How is everyone doing?

[btay]

I'm exhausted constantly, but everything else is good. Getting along really well with H, we've had a few therapy sessions now and things are looking up.

Sorry to hear about the stomach virus, that sounds miserable

[SwimDeep]

I loathe the stomach virus. Poor kid I hope he feels better soon!

I'm exhausted. So exhausted I've actually been taking naps during the day, which is extremely unusual for me. I think I'm doing alright otherwise? I can't stop eating, and I have no motivation to exercise. There's so much on my plate I feel like I've just thrown my hands up in the air and collapsed for a bit.

I know I need to start going to al-anon, but I just haven't been able to get myself there yet.

[arch01]

I'm doing pretty good. Anxiety is down and DS has been great this week.

I just got off the phone with DH, he moved up a level so now we get 20 minutes on the phone instead of 15. He was really, really down Tuesday, so it was really nice to hear him sound much happier tonight. I had lunch today with the guy that was with DH the night shit hit the fan, which was emotionally exhausting because the guy had no clue what was going on. He's wanting to do whatever is needed to support DH when he comes home.

@evelynrichards hope the virus doesn't claim any more victims and DS2 feels better soon!

[mel]

Doing okay. Still kind of laying low. I'll open up more soon but right now I'm just kind of focusing on me.

[lexxasaurus]

I'm doing pretty good. Having a lot of drinking and using type dreams, but everyday life is going good.

The only thing I'm finding recently is that I'm still super awkward when dealing with a situation where there is drinking. A coworker invited me to a party she's having where everyone will be painting wine glasses. She is supplying lasagna, wine and paint, we just need to bring glasses. I know it's going to be a bunch of people around my age (mid 20s) and I always feel so strange when I'm not drinking even though I know most people probably don't even notice. On one hand, I actually have a medical reason and I can't have alcohol with a current medication. Is it weird to rely on something like that if someone asks why I don't want wine? "Bummer, but I can't with my meds!" And then drop it? I often sleep think about this too much, lol. But thanks for letting me word vomit about it here. I love having this sub board.

[btay]

Oct 17, 2014 8:21:29 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

I'm doing pretty good. Having a lot of drinking and using type dreams, but everyday life is going good.

The only thing I'm finding recently is that I'm still super awkward when dealing with a situation where there is drinking. A coworker invited me to a party she's having where everyone will be painting wine glasses. She is supplying lasagna, wine and paint, we just need to bring glasses. I know it's going to be a bunch of people around my age (mid 20s) and I always feel so strange when I'm not drinking even though I know most people probably don't even notice. On one hand, I actually have a medical reason and I can't have alcohol with a current medication. Is it weird to rely on something like that if someone asks why I don't want wine? "Bummer, but I can't with my meds!" And then drop it? I often sleep think about this too much, lol. But thanks for letting me word vomit about it here. I love having this sub board.

 When my H wasn't ready to explain the real reason he didn't drink he just said he had an allergy.  It's nobodies business why you abstain but if you want to have an excuse it always worked for him, and in a way it's the truth. 

[arch01]

lexxasaurus meds are perfect-i don't think it's weird at all. i hate the fact that so many people feel it is their business to ask why people aren't drinking.

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I've said I have an allergy. That opened up the question, what happens if you drink? Do you break out in a rash? etc. etc.

I just tell people "it's a choice and I choose not to drink. That's all." (Politely, of course.) Then change the subject.

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Oct 17, 2014 8:21:29 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

Having a lot of drinking and using type dreams, but everyday life is going good.

Don't you hate those? I have the too.  Like all of a sudden I'm smoking pot or having something to drink with no thought to my sobriety.  Always happy to wake up from those dreams!

[flex]

I tell people I'm a recovering alcoholic and that I can't drink because it doesn't agree with me. lol

[lexxasaurus]

Oct 18, 2014 22:31:11 GMT -5 @courtneyloves said:

Oct 17, 2014 8:21:29 GMT -5 lexxasaurus said:

Having a lot of drinking and using type dreams, but everyday life is going good.

Don't you hate those? I have the too.  Like all of a sudden I'm smoking pot or having something to drink with no thought to my sobriety.  Always happy to wake up from those dreams!

So many of mine recently are like.. not drinking because I feel guilty OR all of the sudden I'm drunk (but not sure how since I didn't actually drink in the dream) and I'm like "OMG but what about my time cleeeean?!" And panic. Totally agree though, grateful to wake up from those ones!

[flex]

I have "loss of sobriety" dreams periodically. I never dream of the actual act of drinking or using, but just the guilt and the: "I HAVE TO CHANGE MY SOBRIETY DATE!"

It's such a relief when I wake up.

[lexxasaurus]

Speaking of. I had a dream last night where my BF was just telling me I should drink cause I was probably okay. Just a little bit! Just moderation! And I was appalled that he was suggesting that and torn on what to do. Awkward.

For the record: in reality he lost his dad to an alcohol related incident and is the one who helped me get sober. So no worries there, it was DEFINITELY a dream.

[SwimDeep]

I've had dreams where H and I are sharing a bottle of wine, and I'm sitting at the table in shock that he's drinking. In the dream I want to scream "What about your sobriety?" He was so fixated on getting the right sobriety date...he used to pick a good number (like 3/3 or 7/7 or something like that), and he would hold to that date and then throw it away a few weeks later.

Now, his birthday is nondescript enough that I don't remember it. He remembers it though, and that is what's important.

I've also had dreams where I'm drinking and trying to hide the mini bottles from him. (Towards the end of our alcohol hell, we were buying only mini bottles because 'we' thought it would help 'us' moderate 'our' drinking. I used to hide half of what I bought for myself to make sure H wouldn't drink it while I was asleep.
...not good memories...