Need advice regarding loss of one twin

[teachermom]

A very good friend off mine announced her pregnancy Thursday. She has had a hard road including an eptopic pregnancy that resulted in the loss of one tube. She confided in me, presumably because I am a twin mom, that she was pregnant with twins but found out Thursday that one did not make it. She is ecstatic about the baby she is having but I know she is sad about the loss. What should I do, if anything, to let her know that I get the magnitude of her loss? Thanks in advance!

[Deleted]

I would not say anything.

[loremipsum]

I would treat it the same way I would treat any pregnancy loss - with a simple but very sincere, "I'm so sorry for your loss."

[origami]

Maybe a card with a nice note about how sorry you are.

[cinnamoncox]

Oh poor woman
I'd just say you're sorry for her loss. Maybe a note.

[macchiatto]

I'm so sorry.
The Center for Loss in Multiple Birth can be a good resource; I'm not sure if she would be open to you mentioning it. I agree that I would treat it like another loss, and also try to remember the little one lost at times in future mentions since the birth, birthdays, etc., will probably have some mixed emotions.

[pittpurple]

I'm not a MoM because of this exact reason so wanted to chime in for a moment. I had a bit of a road and then was pregnant with twins until 14 weeks along. People seemed to assume I shouldn't be sad because I was still pregnant but I really, really was (and still am sometimes). Everyone is different for sure but I really appreciated when people acknowledged that I was a bit sad. Of course happy to be pregnant with my daughter, but I was mourning the loss of my other baby and the picture I had of our future with the 2 babies.