Two very different medical problems. Hers undeniably scarier than mine. I'm not making this a pissing contest. There is a personality difference here that I find stark to the point of unbelievability.
And like I said, if i'm wrong, I'm a total dick.
Fair enough. I guess you intended your comments to be more about her personality and subsequent reactions to her treatment and surgery, but that's not how it came across to me. Just because she reacted differently than you did/would doesn't automatically make her a liar.
I am too fucking smart, educated, and talented to spend my workdays making outlook appointments, scheduling travel, and printing off driving directions as someone's assistant. I am reaching a point of total disengagement and it's getting really hard to even pretend like I want to be at work anymore.
This makes me sound incredibly snotty and spoiled, so I'm putting it in a flamefuls.
Are you secretly stpete's houseboy? Do you do laundry and make beds?
(Sorry, not to make light of your frustration; I know the feeling of being underutilized and underestimated)
I am too fucking smart, educated, and talented to spend my workdays making outlook appointments, scheduling travel, and printing off driving directions as someone's assistant. I am reaching a point of total disengagement and it's getting really hard to even pretend like I want to be at work anymore.
This makes me sound incredibly snotty and spoiled, so I'm putting it in a flamefuls.
And another flameful from me is that this job sounds awesome to me! I will take it if you get paid even halfway decently!
$20/hour with no benefits - including no PTO/paid holidays. It's a long term temp job. I'm just bored.
Well it's you versus the keeper of the spreadsheet.
I WIN.
No, she has brought it up before that she was upset Scar said she had cancer when it was "just" a brain tumor and not really cancer.
Wait. I think I remember this. Someone said she had cancer and I just said "No she doesn't. Her tumour was benign". I don't remember anything but a fact correction.
No, she has brought it up before that she was upset Scar said she had cancer when it was "just" a brain tumor and not really cancer.
Well, that's a fair point, right? I don't fault the person being treated for real, actual cancer to side-eye this.
But, correct me if I'm wrong (and I'm sure you will ), Scar didn't know it wasn't cancer until after the operation on her brain. So in the end it meant that she "only" had to go through brain surgery and not additional treatment for cancer, but I'm not sure it merits a side eye because it all effing sucks and it's all frightening to deal with.
I am too fucking smart, educated, and talented to spend my workdays making outlook appointments, scheduling travel, and printing off driving directions as someone's assistant. I am reaching a point of total disengagement and it's getting really hard to even pretend like I want to be at work anymore.
This makes me sound incredibly snotty and spoiled, so I'm putting it in a flamefuls.
Are you secretly stpete's houseboy? Do you do laundry and make beds?
(Sorry, not to make light of your frustration; I know the feeling of being underutilized and underestimated)
No, but if it meant I got to play with her dog and hang out in Florida I'd happily accept that job! Except I suck at laundry and bed making
But, correct me if I'm wrong (and I'm sure you will ), Scar didn't know it wasn't cancer until after the operation on her brain. So in the end it meant that she "only" had to go through brain surgery and not additional treatment for cancer, but I'm not sure it merits a side eye because it all effing sucks and it's all frightening to deal with.
I think this may be correct...but continuing to call it cancer after that is I think what is the dick move Stellas means here. Not that she was a dick for having the surgery.
I didn't realize she's still referring to it as cancer. Cancer scare or brain tumor removal would be much more accurate obviously.
No, she has brought it up before that she was upset Scar said she had cancer when it was "just" a brain tumor and not really cancer.
Well, that's a fair point, right? I don't fault the person being treated for real, actual cancer for side-eyeing this.
It's not as though she had the sniffles and was claiming cancer. She has a tumor in her head that, iirc, they wouldn't be sure was cancerous or not until removed.
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My own flameful: I don't think cowl necks look good on anyone. Every so often it looks okay, but almost any other neckline would look better. I don't get the Target tunic love.
Post by deanlicker78 on Oct 23, 2014 15:31:25 GMT -5
I don't think that because Stellas went through her illness "quietly" that gives her any reason to judge how someone else deals with their very serious illness. Just because that other person gave voice to struggling with their illness doesn't mean shit.
My own flameful: I don't think cowl necks look good on anyone. Every so often it looks okay, but almost any other neckline would look better. I don't get the Target tunic love.
Actually, i was just asking an irl/board friend this - "there they go again! I seriously don't understand why i even bother" friend - i haven't been on, what happened? Me- i know! I'm lonely and am looking for some sort of human interaction.
Was this convo with Otterama? Are you two still tight IRL?
No. It's not. I haven't talked to her in quite a while. It's an active member of this board.
I don't think that because Stellas went through her illness "quietly" that gives her any reason to judge how someone else deals with their very serious illness. Just because that other person gave voice to struggling with their illness doesn't mean shit.
I'm not claiming either way is right or wrong or making any moral distinction whatsoever. I'm just saying that two serious illnesses / medical issues on the boards at the same general time would automatically lead to comparison, because the way they handled things was so pronouncedly different. Don't jump all up in my stuff, man. I'm just saying, I think the comparison is a pretty natural thing, regardless of whether it's right or wrong or etc.
This is a terrible analogy, but it's the first one that comes to mind: It's like old people. My grandmother was in a nursing home, having had a stroke; and her first instinct was to find the other stroke victims and compare herself to them.
I'm sorry if I was jumping all up in your stuff, for some reason unbeknownst to me this has made me very PASSIONATE!!!
No, she has brought it up before that she was upset Scar said she had cancer when it was "just" a brain tumor and not really cancer.
Well, that's a fair point, right? I don't fault the person being treated for real, actual cancer for side-eyeing this.
I really shouldn't jump in here b/c I know nothing about this situation and I am trying to follow and failing.
BUT. I am getting super duper pissed by people throwing out "just" a brain tumor or minimizing it to "real, actual cancer." Like I said, I don't know the specifics of whose medical problem was "worse" and I don't know why someone would refer to a benign tumor as cancer (although people mess this up frequently and just equate tumor with cancer -- happens all the time).
My aunt died of "just" a brain tumor. WAY WAY fucking earlier than she should have. And in the years that she had it before she died it made her life a living hell. Deaf in one ear, equilibrium problems, memory loss, brain chemistry problems (all you folks that benefit from antidepressants just imagine how much fun it would be living with a ticking time bomb in your head and no psychiatrist can get you the right balance of meds to chill you out b/c they don't know what the fuck is going on in your brain). People at her kids school wondering if she was drunk b/c she slurred her words and walked wonky. And then it exploded in her head and killed her.
I know no one is meaning to minimize what it is like to live with or have a brain tumor. It isn't cancer. You know what, maybe if my aunt had had cancer she could have been treated