I have some TMI sex questions re: pregnancy

[sjh722]

Is anyone else HORRIBLY uncomfortable? I might DD this just because I don't want this to live on the internet forever!

I am not that far along (about 18 weeks), but my hips and back hurt all the time. Any position seems to be really uncomfortable. (Here comes the TMI. Stop if you are squeamish, LOL) Me on top makes my hips feel like they're going to pop out of their sockets. Doggie style/kneeling/anything from behind feels like I'm being hit in the cervix repeatedly. I can't move my legs into a position that makes missionary feel good because my hips or back hurt.

Last night I was seriously in tears because I am tired of hurting all the time, and this morning my hips STILL hurt from having sex last night. What gives? Do I have old lady joints or does this happen to other people? Am I in for another 20 +/- weeks of misery and/or chastity? I do not remember this happening last time!!

[sjh722]

Oct 27, 2014 12:42:41 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

 It just felt like there was enough in there already without his penis. Lol

Right, LOL?

And my vagina is even roomier than last time. I know this, because when she was doing my pap smear I thought, "Oh, that's it? You could fit like 2 speculums in there now."

#thingsnoneofyouwantedtoknowaboutme

[Deleted]

I'm trying to remember the timeline. I was on pelvic rest from 8 weeks to 18 weeks. Shortly after that we tried it from behind and it HURT plus I didn't want to prop myself up for too long. Missionary was fine though. I can't remember but I think pillows helped. I'm sorry you're dealing with this so early.

[gibbinator]

I had a ton of pelvic pain around then, but it went away by 25 weeks or so. Then it came later in 3rd tri.
But yeah, I hate pregnant sex the second I start getting a belly. Everything hurts, and no position is comfortable, and it also just stops doing anything for me.

[Deleted]

I have not been able to do any from behind positions since I got PG with DS almost 4 years ago. Something down there shifted and it HURTS now. I'm 19 weeks PG and sex is pretty uncomfortable. I require MOAR foreplay to be comfortable. As far as positions, normal I lay on my back with my butt at the long edge of the bed, and DH stands.

[isabel]

DH and I hadn't had sex in a couple weeks prior to this weekend, but everything had felt fine and normal at that point. Saturday was not fun. Everything was fine until the actual sex started. It was painful! We're going to have to try a different position next time or something, but it was pretty uncomfortable. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

[Deleted]

I don't remember being uncomfortable with my 1st until very late in my pregnancy. This time I'm having a really hard with me on top, I can't even tell you why other then it's uncomfortable and I'm guessing it has to do with my hips and stretching. Ironically I'm still ok with him on top though!

As someone else said try laying on the edge of the bed with him standing up, that helps. Part of me just deals with the pain since I don't know that I could go for the next 17 weeks plus post partum of no sex at all.

[waterchurch]

Once missionary became uncomfortable we switched to either him standing next to the bed with me scooting to the edge, or a variation of a kind of like scissors position. I need some paperclips, I think.

[Brie]

Ugh, it's so bad this time. Last time we went to 41 weeks with no issues. This time the baby is much lower and it just is not comfortable. The last time we had sex I felt like I'd been punched in the crotch for a good 24 hours after. And my hips, pubic bone, and tailbone are just generally a mess this time.

We've basically reverted to everything but. It's temporary, he'll live.

[ewall]

Yes, it's super uncomfortable. Missionary pushes my hips back too far which results in lingering hip pain. Anything from behind is, uh, too deep. Me on top is just okay, not great.

It's disappointing.

[barefootcontessa]

maybe try scissor position.

[GotWine]

I could have written your exact post! Now that I'm nearly 32 weeks it's even more cumbersome and painful. Frankly, we do it so infrequently now since it's no longer fun for either of us.

[sarahsas]

I'm 15 weeks and I'm uncomfortable too but for a different reason, feel like I have to pee constantly, even if I do RIGHT before It sucks. I hope you can find a solution... I just am doing it very infrequently!

[meltoine]

You might try visiting the chiropractor. Your ligaments relax during pregnancy which can make it easier for your joints to come out of alignment. The chiropractor can put everything back in place which may make it more comfortable.