Other various side track thoughts include wondering how long I mourned ("Is this hook up too soon?") and if I have the kids meet anyone I date afterward. Yeah, kidS, because this fantasy always involves me having like 3 extra kids that don't exist.
Post by sailorgray on Aug 27, 2014 11:53:46 GMT -5
Oh my word! You are in my mind. One of my regrets is that I never lived alone. I went from my parents to years of roommates to living with H. I dream about my little studio by the sea. Luckily, my h is pretty open to my eclectic decor bc he knows it's my passion. It has taken him awhile to open up to it. Honestly, I think he gave up
Not alone. We don't have kids but we do have a ton of pets (2 dogs, 2 cats) and I day dream about being single without animals. Not having to worry about rushing home after work so someone doesn't mess on the floor. I got married fairly young too and I think it is more of a freedom fantasy for me then anything else. I never got to be adult and single.
Sometimes I daydream about living alone and having shared custody. Every other week to myself! I'd want H too the week I have the kids though, I kinda like him. Basically I just dream about alone time. Lots and kids of alone time.
No, I go all the way in my fantasies, man. I never lived in Manhattan alone and I really wish I had so that's my #1 fantasy. I live in the West Village. I have fun friends. I go out drinking. I sleep until noon on Saturday, get up, have an omelette and an espresso, go for a walk, spend money on some wrist cuffs or other random shit. My studio apartment is decorated all funky with mismatched furniture I refinished myself. It is also a REAL studio for me on the side since I have all that time to paint (LOL). I have amazing sex with a variety of fun partners. HA.
I do this. I met DH when I was 19, moved in together at 21, married at 25.
He travels so I know what its like to live alone for short time periods and it is CLEAN! And smells like fall Yankee candles instead of man farts. And no TV so its quiet.
This is the best part of my H's travel schedule! LOL
I hate when he comes back and acts like he owns the place. NO! You forfeited your rights when you left! This is my domain! You do NOT decide what goes on the TV!
Other various side track thoughts include wondering how long I mourned ("Is this hook up too soon?") and if I have the kids meet anyone I date afterward. Yeah, kidS, because this fantasy always involves me having like 3 extra kids that don't exist.
I mostly just want to be back at college with my current salary. And not going to school really, just living the college life with all of the same people and just a lot more money. And the stamina I had back then. For everything, it was amazing.
Post by indianchica on Aug 27, 2014 13:02:50 GMT -5
I'm the opposite in terms of who I wish away. DH and I got married and then got pregnant within a few months (a large part of this based on the fact that he is so much older). So in my fantasies we have lots of leisurely time without kids.
I actually daydream a lot about living (as a single gal) with my single BFF. We get along so well we're practically the same person, and she's like my dream roommate, not that I'm even in need of one, lol.
Also, when life gets particularly stressful, I daydream about fleeing completely.
I don't really feel that way, but sometimes I really miss having days to myself. I used to work evenings a lot, so I got to be home alone all morning and early afternoon. That alone time was lovely.
I don't but it makes me wonder if I have some codependency issues. I get lonely and miss H when he's out of town.
I think some people just enjoy alone time and others don't at all. My H gets so bored and lonely when I'm gone for even a night, especially if he has no one to hang out/go out with. He counts the minutes until I get home (this is not in a possessive manner, he just gets lonely). Meanwhile, if he's not supposed to be home and then plans change I'm like WHAT and secretly get pissed that my plans to watch all the things he doesn't like to watch on TV have been ruined.