My BIL is engaged

[fuddyduddy]

I can understand your shock/frustration/disappointment/anxiety over the situation. It's hard to watch someone you love make such a monumental decision that has a high likelihood of turning out poorly Hopefully they have a solid relationship and will have a long engagement, although the latter seems doubtful given their seemingly impulsive engagement.

[amaristella]

That's kind of how DH feels when one of his young sailors gets engaged. He counsels them to wait a couple years but they usually won't entertain the idea of taking advice from other people. Sometimes it ends well. Sometimes it doesn't.

All you can really do is give them your best advice and then cross your fingers.

[Deleted]

I'm cringing. Hopefully they make it a long, long engagement.

[sookie]

Aug 2, 2012 14:35:58 GMT -5 Stan said:

They started dating like 3 weeks ago!

I need to stop looking at her FB. Because OMG.

I was hoping maybe it was a "we kept our relationship quiet" thing and you just never noticed, but this doesn't sound promising. Any chance she just got a fb so they just because fb official 3 weeks ago?

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[sookie]

Aug 2, 2012 14:43:09 GMT -5 Stan said:

Aug 2, 2012 14:42:17 GMT -5 sookie said:

I was hoping maybe it was a "we kept our relationship quiet" thing and you just never noticed, but this doesn't sound promising. Any chance she just got a fb so they just because fb official 3 weeks ago?

Nope, she's had an FB for a long, long time. She had her heart broken by some other dude on 15 June.

This is the general face I made when I read that:

[pennylane]

Yikes.

[brandienee]

This makes me sad. He probably just wants the opportunity to have a normal family. Ugh, this is going to be heartbreaking.

[basilosaurus]

Oh, this is going to provide so much amusing fodder for you.

I lost my mom when I was young, and I wanted to create that perfect family at some point that I never got to have. Then I grew up. I hope this kid does, too, without making too many costly mistakes.

[MrsAggie]

:-| Oh dear. This actually breaks my heart. I hope it works out for him but his fiancee already sounds like a gem.

[Jam]

Yikes! I wouldn't be surprised if she nagged him into getting "engaged" like younger girls tend to do these days. Honestly, I wouldn't take it too seriously until they actually start to plan something.
I've seen a couple of people on FB change their status to engaged and I'm sure it's just because they want attention.

I understand the feeling of disappointment though and feeling left out in a way but "kids" these days really just do/post EVERYTHING on fb and think nothing of it. We are from a different era, as silly as it sounds. We still value phone calls and letters. Kids these days really don't.

[MrsAggie]

Aug 2, 2012 20:26:43 GMT -5 Jam said:

Yikes! I wouldn't be surprised if she nagged him into getting "engaged" like younger girls tend to do these days.

What is with this? My 20 year old brother's 21 year old gf wants to get engaged because she feels like "everyone" is getting engaged. ^o)

[prettyinpink]

Aug 2, 2012 20:38:51 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Aug 2, 2012 20:26:43 GMT -5 Jam said:

Yikes! I wouldn't be surprised if she nagged him into getting "engaged" like younger girls tend to do these days.

What is with this? My 20 year old brother's 21 year old gf wants to get engaged because she feels like "everyone" is getting engaged.

Yeah it makes not sense. My FSIL was this way but my brother chicken out the first time and waited another year before proposing. But my God they still have some growing to do and it scares me that they are getting married in just over a month.

[Jam]

Aug 2, 2012 20:38:51 GMT -5 MrsAggie said:

Aug 2, 2012 20:26:43 GMT -5 Jam said:

Yikes! I wouldn't be surprised if she nagged him into getting "engaged" like younger girls tend to do these days.

What is with this? My 20 year old brother's 21 year old gf wants to get engaged because she feels like "everyone" is getting engaged.

I think it relates to the fact that these girls want some type of fairy tale/happy ending romance like the ones they see in movies or read about in magazines. It makes them feel like grown ups or superior to their other female friends because their relationship is "more serious" and "meaningful".

If i can be frank, I really don't think the female brain is fully developed until she's over 23 and I'm being generous with that LOL.

I hope no one is offended by my opinion, but (in my experience) girls under a certain age group are still living in lala land when it comes to relationships. They don't realize how much WORK, time and energy actually goes into making something last, especially when you're that young. You're still growing and if you don't handle it the right away, chances are you and your partner are going to grow APART.

[Jam]

Aug 2, 2012 21:51:49 GMT -5 Stan said:

Oh, I don't care about not being involved. I was just trying to be diplomatic with my shock.

Haha okay then nvm

[letsbeawkward]

Heartbroken by another dude on June 19?! = my mind blown

[sookie]

Aug 2, 2012 22:36:35 GMT -5 letsbeawkward said:

Heartbroken by another dude on June 19?! = my mind blown

Calm down E! You're missing a whole 4 extremely important days!

[ilovelamp]

Aug 2, 2012 22:49:06 GMT -5 sookie said:

Aug 2, 2012 22:36:35 GMT -5 letsbeawkward said:

Heartbroken by another dude on June 19?! = my mind blown

Calm down E! You're missing a whole 4 extremely important days!

You made me laugh after an extremely shitty night. I thank you for that.

[letsbeawkward]

Aug 2, 2012 22:49:06 GMT -5 sookie said:

Aug 2, 2012 22:36:35 GMT -5 letsbeawkward said:

Heartbroken by another dude on June 19?! = my mind blown

Calm down E! You're missing a whole 4 extremely important days!

HahhhhhM :heart: you Sook