I got mommy/pg shamed at a birthday party yesterday. The host said that despite knowing that she invited like 5 families where the mom was pg, she was serving mostly cold cut sandwiches. ^o) She had other stuff too but not a lot. Anyway, I said I wouldn't mind eating one. This other perfectly skinny pg lady was all "REALLY!? I'd NEVER put my baby at risk like THAT!" and went on and on. I just stared at her and then got up and made myself a sandwich.
Oh good lord. They had ham sandwiches at my baby shower yesterday, big whoop.
I posted this in the mom to be thread but I wonder if my iron is low. I'm soooo flippin tired. Is this just common? I felt like when I hit 2nd tri I was great and the last month I have been exhausted. I know the babies are growing like crazy so maybe my body is wore out. I nap so good on the weekends but then at night I sleep like crap. I could literally close my eyes at my desk and pass out. And it's hard to not nap after work but if I keep myself busy then I won't.
Oh good lord. They had ham sandwiches at my baby shower yesterday, big whoop.
I posted this in the mom to be thread but I wonder if my iron is low. I'm soooo flippin tired. Is this just common? I felt like when I hit 2nd tri I was great and the last month I have been exhausted. I know the babies are growing like crazy so maybe my body is wore out. I nap so good on the weekends but then at night I sleep like crap. I could literally close my eyes at my desk and pass out. And it's hard to not nap after work but if I keep myself busy then I won't.
Are you doing half a unisom at night? It has been my night sleep savior.
No! I didn't know if there was anything I can take.
I'm officially in the EAT ALL THE THINGS phase of pregnancy. I just had to leave a work meeting to go get hummus and pita because I was getting shaky and hot. Then I ate a bunch of cashews. The last update I read said that the baby is, like, doubling his/her weight the next few weeks, so I'll just blame that.
I got mommy/pg shamed at a birthday party yesterday. The host said that despite knowing that she invited like 5 families where the mom was pg, she was serving mostly cold cut sandwiches. She had other stuff too but not a lot. Anyway, I said I wouldn't mind eating one. This other perfectly skinny pg lady was all "REALLY!? I'd NEVER put my baby at risk like THAT!" and went on and on. I just stared at her and then got up and made myself a sandwich.
We both survived!
I don't think being skinny has anything to do with it? It's a risk of food poisoning.
Oh good lord. They had ham sandwiches at my baby shower yesterday, big whoop.
I posted this in the mom to be thread but I wonder if my iron is low. I'm soooo flippin tired. Is this just common? I felt like when I hit 2nd tri I was great and the last month I have been exhausted. I know the babies are growing like crazy so maybe my body is wore out. I nap so good on the weekends but then at night I sleep like crap. I could literally close my eyes at my desk and pass out. And it's hard to not nap after work but if I keep myself busy then I won't.
I would talk to your doc about it. Have you been tested for it yet? I was tested around 24/25 weeks and when that came back and they prescribed me to start talking iron supplements (in addition to the prenatals) I felt a world of difference. It was amazing! (Just talk to your doc before you start the supplements, because they can mess with you.)
I did feel better after starting an iron supplement. I was just borderline anemic and I was skeptical but it really did help. I still take naps but I can still do stuff (relatively) in-between sleepings.
So we officially announced on FB over the weekend. Lots of lovely comments. And then I get this kind of random one from a co-worker today about how she never felt more whole and healthy than when she was pregnant. And how "it's a time when a woman's body is in the prime of optimal health-shiny hair, dewy skin, lovely curves."
I want to be nice in return, but I just really can't. Everyone is different, yo. And right now I feel like my body is some kind of weird science experiment, I have no energy, I have crazy relentless digestive issues, everything tastes gross, all my clothes suck, and all I want to do is nap. Prime of optimal health my ass.
Haha I felt that way until the last few weeks too. I'm enjoying my fab preggo hair, but I still don't feel like I am at my prime optimal health! Geez.
I feel like we're all going to be shamed in some way or another and it's annoying. I feel like so many women are all uppity about certain "risks" but really, what or who was she helping by saying that? Keep it to yourself, lady.
So along those lines, I had a glass of wine with my mom while on vacation this weekend. I freaking LOVED it. My mom kept asking if I wanted a glass when we were out to eat at both lunch and dinner but I just could not bring myself to drink in public. But once we were home I had one. If I wasn't so afraid of mommy-to-be shaming I would have had one while we were out with my meal.
Also, I, too, am having a horrible time falling asleep and the wine fixed that!
But even when I do get a good night's sleep I'm just as exhausted the next day. I got up around 9 today, ate something, showered, and then rested in bed b/c I didn't feel well (nausea is back and I'm tired). It's 2:20 and I just woke back up from that nap. And I'm still tired. School starts with kids next week. I'm fucked, aren't I? I gotta make it to Oct 10th!
@pennypie - I really don't understand people who have fantastic magical pregnancies. I am convinced those people are full of shit, really. I may be the pessimist of the year, but in these past 7 or so months I have never felt more out of sorts, sick, tired, ugly, and uncomfortable. I find it impossible to come up with a response when people get all dowey-eyed and go "Oh! Isn't pregnancy just great! You must feel wonderful!"
