Help me prepare please

[Balki.Bartokomous]

No advice, just wanted to send hugs.

[auberge]

I don't have any advice, just lots of love. Hugs

[Deleted]

((Hugs)) thinking of you and your family.

[curbsideprophet]

It sounds like you have a good plan in place. Take care of yourself. Hugs

[aspentosh]

Sending lots of hugs your way.

[arch01]

Sept 28, 2014 18:22:01 GMT -5 zarapipe said:

No advice, just hugs.

Don't forget about yourself too being a solo parent is hard and I've only ever done it for a week, so I don't really know how tough a month would be. If you get to that point where you need a break I would seriously consider sending him to dc on Fridays if they are able to take him so you can recharge.

I've only done it for 4 days-so this whole 4-6 week thing has me wanting to crawl into a corner. But-one day at a time, right?

[arch01]

Thanks everyone.

We talked yesterday about who to tell and he is taking the lead on who he wants to know (closest friends, certain family members), and we agreed to not tell my dad's side of the family due to some issues that have come up in the past (basically the never ending feeling that DH isn't "good enough" for the family-all of them are engineers or lawyers, masters or higher degrees while DH has a criminal justice degree and hated being a cop). My support system outside of a few good friends at work is weak. I actually talked to DH about this Wednesday night-my close-ish group of friends is all SAHMs, and while we have things in common, we've been drifting apart lately. But maybe this is my opportunity to get more involved in the mom's group in my neighborhood.

I really appreciate the kind words. Saying goodbye this morning was really, really hard, but I know that this is what we need to do.

[AmyRI]

I'll be thinking of you the next few weeks.

DS (3.5yo) doesn't actually ask much about DH when he's gone and is usually fine with it. I hope your DS adjust ok, too.

I agree with telling daycare something about your DH being gone because they can help you. Also, ask if they allow teachers to babysit. Assuming they're ok with it, ask your DS's favorite teacher to babysit for a few hours a couple of weekends to give yourself a break. This is a big change for you, so make sure to take the time you need as well. Your DS needs a healthy mama, too.

Lots of hugs.

[SJ]

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you all and sending hugs.

[leonard131]

No advice but just wanted to say hugs and that I hope you are also taking care of yourself as your family goes through this.

[qcinoct]

I have no advice, but wanted to wish you strength for the coming weeks.

[CloudBee]

You're a good mom! And wonderful parents to be taking such big steps for your family.

Fridays off is probably going to help immensely.

[sproutmd]

Just wanted to send along some support. Hugs! You are strong, you can do this!

[meltoine]

Hugs. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

When H is gone, usually it's just a lot of answering questions about where he is and when he'll be back. DS1's behavior has never suffered for it. He just asks over and over and over (like 2-3x an hour, everyday) where daddy is and when he's coming home. I pull up the map on the iPad and show him where we are (the blue dot) and where daddy is (the red dot).

3yo is also old enough to draw a picture for daddy every day and cross days off a calendar.

Not the same, but there are tons of ideas for kids and military deployments all over pinterest and Google. Could be a good place to start.

[mrshandy]

Sept 28, 2014 19:18:48 GMT -5 incogneato said:

Oh, and I would just tell DC that your H is traveling for a while. They don't need to know why if you don't want to share.

Yep, this. This is all your DS knows so it's all they need to know.


((((HUGS))))

Take care of yourself. I'm glad to hear you'll be able to still get your runs in. You will definitely need that stress reliever. I'm thinking of you and your family during this difficult time and hoping for the best possible outcome.

[lolo]

Thinking of you all today.