When did you tell?

[whiskeyandwine]

At what point did you tell your parents? Siblings and friends?

We are thinking about telling our parents this week. We'll be 7 weeks on Tuesday. We have an u/s at 8w1d and think we will tell siblings after that, and be public once I am ready to deal with work.

Tell me what you did!

[krystee]

We told parents, siblings and BFFs when the beta came back positive. We told lots more people at seven weeks after the second good ultrasound and we posted on Facebook at just over nine weeks after a third good ultrasound and assurance from my RE that miscarriage rates were less than 2% at that point. Kind of early, but I am an oversharer by nature and couldn't help it.

[starburst604]

We told both of our moms and sisters after the second beta came back great. We've told some close friends since then and have both told some coworkers. We are not good secret keepers lol.

[changedname]

14 weeks. I was so worried that something would go wrong. Even at 14 weeks I was on edge but I couldn't hide it any longer.

[Monica Geller]

We started telling our families at 8w. H wanted to tell all family members in person so it literally took til 12 weeks before everyone knew.

We started telling friends last week at 12 weeks.

We probably won't go "public" for a few more weeks.

[azurely]

We told my parents, brother, and two of my BFFs right away. They all knew we were going through IVF so they knew when my beta was. I was fine with them knowing and appreciated their thoughts and prayers those first few weeks.

We told the rest of my family, H's parents, BIL, SIL, and the rest of his family around 13 weeks. I slowly told everyone else over the next couple weeks, so it was common knowledge by the time I was 16-17 weeks. We did a Facebook announcement after the anatomy scan at 19 weeks.

[linz]

I told my parents a few days before my ER what we were doing. Neither had any idea we did fertility treatment. My bff and parents found out after my 2nd beta (I lied what date it was so I could surprise them). In laws and rest of fam and close friends we told at 11 weeks. FB and work were 12 weeks after NT scan.

Do whatever you are comfortable with. I was terrified of losing one of the babies so wanted to wait. I loved seeing everyones face from the surprise.

[persa]

My family we told that we were PG within a few weeks but we didn't tell them it was twins until closer to 12 weeks, after the NT scan and MaterniT21

Work knew sooner because I have a lot of coworkers that went through IVF so it was all very open.

I think I Facebook announced around 16 or 18 weeks? I can't remember exactly.

[nmosrob]

I am also an over-sharer by nature. We really did want to keep it quiet, but it's not quite happening that way. A few of our friends knew about our treatment, so they knew right away. We told my brother at 4 weeks because we were visiting for the weekend and didn't think we could pull off the secret, especially with the PIO shots. Sorry, we just have to disappear for a bit every night. Nope. I'm going to tell some coworkers this week, while I would wait with them I think it will just be easier to get it out.
We're going to visit my parents in Florida early November, to surprise my mom for her 70th birthday. The visit is a surprise, to her, my dad knows. I'll be around 14 weeks by then, we are really trying to hold out telling them until then, because I want to tell them in person. We were going to wait for dh's parents, too, but his mom's birthday was last week, and so many people already knew, so we told them. It was perfect, we put a sonogram pic in her card, she started crying right away, and once dh's dad figured out what it was, he started crying, too. It couldn't have gone better if we tried.
I'm sure we'll facebook announce after we tell my parents, I'm hoping no one blows it before then (my dad is on fb).

[aliciar6]

We told our parents and some of our siblings when the we got our beta results. They knew we were going in for it and had just done IVF, so it was either lie or give them the good news. Our close friends how knew we did IVF knew pretty early too. Dh also couldn't keep it from his friens since he was so excited. I waited to tell my brother until 9 weeks, and I still haven't told coworkers and I'm almost at 12 weeks.

[MrsAggie]

We told my family at 7 weeks and H's family at about 10 weeks I think (after a viability US with my regular OB). I'm not super close with H's family and didn't really want MIL in my business if something happened to the pregnancy. Conversely, I tell my mom everything and she is a huge source of support in my life.

[bk1]

First pregnancy: friends/family right away. 
                        work at 8 weeks
                                           m/c at 10 weeks

Second pregnancy: friends/parents at 5 weeks
                             grandparents at 8 weeks
                                           m/c at 11 weeks

This pregnancy: friends/parents right away
                        grandparents between 12-16 weeks
                        FB official at 18 weeks
    

[whiskeyandwine]

We told our parents last night! They all are so excited. I am a tiny bit worried we cursed ourselves by telling, but I know this is completely redic.

We will likely tell our siblings next week, provided our next u/s goes well.