one to try, DH is, so he'll give it his best shot and whatever will be, will be.
But how do you even come up with the idea of giving part of your job to someone else? It's not "yours" to give away. And what else would you be paid to do if you eliminated part of your job? Is that what the pay cut is about? Does your H even want this job? ::sigh:: so many questions!
I don't know why I didn't read this thread all day. OP, I'm glad you dropped your original plan. Also desperation is a huge turn off, so play it cool. You want to show your boss how valuable your H will be to the mob office. You don't want to make it look like this is your H's only shot at getting any job. Do what cville said.