Craziest thing someone has said about your multiples?

[julez]

A woman who works in my husband's building was certain that my b/g twins must have different fathers.  They look alike, but my G twin has darker hair, skin, and eyes.  She kept saying, "but they don't look AT ALL alike.  You know, there were twins in Europe or somewhere and one twin was black and one was white! Maybe your twins have different fathers?"  She's quite a fruit loop on a good day, so H and I just laughed it off.  I do hear the "one white, one black twin from different baby daddies" story about once a month, though, whenever the topic of my not-identical-at-all babies arises.

[floridakat]

One of my girls is significantly taller than the other one. A clerk at Target one day asked MH how far apart they were. He answered with, "One minute." The woman looked at him and said, "They're not twins." He assured her that they in fact were, but she refused to believe him. I don't know why someone would lie about having multiples, LOL.

[cayl]

I get "are they twins?" 95% of the time I take them out in public together. Followed by "which one is a boy?" even when they're both in dresses. People say how lucky we are and how they ALWAYS wanted twins, or they say that having twins must be awful and not fair to either kid. I've had people ask if they were conceived naturally or through IVF. My FIL (who is an identical twin) made a HUGE deal about how we have the first "real" twins because one of his nephew's and his wife had twins via IVF. I was mortified and felt awful. Fortunately I haven't had anyone be so rude as to say that I got pregnant by two different men. WTF?!

[cinnamoncox]

People always ask me if I'm sure they're twins.

Then they ask why they aren't identical.
Then when they hear I have an older ds, they ask if it's all the same father :/

Since when is that something acceptable to ask a stranger?

[linz]

Ugh I'm sure it'll get worse once they are born. I get:

-Did you do fertility or "are they natural"

-Do twins run in the family? - I do have twin cousins so that usually gives people an easy answer. Even though I think a lot of people out there don't realize how twins are conceived.

-Are they identical or nonidentical and how do you know? Yes, they are FRATERNAL.

People also always say how they wanted twins so bad or What if we have a set of twins again? har har har

[cinnamoncox]

Aug 26, 2014 14:38:39 GMT -5 linz said:

Ugh I'm sure it'll get worse once they are born. I get:

-Did you do fertility or "are they natural"

-Do twins run in the family? - I do have twin cousins so that usually gives people an easy answer. Even though I think a lot of people out there don't realize how twins are conceived.

-Are they identical or nonidentical and how do you know? Yes, they are FRATERNAL.

People also always say how they wanted twins so bad or What if we have a set of twins again? har har har

Dh WANTS another set of twins. Like for real.

He is clearly not the stay at home parent

When people ask if twins run in the family, I used to say they do now!
But I stopped.

I do have twin cousins but again, most people don't know how it works.
I didn't before I went through the process so I don't fault them for not knowing, but it's annoying after awhile

[linz]

Ya I never knew either but it surprises me how EVERYONE asks if they run in the family. I never said that to people and especially now dont. Sometimes I wish I was more open that we did ivf but I know that'd bring on a whole nother set of questions/comments.

[Narwhal]

We get the typical "I've always wanted twins" "how do you even live with twins" identical or fraternal, all the time. One lady in Costco informed me that they were identical and therefore I didn't have any help conceiving them. Uh.... LOL. thanks for enlightening on how my kids were conceived lady!
My FIL is convinced that we had twins because his great grandmothers sisters niece on her husbands side had twins or something like that. I can't even begin explain it to him one more time! 
My favorite was when my uber conservative MIL's neighbor told my H in front of her that we were having twins because we must have had a lot of sex.  Haha!!   

[origami]

When my kids were newborns someone asked me if they were b/g twins (I got asked that all the time.) I said no, 2 boys. She said "oh. It's too bad you didn't get a boy and a girl." When I was pg my aunt told me 2 boys were the worst case twin scenario. I wanted to slap both of these people. Still do actually.

Another sales lady asked me if my kids were ID. I said no and she said "oh do they have to be boy-girl to be ID?" Ummm no. Lol. That was the funniest comment I got.

[nikki25]

When I was pregnant and just starting to announce a co-worker looked me straight in the eye and said " I would kill myself if I found out I was having twins." Well then, thanks, lol.

And yes, when I was pregnant and actually still now I get the 'are they natural' all.the.time. I am sure they are asking because they are genuinely curious but shit man, it really is none of your business.

[josieposy]

Oh I get the "do twins run in the family?" all the time. They do, but I still tell folks "Yep! One runs this way and the other runs that way!"

I usually get the folks who tell me about their kids who are X months apart so it's just like twins!

[loremipsum]

My boys are identical, and I hear "You must not be able to tell them apart!" alllll the time. Um, yes I actually can - they might look the same but they're different individuals! One total stranger didn't believe this and insisted that I must tell them apart by their socks. I have no idea why she was so focused on their socks (especially since they weren't wearing other matching clothes).

