I saw xh tonight

[Bernadine]

From a distance, at the local fire company carnival.  He had a big, bushy beard.  I always hated his beard.  He just generally did not look good.

And after all the shit he did to me- I still just feel sorry for him.  And still a little guilty for leaving him.  It makes me sad.  I actually just heard yesterday that he was supposed to go to court-ordered rehab this past spring, after getting his third DUI, and never want.  And he goes to court in September.  I wonder if he'll end up in jail.

It's just so weird to see him now, and hear what's going on with him.

PDQ

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Ughhhh awkward. I hate him for what he put you through. But I do feel a little sorry for him, too.

You're the best, to be even the tiniest bit concerned for him is a testament to your character

[eb777888]

Well, I think it says a lot about the person you are that you can still feel sympathy for him after everything.

[lime]

Oh man, that's so hard. I've been there and it sort of makes you feel like all the air has been squeezed out of you.

((rak))

[LoveBug]

I feel the same when I think about my STBX - sad for him that he sucks as a human being, guilty because he has no one to "stake care of him", etc. But I have to remind myself of all the shitty things he has done to me.

Sorry you had to see him.

[VeryViolet]

Ugh I am sorry you had to see him and bring up all of that. Like everyone else said you are a good person and that is why you feel sorry for him after all the shit he put you through. Also, it is probably a testament to how good a place you are in that you feel that rather than anger.

[janiejones]

Of course you are going to care for him. At one point you loved him very deeply. I can't imagine coming through your relationship, but I am certain on the other side it would be hard to forget the beginning.

[wannabe]

Because we have a daughter together, I hear about the ex often. Lately she's been annoyed at him for not taking better care of himself. I'm just all like "preach it sister, I dealt with that for twelve years." Not out loud, just in my head as I listen to her.

[AHappierHour]

When I hear things about my XH I care but it's doesn't bother me like it did when I first left. Now I just feel sorry for him. He has to have some sort of mental health problems from doing hard drugs for 15+ years.