I have a question about friends and death

[Bernadine]

I'm not sure how to handle this, or if I should do anything at all.

My most very favorite co-worker, who has become a good friend, has stage four liver cancer.  It's not going to be cured.  She's doing chemo just to try to slow the growth/spread, but she's going to die from it.  Hopefully not for a few years, but who knows, really.

I want her to know how much she means to me, and the impact she has had on my life.  But I also don't want her to feel like I think she's going to die tomorrow, kwim?  Is there any sensitive way to tell her these things?  She's kind of like me, she doesn't like to talk about sensitive stuff, so I'd probably put it in a card?  Or should I not do it at all?

[liverandonions]

Telling someone how much they mean to you, and the impact on your life is a nice sentiment whether they are sick or not. You can put it on a card that's generic, or thinking of you, and just let her know you're there for her and to let you know if you can ever do anything for her.

Sorry about her diagnosis. I hope she has some good years left.

[Bernadine]

Oct 10, 2014 12:13:55 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Is she still at work?

Yes, still working.  She doesn't want to sit at home all day and be depressed.