Also a lot of comments about if they're telepathic or can feel each other's emotions when separated. And for some reason my MIL insists they're going to grow up with different colored hair. Not the way genetics work, sorry MIL. :/

[loremipsum]

Aug 26, 2014 18:53:04 GMT -5 josieposy said:

I usually get the folks who tell me about their kids who are X months apart so it's just like twins!

This is probably my least favorite multiples comment. "My kids are a year apart so they're like twins!" Nope. If one is walking, talking, eating solids and mostly STTN -- not remotely the same as multiple newborns. I know people say it kindly, to try to relate, but it still gets a bit exasperating.

[Narwhal]

Aug 26, 2014 18:58:32 GMT -5 loremipsum said:

Aug 26, 2014 18:53:04 GMT -5 josieposy said:

I usually get the folks who tell me about their kids who are X months apart so it's just like twins!

This is probably my least favorite multiples comment. "My kids are a year apart so they're like twins!" Nope. If one is walking, talking, eating solids and mostly STTN -- not remotely the same as multiple newborns. I know people say it kindly, to try to relate, but it still gets a bit exasperating.

So much this! I'm a teacher and had cousins in my class last year when I was pregnant. One of their moms told me it was like they had twins since her and her sisters kids were born around the same time. Ummmmm no. Two babies with two sets of parents doesn't equal twins.

[shananagins]

My favorite was at Costco. I had the girls in the seats in the front of the cart. An older lady walked by, looked at the girls and said "wow, they really do have everything in bulk!"

[lauren9317]

Aug 26, 2014 14:24:42 GMT -5 cayl said:

My FIL (who is an identical twin) made a HUGE deal about how we have the first "real" twins because one of his nephew's and his wife had twins via IVF. I was mortified and felt awful.

OMG!!! My twins are IVF and that is kind of my deep-seated fear... that people who know we did IVF think of my twins as "fake" or something. Especially because there are more and more twins conceived through fertility treatments these days. That was so horribly rude of your FIL!!! Hopefully the nephew and wife never knew he said that.

I just still don't get why so many weirdos ask if my boy/girl twins are identical. Do they not understand the meaning of the word "identical"?? They are BOY and GIRL. Good god. I always answer "No, they're boy and girl" and you can see the person getting this confused look on their face because they don't understand how my response answers their question.

[loremipsum]

Aug 26, 2014 21:14:53 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

I just still don't get why so many weirdos ask if my boy/girl twins are identical. Do they not understand the meaning of the word "identical"?? They are BOY and GIRL. Good god. I always answer "No, they're boy and girl" and you can see the person getting this confused look on their face because they don't understand how my response answers their question.

OMG this reminds me! I once had a total stranger try to argue with me about whether or not my boys were twins because "one twin is always a boy and one is always a girl." Da fuq???

Eta: origami I get the same question about gender disappointment. Or "you can't be done having kids, don't you want to try for a girl?" Nope! We only want two kids (regardless of what sex they are), and we have them! But for some reason a lot of people assume we must be disappointed because we don't have one of each. Weird.

[lauren9317]

loremipsum- omg that is completely insane.. people are so extremely weird and misinformed!

[marissa]

Mine were premature, 7 weeks and 3 days early. I was due November 8th and had them September 27th. I remember it being January/February and a lady from Walmart making a comment about taking newborn babies out in winter. Being the bitch that I am turned around and said we needed stuff on the way home from the hospital. We had been home since October.

Same trip the cashier was arguing with another cashier about the age difference. The person beside where I was thought they were 9 months and newborn, meaning Irish twins. They argued with me saying she didn't believe they were a minute apart. I was there...

When I was pregnant with my youngest son people would comment that we were being selfish and should have stopped. We should have been happy with three since number 2 tuned into 2 and 3.

My husband's cousin used to tell people that I had all the issues I did with the pregnancy and morning sickness because they were in natural babies. We chose IVF instead of waiting it out. It took her 15 years on her own to conceive. Our first cycle worked.

My twins are fraternal, different looks and body types. We get often "oh, you brought a friend with you?" Or our youngest and blonde twin are the twins.

People have been nasty to the bigger of the twins because he is bigger by several inches and about 25 pounds. "Shouldn't twins be similar?" They aren't the same person.

Same cousin above told me the boys have autism because of all the unnatural drugs I put in my system. We don't talk any more.

[marissa]

Aug 26, 2014 18:53:04 GMT -5 josieposy said:

Oh I get the "do twins run in the family?" all the time. They do, but I still tell folks "Yep! One runs this way and the other runs that way!"

I usually get the folks who tell me about their kids who are X months apart so it's just like twins!

My SIL and BIL have identical girls. I tell people we bought ours and they didn't.

[Deleted]

When I was pregnant a woman asked me "were you TRYING to have two?!?" This was her way of asking if I did fertility treatments.

A couple of months ago a woman made a nasty comment about having my hands full when I had the girls and J with me at trader joes. I about slapped her.

People ask if it runs in my family all the time too. Which yes, it does. I have twin brothers and every generation in my family has at least one set if not more sets of multiples now. People then inform me that I should have known then and it couldn't have been a surprise.

