I'm so glad today is my random day off! You all are not disappointing. I have to admit I glossed over the OP because no matter how many times I read it I sill couldn't figure out who was feeding, who was getting it on and how exactly.
And I'm confused on how when @this posted the paperclips, you didn't flat out say "No that's not even close because I was bottle feeding and we didn't actually have sex while feeding the babies."
wow. Somebody said something vague that appeared super flameful, disappeared for a while, came back and clarified and said NO IT WAS NOTHING LIKE THAT. HOW COULD YOU EVEN THINK THAT
shocker. I mean that literally NEVER happens right
No I didn't wear them. I don't want to draw a diagram or anything,( ) but it worked out well. Like twice a night from like 5 weeks until about four months. Then we waited until they'd been fed and went back to sleep. They were up literally every two hours from birth until their first birthday. My drive went back down after like 7 months, so.
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NOW you are saying that all along you fed them and put them back to sleep and then had sex. Well which is it?
Look. cinnamoncox is actually one of my favourite posters. I have never found her to be weird, and I have always thought she is a good mom.
We all have lapses in judgement at some point as parents. She had twins so I can only imagine it was that much worse. I don't see the need to pick apart what she said any more. I kinda got the impression that things were crazy with twins and they fit sex in around feedings but it was practically at the same time because they ate so much.
I am sad I missed the paper clip drawing though. Lol.
Look. cinnamoncox is actually one of my favourite posters. I have never found her to be weird, and I have always thought she is a good mom.
We all have lapses in judgement at some point as parents. She had twins so I can only imagine it was that much worse. I don't see the need to pick apart what she said any more. I kinda got the impression that things were crazy with twins and they fit sex in around feedings but it was practically at the same time because they ate so much.
I am sad I missed the paper clip drawing though. Lol.
I can agree we all have lapses in judgment and I don't want to keep harping on this But I do feel the need to point out that having twins does not make one so crazy that they get a free pass. And I feel I can say that because I had 3 kids under the age of 2 including a set of twins and I assure you I never did anything like have sex while feeding them.
This probably belongs in the confessions thread but I'm not clutching my pearls. Even with the original story. And I was assuming OP was nursing the twins.
DH and I aren't about to try it this weekend. NMS, but I was impressed OP's nursing skills. But now there were bottles.
Man how I needed this laugh today. Thanks, Internet.
I wish I had saved the paperclip porn, so I could just text it to you whenever you need a smile.
And ETA just so it's clear: I found the paperclip porn funny solely because of the paperclips, not the exact scene that was being depicted. Who would've ever guessed that paperclips could make excellent props for sex position demos?
This probably belongs in the confessions thread but I'm not clutching my pearls. Even with the original story. And I was assuming OP was nursing the twins.
DH and I aren't about to try it this weekend. NMS, but I was impressed OP's nursing skills. But now there were bottles.
Still, point is: I'm not calling CPS.
I mean really. I don't think nursing is sexual typically, but you don't think that having babies stimulating your nipples during sex is not something that is just wrong and 100% inappropriate.
Plus, I am not sure how one could get SOOO aroused while holding their infant that they are unable to control themselves and have to do it right then and there w/out putting the baby down. Honestly, that means to me something is wrong with the impulse control center of your brain.
Look. cinnamoncox is actually one of my favourite posters. I have never found her to be weird, and I have always thought she is a good mom.
We all have lapses in judgement at some point as parents. She had twins so I can only imagine it was that much worse. I don't see the need to pick apart what she said any more. I kinda got the impression that things were crazy with twins and they fit sex in around feedings but it was practically at the same time because they ate so much.
I am sad I missed the paper clip drawing though. Lol.
I can agree we all have lapses in judgment and I don't want to keep harping on this But I do feel the need to point out that having twins does not make one so crazy that they get a free pass. And I feel I can say that because I had 3 kids under the age of 2 including a set of twins and I assure you I never did anything like have sex while feeding them.
But who's to say that your life isn't different than hers? Dear lord, people are considering this abuse and then wondering why she's trying to make the whole thing simmer down? She had a strong sex drive, good for her. Obviously no one else here has experienced the same thing, so to call her out on it not being possible is just dumb.
This probably belongs in the confessions thread but I'm not clutching my pearls. Even with the original story. And I was assuming OP was nursing the twins.
DH and I aren't about to try it this weekend. NMS, but I was impressed OP's nursing skills. But now there were bottles.
Still, point is: I'm not calling CPS.
I mean really. I don't think nursing is sexual typically, but you don't think that having babies stimulating your nipples during sex is not something that is just wrong and 100% inappropriate.
Plus, I am not sure how one could get SOOO aroused while holding their infant that they are unable to control themselves and have to do it right then and there w/out putting the baby down. Honestly, that means to me something is wrong with the impulse control center of your brain.
this is a shitty thing to say, especially coming from someone who's had some pretty strong and uncontrollable impluses in the past. just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean it's 100% inappropriate.
I can agree we all have lapses in judgment and I don't want to keep harping on this But I do feel the need to point out that having twins does not make one so crazy that they get a free pass. And I feel I can say that because I had 3 kids under the age of 2 including a set of twins and I assure you I never did anything like have sex while feeding them.
But who's to say that your life isn't different than hers? Dear lord, people are considering this abuse and then wondering why she's trying to make the whole thing simmer down? She had a strong sex drive, good for her. Obviously no one else here has experienced the same thing, so to call her out on it not being possible is just dumb.
