Could your H live without you?

[travelbug]

Could your hubby live without you if something happened to you? IE financially, managing bills, cooking, housework ETC (not meant to sound morbid at all)

[polarbearfans]

Yes. He on the other hand worried about me. He does the bills and cooks the meals. He is convinced I would starve without him.

[HoneySpider]

Yes. He probably wouldn't know all the log ins for bills and such but I'm sure could figure it out.

[marina007]

Yes, but he'd live on takeout and hire a nanny.

[wanderingenough]

Yes, but he would probably live on Chipotle and cereal. He hates grocery shopping and hardly cooks. Cleaning, bills, etc he could manage.

[awick14]

He could but the house wouldn't be as clean. And we isn't as good money wise so he probably couldn't keep our house.

[ewall]

Yes, he can easily handle the cooking and housekeeping. Regarding bills/finances, I have a master Excel workbook with every possible account, log on, due date, serial number, contact info, etc. All he needs to do is break into that and it will tell him everything he needs to know.

[travelbug]

I think it would take mine a lot of time to figure things out. He can cook really well and he could manage the cleaning. Finances/Bill pay might be a little harder since I do all that. ewall that's such a great idea with the book. The longer we are married my H is starting to be more of a self-motivator, but I light the fire under his butt a lot so in that front I think he'd get much more lazy and wouldn't get nearly as much done without me being there for him to cheer him on and motivate him to do certain things.

[Deleted]

He could. He was a bachelor when we started dating. He is our main income and lived in the apartment for years before me. It may be hard since he has become dependent on me in a few ways. I do the cleaning, shopping and cooking. He also misplaces things all the time. Just today I got 2 calls because he couldn't find something. One being the remote and the other was where the Motrin bottle was. I am also the aggressive one so I make sure things get done and it's done right. He lets things slide but if I'm paying for something, it will be to my satisfaction .

[zarapipe]

Yeah he could. With my life insurance he could pay off the house, hire help for the girls and have some extra to help with bills each month.

I hope he would splurge on a house cleaner though bc the house would be trashed.

[estrellita]

Technically yes. But he'd probably get himself into debt again (some of you remember the credit card incident..). He's not too terrible about cleaning and cooking most of the time (and especially lately he's been doing most of it).

[luv2rn4fun]

Yes he could. We live on DH's income only right now and he pays most of the bills and knows when all are due. He does a lot of the outside work (I do too) and his own laundry. The house would likely be a little dirtier and he would live off of oatmeal and peanut butter but he would survive. He was also on his own for many years before we met.

[m1and1m]

I think he would do just fine for himself, day to day. He sucks at details though, and it would bite him in the ass. Kid-related things would be a huge freaking fail, though. He doesn't deal with those things and wouldn't even begin to know where to buys her shoes, what size clothing she wears, her favourite foods, etc.

[krystee]

Yes, especially with my life insurance. If I didn't have that, he'd have to move. But he'd probably never again eat another vegetable, except for the ones in his Chipotle burrito bowls.

[melsamoony]

Yes but he doesn't know the logins for our bills lol.

[mac08]

Oh definitely.  He is more responsible than me and makes more money.  He would need to hire dog walkers though, because he works really long hours.  Now, I do most of the household responsibilities like cleaning, cooking, laundry, dog appointments, but he pays all of the bills.  He would easily be able to take over everything I do, although the house probably wouldn't be as clean.

[christy082]

Yes but he'd live on cereal, PB and J and takeout.

[Deleted]

I think he would be okay without me in terms of practical things. He owned a condo before we got married, and he can handle housekeeping and bills. He hates grocery shopping though, so he'd probably live on takeout and canned goods. I'm pretty sure he'd sell the house right away and get a smaller place. Emotionally...he probably wouldn't do so well.

[bk1]

Yes. He hasn't done the bills in years but he could get use to it. He probably couldn't log into our bank account info though. He should know the password but it terrible at remembering any passwords. He would just go back to living off frozen food.


Emotionally, he wouldn't survive. He considers us 50/50 partners and it would be like half of him died. I don't think he would be able to handle it. Not being morbid, just honest.

[pooh8402]

Absolutely. He worries about me taking care of myself if something were to happen to him. He's in charge of all the bills. I don't know all the logins, bit we have them saved somewhere that I do have access to.

[rockinrobyn]

He would do fine with finding food since he is the one that cooks for me. He would have to move since I am the only one with an income. He did tell me that he would live with his parents and continue going to school. So, his mommy would be taking care of him and he wouldn't have to worry about anything.

[Alyssa]

He could financially because he makes over twice as much as I do.  The house would cave in on itself because he doesn't do anything to maintain it as long as I'm there cleaning up.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Yup, most of his meals would be out or microwavable though.

[grover]

I just asked him- he said no. But only because he couldn't afford everything on his salary since I'm the breadwinner. He does most of the cooking now so he'd be fine on that end.

[krystee]

I just asked H and he said yes. Fortunately he added, "But it would be a very sad and lonely life."