[Deleted]

Aug 26, 2014 18:58:32 GMT -5 loremipsum said:

Aug 26, 2014 18:53:04 GMT -5 josieposy said:

I usually get the folks who tell me about their kids who are X months apart so it's just like twins!

This is probably my least favorite multiples comment. "My kids are a year apart so they're like twins!" Nope. If one is walking, talking, eating solids and mostly STTN -- not remotely the same as multiple newborns. I know people say it kindly, to try to relate, but it still gets a bit exasperating.

I hate this comment. Especially when it is said by someone who had 2 under 2. It makes me want to say back, uh huh and I had 3 under 2, does that make them triplets? It is so annoying.

[cayl]

Aug 26, 2014 21:14:53 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Aug 26, 2014 14:24:42 GMT -5 cayl said:

My FIL (who is an identical twin) made a HUGE deal about how we have the first "real" twins because one of his nephew's and his wife had twins via IVF. I was mortified and felt awful.

OMG!!! My twins are IVF and that is kind of my deep-seated fear... that people who know we did IVF think of my twins as "fake" or something. Especially because there are more and more twins conceived through fertility treatments these days. That was so horribly rude of your FIL!!! Hopefully the nephew and wife never knew he said that.

I just still don't get why so many weirdos ask if my boy/girl twins are identical. Do they not understand the meaning of the word "identical"?? They are BOY and GIRL. Good god. I always answer "No, they're boy and girl" and you can see the person getting this confused look on their face because they don't understand how my response answers their question.

My twins are no more real or anything else than yours.  People who have one child through IVF don't get crap about it, so why should you?  Anyone who says anything negative - or even thinks it! - is dumb and thoughtless.  

[origami]

Aug 26, 2014 21:22:54 GMT -5 loremipsum said:

Aug 26, 2014 21:14:53 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

I just still don't get why so many weirdos ask if my boy/girl twins are identical. Do they not understand the meaning of the word "identical"?? They are BOY and GIRL. Good god. I always answer "No, they're boy and girl" and you can see the person getting this confused look on their face because they don't understand how my response answers their question.

OMG this reminds me! I once had a total stranger try to argue with me about whether or not my boys were twins because "one twin is always a boy and one is always a girl." Da fuq???

Eta: origami I get the same question about gender disappointment. Or "you can't be done having kids, don't you want to try for a girl?" Nope! We only want two kids (regardless of what sex they are), and we have them! But for some reason a lot of people assume we must be disappointed because we don't have one of each. Weird.

yes! Someone asked me if I was going to get girl twins next. Because that's totally a thing. Yah I'm just going to go home and make girl twins. Tonight, right after I do the dishes.

[loremipsum]

Remembered another one!

One time I was pushing my double stroller through the doorway of a coffee shop. The boys were about 1.5-2yo, so I had been using the stroller for a while by then and was pretty fast maneuvering around/through obstacles -- it took me all of like 3 seconds to make sure it was correctly aligned in the doorway before going through.

Well apparently that was 3 seconds too long for the man behind me, who snapped, "You couldn't just have one, could you?"

I was speechless.

[linz]

Aug 26, 2014 22:11:22 GMT -5 @awinter said:

When I was pregnant a woman asked me "were you TRYING to have two?!?" This was her way of asking if I did fertility treatments.

A couple of months ago a woman made a nasty comment about having my hands full when I had the girls and J with me at trader joes. I about slapped her.

People ask if it runs in my family all the time too. Which yes, it does. I have twin brothers and every generation in my family has at least one set if not more sets of multiples now. People then inform me that I should have known then and it couldn't have been a surprise.

When I tell people i have twin cousins they say "oh so you were meant to have twins". Um no even doing ivf it was still a shock both eggs took! But I usually smile and walk away.

[linz]

I also hate when people say "so you're done having kids now?" Nope! We always planned on having 3 and we will have one more.

[Deleted]

When they were younger I was always told "too bad it's not a boy and a girl" "you're husband must be upset he didn't get a boy" Ummmm no, we are quite happy with our two girls thank you very much.

When they were newborns someone stopped us and asked if they could take a picture of the girls because they have never seen twins before??

Now we get asked how we tell them apart. One is blond and blue eyes, the other is redhead and green eyes and much taller.

[breezy8407]

- I still get "are they identical" all the time. I usually just pause and say, "well one is a girl and one is a boy soooo..." And wait for them to catch up.

-I still take great pleasure in correcting my MIL when she thinks that because she has twins on her side, that somehow it's because of her that we have twins. I love making her squeamish describing the science behind it. There were two eggs and then there were two sperm....

-Oh and the natural comments. I am shocked at how many people ask this. It's like they are asking what position you were in when you conceived. I don't think people realize how personal it is. Plus, I always say, well all babies are human.

[breezy8407]

Even though we are done with two, it still amazes me how many people say "well that's perfect! You got your boy and your girl."