Wrong to not transition to crib until 6 months or more?

[hokiegirl82]

DS is 4 months, and still a small guy at 11lbs11oz and 24 inches long. He's been in the RnP since 6 weeks and in the nursery since 12 weeks. Daycare says he hates the crib there, and I would love to transition him to the crib at home but we're 2 weeks into the 4 month wakeful with no end in sight so trying the crib anytime soon seems like a bad idea. Is it a bad idea to keep him in the RnP until we are well past the 4mw? Trying a big transition like to the crib until he's well past the 4mw seems disastrous to me. I'm dying here with the 4mw ugh.

[Pilsy]

The flip side is that, if sleep is already sh*t, why not bite the bullet and transition?


No, but really, I think it’s fine. Do what’s right for you. It’s good you’re thinking about it but if you can’t stomach the thought of making the change now, don’t. He will not go to college in the RNP. Probably not even the crib.

[atarianna]

My kid transitioned flawlessly to the crib at like 3 weeks then the freaking 4mw happened. He went back in the RNP then and even though he is 6m, he still ends up there some nights.

Sometimes you just have to do what works....

[osulori]

Is he close to rolling over? I think the rule of thumb I've heard is if the baby's rolling over or close to it, they really should be in the crib (someone correct me if I'm wrong, please). AJ hated the crib for naps for far longer than he did at night-we made the transition from RNP to crib at night at 2 months, but he wouldn't nap in it until he was 5 months or so. Drove me nuts!

[Velar Fricative]

We used the RNP flat bassinet which is bigger than the RNP, so we could have kept DD in there for a while based on height/weight limits. So I don't think it's a bad idea necessarily to not transition to the crib until later but is probably do it sooner because our 4MW was long and awful and the crib transition happened when we thought it was over but it wasn't. Sleep was gonna suck no matter where she was until we decided to do Ferber at 5.5 months. So I think at this point, it probably can't get any worse but maybe it will get better if he's in the crib!

[greencrayon]

We RnP'd for 4 months, PnP'd for a month and then transitioned to crib after we got back from a vacation around 6 months. She was just too noisy and was keeping us up. If we were deeper sleepers (or if she was) I would have kept her in the PnP for another few months. It was so much easier!

[imojoebunny]

My kids never had cribs. DD had one, but never slept well in it, so we kept her in the pack n play and got rid of the crib altogether at about a year. DS never even had one.

It was considered strange by some, but now that a lot of my friends are having their 3rd and 4th kids, several of them have come back and said thanks for the great idea. No worries about crib bumpers, easy to room share, sick toddler can easily be moved to parents room or the family room, travel is easy, and it takes up a lot less room. My son slept in his until he was 3.5 years. He climbed out once at 2.5 and we told him that if he did it again, we would have to put him in a bed (he had a car bed in his with a crib mattress, too). He didn't like that, so he never climbed out again. We took him out when he potty trained.

[Deleted]

My DD didn't sleep in her crib until close to 8 months old. She HATED it. We transitioned from the RnP to the PnP at around 4-ish months.

She doesn't seem to have been harmed from it.

[thebreakfastclub]

Just popping in to say that I wouldn't necessarily judge overnight sleep by how naps go.

DS slept overnight in the crib starting at 10 days old, but he didn't nap that great there until around 6 months.

He always slept great at home and never napped well in the infant room.

[carolinagirl831]

We waited until 5.5 months and dd had a terrible time, I'm going to do it much sooner with the next kid

[jeaniebueller]

I think you are fine either way, but like others said, if sleep sucks might as well start the transition. DD has been in the crib since 8 weeks but still doesn't like napping in it.

[curbsideprophet]

If he is rolling I would stop using the RNP.

[hymen]

DS2 (6 months) was in the RNP until well past 4 months, and mostly now sleep in a PNP in our room for half the night and co-sleeps the other half. He does sleep in his crib fine but still wakes up 1-2x a night, so having him in our room is just easier for nursing. I say do whatever works for you.

Ironically, this is the COMPLETE opposite of DS1, who was in his crib from day 1, and has probably only slept in our bed with us maybe 10 times total (and he's 3).

[lolo]

My DD moved to the crib at 12m.

Move him when he is showing signs of readiness or when you are ready.

[pescalita]

We moved A a little before the 4MW. It was fine. J was a crappier sleeper and we didn't move him until almost 10 mo (I know). It was fine. Do what gets you sleep.

[cayl]

There is very little that is wrong when it comes to stuff like this. Do what works for you and your family. My kids moved to their cribs for nighttime relatively early, but we would do the occasional night in the RNPs when they were congested. They napped in their RNPs at my mom's until almost 8 months, when they started trying to roll over in the RNPs.

[undecidedowl]

With things like this I always figure it's going to be hard now or its going to be hard later so I just do what works at the moment and hope for the best.

[chickadee77]

We haven't moved L out of the PNP yet. I'm waiting until after a trip at the end of the month where she'll be sleeping in the PNP. I don't want to transition her to her crib, then travel, then come home and have to put her back in the crib. This is all happening during what will likely be the 4MW so we'll see how it goes, lol.

[sunshine608]

I had grand plans to transition DS from the bassinet to the crib last month.

That lasted one night, then the 4MW and we have regressed now to bedsharing for part of the night ( for my sanity).

Truthfully, I don't see the crib happening anytime soon. I am going to try and use it for naps though. Such a beautiful piece of furniture to sit there completely unused. My plan is PNP-Crib transition for naps within the next few weeks.

[soozy87]

I think a lot of the time you have to just do what works.

[littlepeanut]

Do what works. We didn't transition from a flat non-moving swing until almost 9 months. He did it in one night and has been awesome since.

[hokiegirl82]

I've put DS in the crib before, for a couple of short naps while I was on mat leave, and for a few minutes awake when I've been putting away laundry in the nursery, and he doesn't seem to mind a few minutes in there. I put him in there last night at bedtime just to see how he would do, and at first he seemed to really enjoy the wide open space of the crib - he was rolling back to side, back to side, over and over (he can roll back to stomach pretty well now, not as well from stomach to back), babbling happily to himself while looking drowsy, so I decided to leave him in there to see what would happen. He was ok for a few minutes, then realized what was going on and screamed bloody murder until H went up and got him and put him in the RnP. I might try a few minutes each night when he is really drowsy just to get him more used to it (admittedly he was more awake than he should have been when I put him in it last night).

I kinda like the idea of if his sleep is shit now anyways because of the 4MW, maybe trying the crib anyways isn't such a bad idea since he's not sleeping well no matter where he is at the moment. Seems like this will be a time of trial and error.

[lys]

Some pediatricians recommend the RNP for daytime only and not for general sleeping.