I just want to scream "GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT OF ME NOW!"
BUT, maybe there are people out there who have a fantastic time harboring a little person in their abdomen.
I'm also in the still tired boat. I was a friend's at home reception on Saturday and we were gone for about 7 hours. I didn't even really do anything while we were there, just sat around and talked. I was still completely wiped out on Sunday and took a couple of naps.
DH and I had sex this morning, and afterwards he said that was probably our last time for 6 months. While it makes me sad for him, it does make me appreciate that he remembers how difficult it was for me last time. He has even promised not to try and make any advances until after Christmas. I do appreciate that we have this agreement in place before the baby is born. It was his suggestion and it helps erase some of the guilt I feel.
I got mommy/pg shamed at a birthday party yesterday. The host said that despite knowing that she invited like 5 families where the mom was pg, she was serving mostly cold cut sandwiches. She had other stuff too but not a lot. Anyway, I said I wouldn't mind eating one. This other perfectly skinny pg lady was all "REALLY!? I'd NEVER put my baby at risk like THAT!" and went on and on. I just stared at her and then got up and made myself a sandwich.
We both survived!
My SIL tried this with me, except she has never even been pregnant, her best friend is. I just turned around to her and said 'oh, that's reserved for first time mom's'. She has never said anything about it to me again.
So we officially announced on FB over the weekend. Lots of lovely comments. And then I get this kind of random one from a co-worker today about how she never felt more whole and healthy than when she was pregnant. And how "it's a time when a woman's body is in the prime of optimal health-shiny hair, dewy skin, lovely curves."
I want to be nice in return, but I just really can't. Everyone is different, yo. And right now I feel like my body is some kind of weird science experiment, I have no energy, I have crazy relentless digestive issues, everything tastes gross, all my clothes suck, and all I want to do is nap. Prime of optimal health my ass.
I felt that way for exactly 2 hours. For real glorious, best health in years.
Then came 8 weeks of ranging from meh to total crap. And I have a long way to go!
Post by bluelikejazz on Aug 25, 2014 15:01:39 GMT -5
When I said something to DH's aunt (we call her Crazy Aunt B) about DH being a SAHD, she responded all cutesy "aww, is he going to be Mr. Mom?" I quickly replied "no. He's going to be a stay-at-home-FATHER, and NO ONE will call him that" *death glare* I was very stern in my response and it shut her up real quick. It felt awesome.
DH wasn't there, but when I told him later he was very glad I said what I did.
I need to wallow in self pity for a bit. I had a few big travel plans for the upcoming months (European vacation, black tie wedding, etc), but I have to cancel all of them because the doctor wants me to stay local. Being high risk sucks. This kid isn't even born and I'm tied down already!
I have my productivity pants on today. I've checked off so many to dos, phone calls, mountains of paperwork. I'm not sure where this new attitude came from, but I like it.
626 I'm sorry you had to cancel your travel plans. Not cool that you can't have one last hurrah before baby arrives!
@pennypie - I really don't understand people who have fantastic magical pregnancies. I am convinced those people are full of shit, really. I may be the pessimist of the year, but in these past 7 or so months I have never felt more out of sorts, sick, tired, ugly, and uncomfortable. I find it impossible to come up with a response when people get all dowey-eyed and go "Oh! Isn't pregnancy just great! You must feel wonderful!"
I just want to scream "GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT OF ME NOW!"
BUT, maybe there are people out there who have a fantastic time harboring a little person in their abdomen.
^o) Um, yes there are. Me for one. Absolutely hands down love every second of it. Even the nightly shots and peeing myself every day.
@pennypie - I really don't understand people who have fantastic magical pregnancies. I am convinced those people are full of shit, really. I may be the pessimist of the year, but in these past 7 or so months I have never felt more out of sorts, sick, tired, ugly, and uncomfortable. I find it impossible to come up with a response when people get all dowey-eyed and go "Oh! Isn't pregnancy just great! You must feel wonderful!"
I just want to scream "GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT OF ME NOW!"
BUT, maybe there are people out there who have a fantastic time harboring a little person in their abdomen.
Um, yes there are. Me for one. Absolutely hands down love every second of it. Even the nightly shots and peeing myself every day.
@pennypie - I really don't understand people who have fantastic magical pregnancies. I am convinced those people are full of shit, really. I may be the pessimist of the year, but in these past 7 or so months I have never felt more out of sorts, sick, tired, ugly, and uncomfortable. I find it impossible to come up with a response when people get all dowey-eyed and go "Oh! Isn't pregnancy just great! You must feel wonderful!"
I just want to scream "GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT OF ME NOW!"
BUT, maybe there are people out there who have a fantastic time harboring a little person in their abdomen.
Um, yes there are. Me for one. Absolutely hands down love every second of it. Even the nightly shots and peeing myself every day.
Yeah, my SIL is someone who says she loved every one of her pregnancies. So I'm sure they are out there.
It's amazing how different each pregnancy can be between women and even between pregnancies! I just can't fathom this being enjoyable at the moment. I envy you ladies!
