Does anyone have a family member like this?

[mrsfarmer]

Our DDs' birth mom is this way but a little more extreme. Her family is there for her, but encourages her to do what is best for her but they really can't force it on her. I think at this point they know there isn't much they can do.

[hopecounts]

Her doctor can't talk to your mom or you but s/he can listen and make notes on what y'all are seeing since she may be trying to snow him or her and there is only so much the doc can do if they suspect that but have no proof.
They can't confirm if she is a patient (HIPAA) but there is no reason y'all can't write out what you are seeing and drop the letter off at the office.
Plus if it reaches the point that you need to pursue an involuntary commitment you want to have a record of trying everything else and that it hasn't worked.

[karmasabiotch]

She sounds like she might be bi polar

[karmasabiotch]

Sept 4, 2014 17:50:29 GMT -5 mp said:

Sept 4, 2014 17:48:25 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

She sounds like she might be bi polar

Well, yes. We already know that she has a mental illness. It's just with increased therapy + meds over the last year, things are NOT getting better. But *she* doesn't see that.

They usually don't. Tough situation. I think most of us have someone like this in our family. I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

You have basically described my mother. I think you need to go get some therapy of your own to learn how to deal with her personality issues. My therapist has agreed to talk to my mom's therapist and it is working very good for us so far (we are in different states). I would see if you could come to some sort of similar arrangement with your sister's therapist and any new therapist you see.

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Sept 4, 2014 18:08:10 GMT -5 mp said:

Sept 4, 2014 18:03:57 GMT -5 tarzanswife said:

You have basically described my mother. I think you need to go get some therapy of your own to learn how to deal with her personality issues. My therapist has agreed to talk to my mom's therapist and it is working very good for us so far (we are in different states). I would see if you could come to some sort of similar arrangement with your sister's therapist and any new therapist you see.

I'd have to find out who she is seeing - I bet my mom would know.

Ya, after my visit home to my parents this weekend and we talked - I realized just how erratic her life has become. I don't live close to her so it's easy to miss all the crazy going on.

I also think the idea of your mom sending a letter to her therapist is a good idea. My mom threw up a completely different personality for her therapist and it took mine getting involved and sending her copies of correspondence my mom had sent, etc.. for my mom's therapist to realize my mom was lying to her and that there was a whole other set of issues going on.

[gummy]

Ugh yes, my SIL. Difference is that she refuses to be medicated so... yeah. It's exhausting.