Post by sallyowens on Nov 27, 2014 15:50:28 GMT -5
I talked to my H about Thanksgiving w his family last night and we agreed that we would go and spend one hour there and then come home. I'm currently sitting in the car with the girls in their driveway. Neither girl would nap while we were at my parent's house, so they fell asleep on the ride over. I'm sure I'll do live updates from inside once they wake up. #dreadingthis
Post by sallyowens on Nov 27, 2014 16:57:10 GMT -5
Well, so far only FIL acknowledged baby/mc...no one else even said hello. E is sort of clingy after being woken from her nap, so we are in the family room by ourselves watching Rudolph. SIL took her daughter downstairs to the basement playroom and didn't even acknowledge my girls at all. H keeps checking in...he knows I'm not really in the mood for this, but he's visiting w all of the adults in the dining room. I already told him the car naps are counting towards our hour.
Post by sallyowens on Nov 27, 2014 17:19:23 GMT -5
Dear God. Now H's aunt and uncle have lost their dog. Ensue massive panic and search parties. We put the girls in the car and are leaving. No one said goodbye. Oye!
Ugh, I'm sorry. I guess that's the best that could have happened (not the dog getting lost, but no one saying anything rude). I wish they'd been nicer to you.
Post by sallyowens on Nov 27, 2014 20:51:22 GMT -5
I am raging! SIL texted my H to complain about my quietness at Thanksgiving. I pretty much lost it on my H. He knew I didn't feel up to being there, but attempted to compromise by going for an hour. I'm so, so upset that she stirred things up this way. I feel like she could have/should have extended some grace to me today knowing that I'm grieving. She knows what this feels like as she lost a baby too and SO much kindness was extended to her while she was first mourning. She never even texted me this week say sorry for our loss or anything. I should have stayed home. I think I have cried a thousand tears tonight.
I'm so sorry Hun. I am raging for you. There were a lot of inconsiderate things said to me after we lost Austin, but they usually came from a place of love and misunderstanding so it was easier to try not to get mad. Your SIL knows better. She's been there, and I'm sorry she's not being there for you. I don't know how close you were before this, but I can't believe the way she is handling herself. Some ppl just don't get it. I think your H needs to set her ass straight.
I am raging! SIL texted my H to complain about my quietness at Thanksgiving. I pretty much lost it on my H. He knew I didn't feel up to being there, but attempted to compromise by going for an hour. I'm so, so upset that she stirred things up this way. I feel like she could have/should have extended some grace to me today knowing that I'm grieving. She knows what this feels like as she lost a baby too and SO much kindness was extended to her while she was first mourning. She never even texted me this week say sorry for our loss or anything. I should have stayed home. I think I have cried a thousand tears tonight.
Oh girl no.
I'm so sorry. I'm not sure how close you are with her but I wouldn't be able to bite my tongue on this one.
I'm so sorry your family isn't being respectful at all during this awful time.
I am raging! SIL texted my H to complain about my quietness at Thanksgiving. I pretty much lost it on my H. He knew I didn't feel up to being there, but attempted to compromise by going for an hour. I'm so, so upset that she stirred things up this way. I feel like she could have/should have extended some grace to me today knowing that I'm grieving. She knows what this feels like as she lost a baby too and SO much kindness was extended to her while she was first mourning. She never even texted me this week say sorry for our loss or anything. I should have stayed home. I think I have cried a thousand tears tonight.
That is unbelievable! I wish I could give you a big hug
I am raging! SIL texted my H to complain about my quietness at Thanksgiving. I pretty much lost it on my H. He knew I didn't feel up to being there, but attempted to compromise by going for an hour. I'm so, so upset that she stirred things up this way. I feel like she could have/should have extended some grace to me today knowing that I'm grieving. She knows what this feels like as she lost a baby too and SO much kindness was extended to her while she was first mourning. She never even texted me this week say sorry for our loss or anything. I should have stayed home. I think I have cried a thousand tears tonight.
I'm so sorry that she caused you pain. Our loss didn't even make the family prayer and it really hurt my feelings. Jeff excuses it because it makes people uncomfortable, but I don't think it is excusable. Family especially should be able to show a little compassion or at least acknowledge that something is wrong. I love you and I hope your night is better. I wish we could drink wine together and braid each other's hair! I also have white chocolate covered Oreos that we could binge eat while watching sappy Christmas movies
Eta: my language got a little colorful so I cleaned it up a bit
I really hope your H put her in her place. I wouldn't be able to hold back, especially with everything you've just gone through!
I'm so sorry for Queen Asshat. You survived it and can hopefully avoid his family for a while now. If nothing else, karma will eventually even the score of her repaying your kindness with inexcusable meanness.