I'm sure my life is different than hers as it is from everyone elses. And obviously, I have never experienced a sex drive like that. However, I just don't like the twin excuse being used to justify the behavior. If she was in fact "crazy" or something and that led to the behvior it was not BECAUSE she had twins. High sex drive or not I don't think there is ever a reason to have sex WHILE feeding your infant.
If in fact she meant that they were having sex between feedings or having to stoo and start because of feedings I don't see what is wrong with that. You have to make it work somehow. But that is not what she originally said nor do I think people would find that offensive generally speaking.
Eta: I'm trying to say twins do not cause this behavior. That's not to say she didnt have impulse control issues or ppd or ppa etc. But that was not because of twins specifically. Eta: I should say, there is more going on here than just twins. I think best conveys my point. Just having twins doesn't lead to this behavior. Something else is at play besides twins.
I mean really. I don't think nursing is sexual typically, but you don't think that having babies stimulating your nipples during sex is not something that is just wrong and 100% inappropriate.
Plus, I am not sure how one could get SOOO aroused while holding their infant that they are unable to control themselves and have to do it right then and there w/out putting the baby down. Honestly, that means to me something is wrong with the impulse control center of your brain.
this is a shitty thing to say, especially coming from someone who's had some pretty strong and uncontrollable impluses in the past. just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean it's 100% inappropriate.
well, I am sorry but it it is the way I feel. I firmly believe that breastfeeding WHILE having sex incorporates the baby into the sex act, which I find abusive. Now her story has changed and I don't have an issue with what she did.
Now, as far as my past (assuming that is what you refered to). I HAD impulse issues I went to therapy. I also didn't just jump people in view of the public or while holding children.
Post by karinothing on Oct 9, 2014 12:41:59 GMT -5
Okay, I will apologize for that. Although I think sex is about anamalistic urges whether with kids watching or not. That is kind of the fun point behind sex. But I will delete that.
This probably belongs in the confessions thread but I'm not clutching my pearls. Even with the original story. And I was assuming OP was nursing the twins.
DH and I aren't about to try it this weekend. NMS, but I was impressed OP's nursing skills. But now there were bottles.
Still, point is: I'm not calling CPS.
I mean really. I don't think nursing is sexual typically, but you don't think that having babies stimulating your nipples during sex is not something that is just wrong and 100% inappropriate.
Plus, I am not sure how one could get SOOO aroused while holding their infant that they are unable to control themselves and have to do it right then and there w/out putting the baby down. Honestly, that means to me something is wrong with the impulse control center of your brain.
Look, I think the idea of having sex while breastfeeding is really fucking weird and not something I could ever do. But don't we women spend a lot of time convincing others that breastfeeding is not sexual in any way. It is a natural act that can be done anywhere, even in public, and at any time the baby is hungry. Here you are saying that breastfeeding stimulates the nipples and involves the baby in the sex act. I think that is a huge stretch.
Look. cinnamoncox is actually one of my favourite posters. I have never found her to be weird, and I have always thought she is a good mom.
We all have lapses in judgement at some point as parents. She had twins so I can only imagine it was that much worse. I don't see the need to pick apart what she said any more. I kinda got the impression that things were crazy with twins and they fit sex in around feedings but it was practically at the same time because they ate so much.
I am sad I missed the paper clip drawing though. Lol.
It was more like a relief or maybe a mixed media work.
I don't know, I thought she said pretty early on she bottle feeding them at night, and it seemed pretty impossible to imagine them humping it up while each holding a newborn. she worded it rather vaguely, but abuse seems like...a stretch.
but then, I had sex behind the couch while the baby was playing on her playmat before she was mobile. *shrugs*
Behind the couch? Like you moved the couch out from the wall and were all * peekaboo*
That right there is some funny shit! I have 2 binder clips, a highlighter and 3 dry erase markers.... think I could make a diagram?
I mean really. I don't think nursing is sexual typically, but you don't think that having babies stimulating your nipples during sex is not something that is just wrong and 100% inappropriate.
Plus, I am not sure how one could get SOOO aroused while holding their infant that they are unable to control themselves and have to do it right then and there w/out putting the baby down. Honestly, that means to me something is wrong with the impulse control center of your brain.
Look, I think the idea of having sex while breastfeeding is really fucking weird and not something I could ever do. But don't we women spend a lot of time convincing others that breastfeeding is not sexual in any way. It is a natural act that can be done anywhere, even in public, and at any time the baby is hungry. Here you are saying that breastfeeding stimulates the nipples and involves the baby in the sex act. I think that is a huge stretch.
Biologically speaking nursing stimulate the nipples in order for the baby to obtain milk and for the body to release oxytocin. I was not using the word stimulate to say that this hypothetical person (she she has clarified that she did not do this) got pleasure from the act of breastfeeding.
Nipple stimulation is not something that does anything for me, pre or post kids. So I disagree with the blanket statement that having a child latched during sex incorporates them into sex thus making it abuse. There's no gratification. However, iirc, there was a poster who admitted several years ago that she used to orgasm on occasion just from breastfeeding. If that were the case and nursing was used to augment sex, then yes, that meets the definition for abuse, I suppose.
But OP says they were bottle feeding so nursing is a moot point anyway. So, aside from logistics, I don't see how this is so different from an awake infant in the room watching you? Something many others admitted to?