I need to vent for a minute.

[arch01]

I am thisclose to losing my shit on DH's HR department. There have been 8 calls and voicemails left for them in the past 1.5 business days. The facility has called multiple times and the asst. director of DH's department has called. No response. I'm pulling forms off the website for his FMLA stuff, not knowing what needs to be done, not knowing if the facility will have DH sign (thankfully, the guy I'm in contact with is awesome and should be getting back to me shortly with my inquiry), and having no one to answer questions. We have not told DH's boss or the asst. director exactly what the nature of the stay is, just that he is gone on an emergency medical leave and certification will be going to HR directly. We're trying to keep this as much out of the workplace as possible, especially since his drinking has never once happened at work. We're just really trying to avoid judgement on it. I'm sure it'll come out eventually. I want it to come from DH though and not me. 

Thankfully, the asst. director just called the HR director and is giving them an hour to respond before she goes and camps out in the office. I am finding that in case of an emergency, between our troubles with certification from insurance over the weekend (refused) and this, getting medical help and getting all of the ducks in a row is damn near impossible to do in a reasonable timeframe. 

The facility is awesome to work with so far. I really don't want this in any way, shape or form to come back and bite DH in the ass at work. I want to know everything is taken care of so we're covered legally. I know it'll happen, but I'd really like to cross this off my list so I can rest a little easier.

[btay]

The most stressful part of getting H into treatment for me was the week before he checked in when we were trying to deal with all the insurance crap. It is such a pain in the arse. I actually took FLMA for myself so that I could take the week off and get everything done. It sucks but in the end it will all be worth it, and the treatment centers deal with this all the time so I'm sure they know how to handle difficult HRs.

[arch01]

Oct 1, 2014 13:57:49 GMT -5 btay said:

The most stressful part of getting H into treatment for me was the week before he checked in when we were trying to deal with all the insurance crap. It is such a pain in the arse. I actually took FLMA for myself so that I could take the week off and get everything done. It sucks but in the end it will all be worth it, and the treatment centers deal with this all the time so I'm sure they know how to handle difficult HRs.

I cannot say enough good things about the guy helping me from the facility. He's damn near a saint at this point.

The asst. director of DH's office had to go camp out in the director's office. I would've loved to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation. Needless to say, I now have everything to the right people-for the moment. 

The biggest lesson out of all of this is we thought we had our shit together in case of an emergency and I'm finding stuff out that I never would've dreamed of having to know. I'm making a list of things to add to our documents so, if something ever happens again, we both know what to do/who to call/where to go. I also need to double check our medical POA and look at the verbiage in there to see what it does/doesn't cover. I just now got confirmation that they will have DH sign the paperwork, which is what I was hoping for, but worst case I need to know if I can sign.

[btay]

Oct 1, 2014 14:08:00 GMT -5 arch01 said:

Oct 1, 2014 13:57:49 GMT -5 btay said:

The most stressful part of getting H into treatment for me was the week before he checked in when we were trying to deal with all the insurance crap. It is such a pain in the arse. I actually took FLMA for myself so that I could take the week off and get everything done. It sucks but in the end it will all be worth it, and the treatment centers deal with this all the time so I'm sure they know how to handle difficult HRs.

I cannot say enough good things about the guy helping me from the facility. He's damn near a saint at this point.

The asst. director of DH's office had to go camp out in the director's office. I would've loved to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation. Needless to say, I now have everything to the right people-for the moment. 

The biggest lesson out of all of this is we thought we had our shit together in case of an emergency and I'm finding stuff out that I never would've dreamed of having to know. I'm making a list of things to add to our documents so, if something ever happens again, we both know what to do/who to call/where to go. I also need to double check our medical POA and look at the verbiage in there to see what it does/doesn't cover. I just now got confirmation that they will have DH sign the paperwork, which is what I was hoping for, but worst case I need to know if I can sign.

We actually got fed up and had his brother who is a lawyer write up a full POA for us so I could sign for him. It came in handy while he was in because I had to cash a bunch of checks for him too.

[malibu]

Oct 1, 2014 13:57:49 GMT -5 btay said:

The most stressful part of getting H into treatment for me was the week before he checked in when we were trying to deal with all the insurance crap. It is such a pain in the arse. I actually took FLMA for myself so that I could take the week off and get everything done. It sucks but in the end it will all be worth it, and the treatment centers deal with this all the time so I'm sure they know how to handle difficult HRs.

OMG, YES. Since my H had left his job, mine was a nightmare of getting his former insurance info, getting him on MY insurance, and then waiting for approvals and pre-authorizations. What a pain.