Post by pierogigirl on Aug 1, 2012 13:13:00 GMT -5
With DS1 I had no preference, but I was thrilled when we found out he was a boy and it felt "right" for lack of a better word. For DS2 I was hoping for a boy because DS1 is so awesome and to be MMM since we had all the stuff.
I had no preference the first time. The second time I was hoping for a second girl, mostly for practical reasons. We live in a small two bedroom house, and if both children were girls we could stay here forever. Eventually we will have to move or add on a room. I also wanted my daughter to have a sister. It wasn't a very strong preference though.
If my first had been a boy I would have wanted my second to be a boy as well.
Post by oregonpachey on Aug 1, 2012 13:19:27 GMT -5
Both times we both were hoping for boys. The first time was because we thought we were one and done. The second time (surprise!) is because we already had all the boy stuff and a small house and wanted them to share a room and stuff.
If we were to have a third, I actually would like a girl. But if it was another boy, I would be thrilled too.
I didn't have a preference, but DH wanted a girl. He is nervous about being a boy dad because he's not really into traditional little boy-type stuff like sports and trucks and outdoorsy things.
I hoped for a girl. I am extremely close to my mother but have no other close female relatives. My sister died when we were kids, my grandmother died young, I have no aunts or female cousins that I am close to, etc. I really value female relationships and worry that I will miss not having a relationship with an adult daughter of my own someday when my mom is gone. I have never really cared about the more superficial stuff--I am sure buying girl clothes and doing "girl stuff" would be fun, but it is not all that important to me in the end. I really just want to know that their will be other women in my life down the line.
I have two boys. They are really, really awesome, and I wouldn't change anything about them. I have made my peace with knowing that it is very unlikely that I will ever have a daughter.
Post by whitemerlot on Aug 1, 2012 13:21:21 GMT -5
I wanted a girl really bad the first time. I'd always imagined having a girl to play tea party with and dress in pretty girl clothes.
I got a boy and absolutely have had a blast with him. I feel like it was really lucky because he loves a lot of the same things my husband is into and is his little guy.
For my second baby, I was hoping for another boy because I had visions of the boys together. I got a girl! I love having one of each now that they're both here and mine. They are both very young, but everything I've ever dreamed of.
Post by kittycatlove on Aug 1, 2012 13:22:39 GMT -5
I always said girl because that's just what I imagined having. We were team green so it really wasnt' that important to know. DS is awesome and now I can't even imagine having a girl. If we weren't one and done I'd totally want another boy.
I had a slight preference for a girl the first time around because, like you, that's what I knew and felt comfortable with. Then I totally fell in love with my baby boy and was happy DS2 turned out to be a boy as well so that they could play together.
I was hesitant when we found out #3 was a girl because by that point I was used to little boys but now I realize how silly that was. I love having a daughter and she's such a sweetheart.
If we were to have another, which is extremely unlikely, I'd really want to have another girl to balance out the family.
Post by definitelyO on Aug 1, 2012 13:37:00 GMT -5
I didn't really have a preference but was probably leaning more girl just b/c I am one. we found out at the 20week that DS was a boy and since then it's been great. and honestly talking with friends who have girls I think that it's easier to have a boy - so much less to worry about with regard to social pressure, body image, attitude, etc... (but that could just be my friend's girls...)
If we have another, I won't care again, but I will want a healthy AND LAZY baby.
OMG, me too. I don't spend any time dwelling on whether this baby might be a boy or a girl. I spend my time hoping for a different newborn "personality." DD was so high-maintenance!
Post by thatgirl2478 on Aug 1, 2012 13:44:12 GMT -5
For the first we didn't care. For our second (if we can ever get there), we're torn. It would be nice to have one of each, but it would also be more MM to reuse DD's clothing stash! In reality we'd be happy with whatever we get .
Post by rubytuesday on Aug 1, 2012 13:45:02 GMT -5
I originally wanted a mix, just so that I could have it all. I was a little shocked that it was all boys but I got over that in no time and it's really been awesome to have all boys.
