Post by teatimefor2 on Oct 5, 2014 20:51:44 GMT -5
Team you. DS never leaves his crib unless he's sick or his room. As long as he is in his crib and okay (as well as not screaming his head off), he stays in his crib. It is his place and now he is super comfortable there. Sometimes 30 to 40 minutes later, he is still laying in his crib happily singing softly to himself laying down. Sometimes he is sitting up reading a book to himself. But his crib is now his safe place and he is happy being in there.
I firmly believe because we were strict the first year, it has helped make him a better sleeper. I also believe consistency is key. Talk to your DH and figure out what you as parents agree to and then go forth following that agreement.
Unless DD is screaming, I don't get her out of her crib for naps or at night. Sometimes it takes her 30 minutes to fall asleep. One night it took her 2 hours but she just babbled to herself the whole time.
This just happened here. Last night we decided to get tough and go full throttle with CIO. DS had an excellent night. Put DS down tonight, he fell asleep and then started crying within 30 minutes of going down. DH just brought him in to our room because "he's wide awake and I need to experience this amazing night with my son!" DH is a huge KC Royals fan and has been waiting 29 years for post season baseball. I can't deny him this experience with his son! ETA: Tomorrow, though, DS is staying in his crib!!
We usually bring her out into the dimly lit living room. She's either going to sleep or not. So If not, no sense in leaving her in there to howl when she realizes she's alone.
But this is usually agreed upon. If she was already asleep and suddenly wakes up within an hour or two, we know to go in there and try to pat her back to sleep.
So team your husband, sort-of? Depends on the circumstances of why he brought her out.
For naps yes we just give up after a while. But after bedtime we've always stayed in his room, kept lights dim and done whatever seemed appropriate to get him to sleep (rocking, nursing, tummy rub...) . No playtime at night.
See we are the opposite. We have two great sleepers and I feel like it is because we weren't ZOMG schedule people. All of our strict schedule friends have crappy sleepers and are still fighting the schedule.
It depends on the kid in terms of what works (which is why strict schedules to me don't always make sense). getting DD up would not have worked. With DS, bring him out to the living room for 10 minutes calms him down and then he almost immediately falls asleep when we put him back.
Ack. My H just did this the other night, causing an argument. I'm team you. If I've already done bedtime routine, I don't want her to get the idea that if she cries enough we'll let her get up and party.
ETA I *will* soothe her, etc., but in the quiet, dark bedroom. I realized my post came off like maybe I didn't, lol.
There were a few times when they were younger and we hadn't figured out when to stop a nap before it would interfere with bedtime that we got them up. This was our fault because we let them sleep too late so there was no way they were going to go to sleep. But now, no, we keep them in "sleep mode" meaning they may come out of the crib but it's only to nurse or rock to sleep etc.
I guess we're weird. C goes to bed some time around 8:00. I would say 75% of the time she wakes up between 9:00-11:00. We get her up and play with her for around 30 minutes and she happily goes to back to bed for the night. She's going to be up for those 30 minutes regardless so I'd rather it be pleasant than a scream-fest.
As for the question of whether we'd get her up if she was contentedly playing alone in her crib? Well, that's not a regular situation we face, lol.