wbciiy: best friend came out a couple months ago

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that's really hard. It takes a lot of guts to meet someone new at all, let alone when you're still figuring other stuff out.

[cleo29]

He definitely needs a wingman. If he lived near me, I would go.

Can you help him to see that not everyone in the LGBT community is a flamboyant queen? It sounds like that is the impression he has. There have got to be some social groups geared towards the LGBT community.

[Deleted]

I don't know where you/he lives, but could you find a different organization possibly? I don't know his personality, but "southern redneck" makes me think of guns/shooting. There is an organization I just found out about via google called pink pistols, its a gay gun club, essentially, or so it sounds like, and they go shooting regularly at ranges. They have a few different chapters but I don't know if they are near him or not.

[circa1978]

One of my best friends (and ex!) is a total Wyoming cowboy. A totally gay Wyoming cowboy. He had a lot of the same issues when he came out about 10 years ago. He just isn't fem. At all. And wanted to be with a guy like himself. He ended up getting drunk and sleeping with a lot of people he shouldn't have (but who hasn't?) and it all kind of evened itself out in a year or so. He kept it safe and ended up meeting several really nice guys the same way most people do - at work, through friends, randomly while out and about. It'll happen for him!

[mamasaurus]

It sounds like he might be into guns. Some cities have things like LGBT shooting clubs. He could look at the local firing range's bulletin board to check, maybe.

A lot of major sports teams have gay fan clubs too. If he's into sports and not the "gyrating in tight pants at a bar" thing, he might be able to find a group outing to a game.

[pantsparty]

I just must say you're the best pastor's wife ever.