I'll admit, I was hoping for a boy, since I have a sister and all girl cousins. I'm not girlie at all, so hopefully I can steer her away from pink/glitter/tutus/ ponies...
That said, I kind of hope phantom baby 2 is a girl. I have a great relationship with my sister and would want DD to experience that too.
I switch my preference depending on the day. I always thought I would have a girl so I started wanting a girl. Dh really wants a boy. Now I sometimes think I would want a boy because DH wants one and because my nephew is the cutest thing ever and I am so in love with him. So I think either way I will be happy. I really want to find out though because i wonder if I will believe it is one sex for so long that if it came out different I would just be wierded out by it. Not unhappy just maybe shocked.
With my first pregnancy, I wanted a girl because most of my relatives had girls and I had mostly cousins growing up, and that's what I knew. Also, I'm very close with my mom and sister (we talk everyday), and while DH is close with his mom, they speak 10 minutes once a week or so. I had a boy for my first, and love being the mom of a little boy.
With my second, I thought it would be great to have one of each, had another boy.
Now I can't imagine life without my two little boys.
Post by dancingirl21 on Aug 1, 2012 13:57:49 GMT -5
I am sort of hoping this baby is a boy. In my ideal little world, I'd love to have a boy, then a girl a few years later. I always like the idea of my girl going off to high school as a freshman with her big brother, the senior, there to protect her.
DH hopes for all boys because "he knows what he wanted to do to girls at age 16" and can't imagine having to worry about a daughter all the time.
All that said, we are hoping for a happy, healthy baby (who LOVES sleep like it's mama!) and would be thrilled with either.
The first one, I didnt care. I kind of leaned towards girl because I like princesses, etc. but I knew my .h would adore a boy and he would be the first boy grandchild for the .iLs. But I was truly 50/50 If we have a second, I am torn between wanting another girl (friends, have the stuff, sisters can be so close) and wanting a boy mostly for my H
I want a girl. Not badly enough to keep having kids until we get one, but I want one. I feel like girls take better care of their parents in old age. No, I just really have a great relationship with my mom, and I hope I can have that with a daughter (and/or with my son(s)). I think I'm a pretty awesome woman, and I'd like to pass that on.
But I also feel like I can teach my son to be a great man - to really respect and appreciate a strong woman and an equal marriage.
With the first two I honestly didn't care. With the third I was hoping for a boy. DD and I are extremely headstrong and I thought another boy would even things out. I also thought it would be easier if the middle child was the only girl.
I had no preference the first time. The second time I was hoping for a second girl, mostly for practical reasons. We live in a small two bedroom house, and if both children were girls we could stay here forever. Eventually we will have to move or add on a room. I also wanted my daughter to have a sister. It wasn't a very strong preference though.
If my first had been a boy I would have wanted my second to be a boy as well.
I wanted a boy first because I grew up with an older brother and honestly all my cousins were older brother and younger sister. It is just the family structure that weirdly made sense to me.
With #1, I didn't have a strong preference, but I probably would've picked a girl only b/c my mom was AWFUL and reminded me constantly that my life wouldn't be complete without a daughter. But I love love love having a boy.
The second time around, I'll cop to wanting a girl. Not only did it get my mom off my back, but I grew up with one brother. I think I gravitated toward one of each as my preference just b/c it's most familiar to me.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Aug 1, 2012 14:31:27 GMT -5
Prior to TTC I always saw myself as the mom of a bunch of boys. Then when I got pregnant, I really wanted a girl. I like pink and shoes and girlie stuff, but I also hoped for a girl because SIL has so boys, and the ILs are all quite crazy, and I though if we had a girl our choices in parenting style might not be seen as weird or wrong by the ILs bc it wouldn't be as easy to compare boys to girls, if that makes sense.
I also really see DH with all girls. We would have been happy either way, obviously, but we have DD and she is the greatest. Our baby that m/c was a girl as well, and knowing that at first gave me some peace, but later, gave me lots of anxiety leading up to our A/S for DD.