@pennypie - I really don't understand people who have fantastic magical pregnancies. I am convinced those people are full of shit, really. I may be the pessimist of the year, but in these past 7 or so months I have never felt more out of sorts, sick, tired, ugly, and uncomfortable. I find it impossible to come up with a response when people get all dowey-eyed and go "Oh! Isn't pregnancy just great! You must feel wonderful!"
I just want to scream "GET IT OUT! GET IT OUT OF ME NOW!"
BUT, maybe there are people out there who have a fantastic time harboring a little person in their abdomen.
Word.
Maybe I'll get there eventually. Or have bits of feeling amazing here and there. But currently I'm going to a "I really don't like this very much" phase. So it was probably the exactly wrong day for her to post this on FB.
I'm not sure how far along you are but I do hear that it gets fantastic in the second tri for most people. I remember my Dr telling me that I'll feel like "Super Woman" at that point. I never happened for me but I hope you get there!
DH and I had sex this morning, and afterwards he said that was probably our last time for 6 months. While it makes me sad for him, it does make me appreciate that he remembers how difficult it was for me last time. He has even promised not to try and make any advances until after Christmas. I do appreciate that we have this agreement in place before the baby is born. It was his suggestion and it helps erase some of the guilt I feel.
Ugh I hate sex now. I feel really guilty cluing DH into the idea that it could be 9 weeks now w/o it.
Um, yes there are. Me for one. Absolutely hands down love every second of it. Even the nightly shots and peeing myself every day.
Yeah, my SIL is someone who says she loved every one of her pregnancies. So I'm sure they are out there.
It's amazing how different each pregnancy can be between women and even between pregnancies! I just can't fathom this being enjoyable at the moment. I envy you ladies!
When it takes years to get here, and for some of us requires invasive testing and shots and meds, the idea of being pregnant is amazing. I feel guilty every time I complain about being tired or not feeling well, because I know a ton of people who would give their right arms to have what I have.
I'm not trying to be an IF martyr, but sometimes it helps to see where others are coming from.
Yeah, my SIL is someone who says she loved every one of her pregnancies. So I'm sure they are out there.
It's amazing how different each pregnancy can be between women and even between pregnancies! I just can't fathom this being enjoyable at the moment. I envy you ladies!
When it takes years to get here, and for some of us requires invasive testing and shots and meds, the idea of being pregnant is amazing. I feel guilty every time I complain about being tired or not feeling well, because I know a ton of people who would give their right arms to have what I have.
I'm not trying to be an IF martyr, but sometimes it helps to see where others are coming from.
I've had a fairly easy pregnancy so far but this is why I enjoy it. I sometimes wondered if I would ever get pregnant, so I savor every moment. I know not all girls feel this way and yes some have a hard pregnancy, but it's truly a miracle.
When it takes years to get here, and for some of us requires invasive testing and shots and meds, the idea of being pregnant is amazing. I feel guilty every time I complain about being tired or not feeling well, because I know a ton of people who would give their right arms to have what I have.
I'm not trying to be an IF martyr, but sometimes it helps to see where others are coming from.
I've had a fairly easy pregnancy so far but this is why I enjoy it. I sometimes wondered if I would ever get pregnant, so I savor every moment. I know not all girls feel this way and yes some have a hard pregnancy, but it's truly a miracle.
I think it's easier to feel this way when you're having an easy pregnancy (which, except for my negative body image when nothing fits or the scale goes up, I totally am so far). So most of the time - yeah, I feel so thankful that I'm pregnant and things are finally, finally falling into place for us. But I will not lie when I say I was pretty damn pissed every night when that progesterone shot hit my booty. Even the miracle of being pregnant after IF and the gratitude I feel did not stop that feeling! No guilt.
ETA: I also wonder if we feel this way b/c it's second tri and this is the stereotypical "awesome" period of pregnancy. Will I still feel like a miracle goddess when I'm 38 weeks, enormous, and barely able to waddle along down the street? TBD....
I've had a fairly easy pregnancy so far but this is why I enjoy it. I sometimes wondered if I would ever get pregnant, so I savor every moment. I know not all girls feel this way and yes some have a hard pregnancy, but it's truly a miracle.
I think it's easier to feel this way when you're having an easy pregnancy (which, except for my negative body image when nothing fits or the scale goes up, I totally am so far). So most of the time - yeah, I feel so thankful that I'm pregnant and things are finally, finally falling into place for us. But I will not lie when I say I was pretty damn pissed every night when that progesterone shot hit my booty. Even the miracle of being pregnant after IF and the gratitude I feel did not stop that feeling! No guilt.
ETA: I also wonder if we feel this way b/c it's second tri and this is the stereotypical "awesome" period of pregnancy. Will I still feel like a miracle goddess when I'm 38 weeks, enormous, and barely able to waddle along down the street? TBD....
Well I did my share of PIO so I understand that feeling As much as I knew the shots helped they sucked balls. I felt great when 2nd tri started and now I feel like poo. I try soooo hard to not complain because I KNOW it will get worse at the end.