let's talk women & porn

[pugz]

a friend just posted this on FB and I thought it was interesting. I haven't read the link research yet, just the piece. Not sure what I think about it. Wondered if you agree or disagree with some of her points/experience.

www.huffingtonpost.com/lauren-dubinsky/porn-addiction_b_1686481.html

[justjen]

I kinda think she needs to lighten up. It sounds like she has a lot of issues, and she's projecting them onto society at large.

[bliss]

Wow. She needs to lighten up.

"I wish someone would have told me that the kind of pornography you're most turned on by is usually linked to a corresponding hurtful event in your life, further injuring your brokenness. " - WTF?

"I wish someone would have told me I would begin to objectify men, build up images in my mind and think of sex day in and day out, to the point where I couldn't remain focused on anything else."


I think about sex all.the.time and watch porn. It has never once ruined a relationship, made me feel insecure or injured my brokenness.

[Deleted]

She goes on a long spill about how she's not an addictive person, and then she lists a bunch of reasons that indicate she was in fact addicted.

I don't think porn itself is the issue though. I think people have their own issues and porn is just something else to blame. There are lots of things in life that don't mix well with some personal issues, porn being one of them.

[yellowbrkrd]

I think she had a lot of these insecurities before she started watching porn. I don't think porn is the reason for her issues...

[Nonny]

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I wish someone would have told me that the kind of pornography you're most turned on by is usually linked to a corresponding hurtful event in your life, further injuring your brokenness.

Umm... so because I enjoy fairly vanilla peen in vag porn I had hurtful events in my past of... what? A good and healthy sex life in college? Being loved and respected by both of my parents?

This lady has issues for sure, but yeah, I don't think porn is specifically one of them. And she totally sounds like an addictive personality despite her protests to the contrary.

[Kore]

Ya gotta go to know. She wouldn't have listened if people were all "omg porn is bad" when she was a pre-teen or whenever it was before she started watching it.

[hannamaren]

I was curious about the "men are less turned on and able to have a normal sex life" (not an exact quote) and went to the linked article.
It suggested that you may need 6-12 weeks with no porn as a reboot for you to enjoy sex again.
I have to disagree.

[treedimensional]

Jul 25, 2012 14:09:37 GMT -5 justjen said:

It sounds like she has a lot of issues, and she's projecting them onto society at large.

This.

[cajunmom]

I like porn. I like sex. I think about sex all the time. I don't think about porn all the time. I liked sex way before I ever watched any porn. I'll continue liking sex even if I never see any porn again. I never had any type of traumatic incident that causes me to prefer a certain type of porn.

This lady clearly has issues and porn is just what she is blaming them on.

[jinnifah]

It sounds like she's had a rough sex life and has poor self-esteem, and looking for something to blame.

I used to enjoy the soft-core porn in college before becoming sexually active - it didn't give me any new complexes.

[dexteroni]

I wish someone would have told her that beginning two dozen lines with the same phrase is straight out of eighth-grade diary entries. Good lord.

And yes, she's definitely blaming porn for the many issues in her life. None of which I bet has anything to do with it.