I have a dumb WWYD re: wedding pictures

[melindafelinda]

We are making albums for our parents as thank you gifts. MIL sent me a list of pictures she wants in the album. That is okay. I was originally going to pick the best ones and make that decision myself, but whatever. The problem is, she picked some pretty lousy ones, and neglected to include some of the more major "moments."

I am totally fine with her having whatever she wants, but I know this is the album that will be shown to H's large extended family and I'd rather there be at least some of the good ones in there.

So what would you do? Make the album exactly as she wants? Ignore completely and make it how I want? Mix some of the good ones in with her choices and hope she doesn't get pissed? Not give a fuck about this dumb petty question?

[snipsnsnails]

Pick some and include them in addition to hers.

[baconlettucetomato]

Give her the ones she wants and some of your favorites. If/when she says anything just say "I love them all so much it was so hard to choose!"

[bcv513]

Give her the ones she wants plus some of the good ones. If she questions you, just say you loved them so much you couldn't resist.

[ThirdandLong]

You know your MIL best. If she's the type to flip her shit over her specifications, then you should just go with her list and let her cry later about not getting the good pics. She may have noticed something about the "lousy" pics that you didn't, something special to her.

[melindafelinda]

Okay this is good advice, thank you. And I will just smile and nod when she inevitably says she wants to make another one with only the pictures she wants.

[RBL]

Can you make the album how you want and print some of the not very good picture just for her to have, but not include them in the album?

[VeryViolet]

I typed a nice response that got eaten. Put in what she wants unless you look bad and add the big moments she missed.

[kellbell191]

I would make it how you want and give her the others loose, preferably in a size that won't fit in the album pages.

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Jul 31, 2012 13:30:09 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

Okay this is good advice, thank you. And I will just smile and nod when she inevitably says she wants to make another one with only the pictures she wants.

you can just become selectively deaf!

[melindafelinda]

I feel like she just didn't look close enough at the choices. There will be like 4 versions of a picture and she picks the one where we are looking down, squinting, etc. But I'm afraid of the reaction if I put in something she didn't pick. And having multiple shots of the same picture will look dumb. (It's a printed album, not one where we can remove the pictures.)

[VeryViolet]

Jul 31, 2012 13:37:42 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

I feel like she just didn't look close enough at the choices. There will be like 4 versions of a picture and she picks the one where we are looking down, squinting, etc. But I'm afraid of the reaction if I put in something she didn't pick. And having multiple shots of the same picture will look dumb. (It's a printed album, not one where we can remove the pictures.)

If they are versions of a picture she requested definitely put in the best version. She probably won't even notice.

[fuckyourcouch]

Jul 31, 2012 14:10:40 GMT -5 VeryViolet said:

Jul 31, 2012 13:37:42 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

I feel like she just didn't look close enough at the choices. There will be like 4 versions of a picture and she picks the one where we are looking down, squinting, etc. But I'm afraid of the reaction if I put in something she didn't pick. And having multiple shots of the same picture will look dumb. (It's a printed album, not one where we can remove the pictures.)

If they are versions of a picture she requested definitely put in the best version. She probably won't even notice.

yeah, I'm thinking this. why would anyone want bad pictures on purpose?

[Cayl]

Did she keep a list of the ones that she gave you? If not, when you give it to her gush about how great it came out and how she picked such perfect pictures and make it seem like they all were her choices. If you compliment her hopefully she won't say anything.

[loveablesarah]

This isn't much help, but she may be looking at something completely differnt in the "lousy" pictures than you are. You see squinting, she may be thinking her hair looks great in that one, or the flowers are so pretty. Something dumb.

Can you ask her? Say something like "I was looking at the list you sent me. We are squinting in ABC picture. Would you mind if I used XYZ picture instead?" Or ask her if there is a specific reason she choose the ones she did.

IDK. Knowing my MIL who is a little crazy - I would just do what she wanted and when she realizes the pictures are the "lousy" ones, she can make her own book. Because that is what my MIL would do anyway.

[pantsparty]

Invent the time machine, go back in time and create the album without telling her you are making it.

Otherwise, include her favorites and ones you like as well. Sometimes people don't always like tge best pictures, oddly.

[lyndel]

I would include the ones she wanted and you add a few more in the album. I would say nothing about it and simply give it to her.

[ECB]

Do you really think she'll notice if you use Picture A of Shot 1 vs Picture D?