Support comes from the most unexpected places.

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My boss called me yesterday afternoon to see how things were going-and in the midst of his own personal crisis, offered assistance with whatever I need...mowing grass, whatever. My boss isn't known for his softer side (but is pretty great to work for), so this completely caught me off guard.

My boss at my PT job recently almost lost his wife during childbirth. He is going back to work today and posted on FB about not being able to give work 110% like he has in the past. As a fellow workaholic, this hit me hard. One of the biggest lessons I've learned over the past 2 weeks is being ok with "good enough". We just finished a text conversation about this-it's a different situation, but one where support was found.

And finally, one of DH's lifelong friends (and the guy who actually introduced me to DH) texted me randomly Sunday to check in. DH told me he asked the guy to check in, but I doubted he'd do it (busy with a new job and a 1 year old). It was again unexpected and nice.

One of these days I'll not have the urge to cry afterward. Hopefully soon. I've found it hard to see that a lot of my "friends" have provided the least support. 

No point to this, just another brain dump.

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That is great! I'm happy you have the unexpected support of both bosses. That is huge. Funny how the tough-guys are sometimes marshmallow on the inside!

And there will probably lots of tears during the process. Trust me. Tears can be very healing.

Big hugs to you!
How's your DS doing today?

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Oct 14, 2014 9:43:29 GMT -5 @courtneyloves said:

That is great! I'm happy you have the unexpected support of both bosses. That is huge. Funny how the tough-guys are sometimes marshmallow on the inside!

And there will probably lots of tears during the process. Trust me. Tears can be very healing.

Big hugs to you!
How's your DS doing today?

So many tears. I don't think I have any more tears LOL

DS is doing better-we had a playdate last night and he was SO excited to go to "school" today. A bit too excited and he forgot his listening ears He almost didn't make it into the classroom before having to go to time out. I'm taking a wait and see approach with DC at the moment, his (and my) favorite afternoon teacher left last week and we don't know what the plan is, so if he mentions it we'll talk about it, if not, I'll just let it be. He did ask me today why dada didn't go to his office and why the big airplane had to take him to work, and then told me that maybe I should go on the big airplane to get to work and dada could go to his office. He was satisfied with dada's office is far away right now and mine is still in the same place. (He has been to both of our offices several times)

There should be a postcard in the mail for him today, which will be nice. DS always gets the mail and asks if there's anything for him-99% of the time there isn't, but the squeals and jumping that will happen when he gets the postcard are already making me laugh.

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I'm so happy that you're getting support from the most unexpected places. Isn't it great?? : )

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Oct 14, 2014 10:14:53 GMT -5 flex said:

I'm so happy that you're getting support from the most unexpected places. Isn't it great?? : )

It is. It makes the non-support coming from expected places a bit easier to swallow. 

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Some day you may be able to be supportive of someone going through the same thing. That'll really make you feel good! : )